Is it true that love fades?

Philippines
November 3, 2008 2:38pm CST
i just wonder if love really fades? i got a friend who have been into a relationship for almost 10 years. she told me that they broke up just recently. when i asked why she said that love fade? is love really fades? i hope to hear your comments. thanks
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@SultanaH (80)
• Hungary
12 Nov 08
It doesn't take much work to fall in love, but it takes a lot of work to stay in love. They say, "familiarity breeds contempt", the longer you know a person the easier you get annoyed or disgusted by the person's behaviour of which you do not like. With that said, staying in love needs work to keep it fresh and alive. It takes a little bit of work to tell yourself to overlook the bad attitudes of the other and concentrate on the good ones that you fell in love with. I'm not saying to keep on absorbing. It takes compromise from both sides I suppose. To tell the other what you don't like in the other and try to change for the other. Things like that. Love needs sacrifices sometimes. It also needs respect. Respect each others' privacy and space. You cannot be together all the time. If you are not willing to work to maintain the love (flirt,gifts,dates,understanding, respect etc)and sacrifice a little, yes, love fades.
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Hellow SultanaH, I think your response is the second best response so far. You are right it takes two to tango. Both should work hard in order to have a fruitful relationship binded with love, care, respect and trust. Without one of those the relationship will not work. I just wonder if couples are like what we thought of maybe the word "divorce" will never be there. Thanks.
• Hungary
14 Nov 08
Perhaps people should just take "divorce" out of the options to take when things do not go right in their relationships. If the option is not there, people don't take it. This one was an advice from Will Smith. I think there's a lot of truth in it. Sometimes couple fight for the most absurd things you ever heard of and divorce, simply because the option of divorce is there. Because it's easier to divorce than sit down and reconcile, find better understanding to the real problem that made them feel no love any longer and repair it. Just sad that some people use "separation" as the only solution to most of marriage or relationship problems.
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
hellow sultanah, you are right since divorce exists couple tends to put it as an option when things go wrong similar with separation. i also believe when couple talks about the issue, reconcile, seek forgiveness and committed not to make the same mistake again then all problems will be solved. however it is said that in every rule there is an exemption, i think ( i might be wrong) the thing that can separate husband and wife is infidelity. means that if one is having an affair with another person while he/she is still binded with marriage. i think i have to make another discussion about infidelity. happy posting
• United States
4 Nov 08
People are constantly growing and changing and in that love can fade in a relationship. More than likely though there were issues that caused the love to fade slowly for years before the actual breakup.
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
i agree. another factor would be unresolved issues between the couple. if these issues have not been resolved over time it will contribute to weight of the argument and that will lead to break up in the long run.
@annierose (16539)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Sometimes eventhough two persons got involved in a relationship for so many years, it is not an assurance that their love is so strong that it cannot change.Just take for example some married people. They might spend long time in a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend and then decide to marry. But after a number of years, they can both decide to have a divorce. Yes, it is proven true that love really fades.If lovers always do what they are normally doing, it is somehow makes the relationship a little bit boring.For example,if lovers are always arguing in same thing over and over again, then it will lead to lesser love each day.Same thing if their relationship is always calm and peaceful. A relationship can be compare to the food we eat. Sometimes we do not like the food we eat maybe because of lack of some ingredient or maybe too much of some ingredients. If we put just the exact amount of ingredients on it, then it will taste better.A kind of food which we always eat and just have ordinary taste can be more delicious if we try to do some experimenting on it like adding some ingredients which may not be on its recipe but can be added. Relationship can be like that. I believe that is a good thing if lovers know different ways in which to make their love more constant and stronger even as they both grow old.
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
hellow annierose, i like your name its the combination of my name and my best friends name. just an off topic. cant help myself not to let you know. i agree to your statement it is just adding spices to the relationship. if it becomes a routine time will come that you both will feel fed up. similar to plants relationship needs to be nourished and taken cared of in order to bear good fruits. thank you for sharing
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
Depends... but most of the time, it doesn`t totally fades... what I mean, you might have tried forgetting it, but there will come a time that it will come back.
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
but how if you are into a new relationship, does it mean that the feeling will also get back after some?
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Maybe.. I don't know.. I believe that if you really love that person so much your love for him won't fade away but it grows deeper and deeper.. I think your friend don't really love her boyfriend since her love had just fade away.. Or maybe she found another love already that is why the love for her boyfriend had fade... I am in a relationship right now for almost 4 years.. I know that it isn't that long but I know that being with him for almost 4 years, my love for him keeps on growing.. There is no day that I felt that I don't love him already or my love for him had fade already.. I know that every day goes by being and not being with him, I still madly in love with him.. I guess it depends on how strong your love to your partner.. If your love for him isn't that strong then maybe your love will just fade a way for no reasons at all but if you have faith in it and it is very strong then no matter what difficulty will comes your love for him/her still grows..
@deaneal (12)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Love is an emotion as well as a choice. The emotion can change from time to time, but if you make a decision to love someone, it carries you though the tough times and keeps you from making a stupid mistake for a temporary issue.
@Jezebella (1447)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I don't think that true love would ever fade. You just need to really work at it and make an effort to keep the love fresh. I believe that love can plateau and seem to fade, but it really doesn't. My boyfriend and I work hard at our relationship and I don't think our love will "fade."