The problem with too many friends

@fwidman (11517)
United States
November 3, 2008 8:03pm CST
I have a lot of friends here on mylot, and I have a very good time with them all. But, I didn't realize just how many friends I had on here until just a little while ago when I went to start turning the notifications off so my mailbox won't overflow while I am away for a week. I don't know how all them people got on my list So tell me, how many friends are on your mylot friends list and how many of them do you receive email notifications for saying they started a new discussion? I know that, until I return, there will only be one user I get notified for and that's ShellyB. I left her on because I know there will be the dickens to pay if I come back and miss any of her discussions
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21 responses
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Oh I see how it is....I really really feel the love. This is what I came back for? To be told how unimportant I am? Sheesh.... And here I was trying to make you a nice picture of some purple heels for you. I am sooooo ofended right now. Wow, just wow. And here I had stopped training the squirrels to attack. You had better be ready to cause I am soooo going on you!!!
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Oh no! It had to be done, my friend. Honestly, it did. Don't get them squirrels back to training or go I needed to do it tonight because I will probably be too busy tomorrow to do much of anything other than prepare my suitcase and pester Shelly so she won't miss me too much
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
4 Nov 08
My friend? My friend? You have the nereve to call me that after saying that you don't care that you will miss my discussions while you are gone??? The nerve of some people!!! Just for that I don't want to reading any of my discussions anyway! UGGGGGGGGG. I am going to growl at you now GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
ROFLMAO! I will read them when I return from Seattle, silly No growling is required. Besides, I am sure that Shelly will read them while I'm gone and offer you wonderful and smart responses
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@jnk3dfx (721)
• India
4 Nov 08
I have 140 friends in Mylota and for most of them i have kep notification alerts to my mail box. Even though its over fludding my mail box, but as i will check my mail box every now and then i will keep deleting those alerts after i check those in mylot. So its never been a problem for me to have more number of friends. One day I would definately like to have more than 500 friends in Mylot. Its good to have huge number of friends as they are the one who responds to our discussions also they will keep our discussions active most of the time. So i will not mind even its fludding my mail box. Fwidman its a good discussion you have started, to make others alert about these options, because most of the people are not aware of these alerts system, as they dont check thier mail boxes. Anyways thanks for starting discussion, have a nice and bright day ahead. Sayanara. Regards, Jnk3dfx.
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Thanks, jnk3dfx Normally I check my email every ten minutes or so. But since I will be offline for a week I won't have that luxury. And since some of the emails I get are business related and make me money I cannot afford to have my mail shut off by Verizon while I am away
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@jnk3dfx (721)
• India
4 Nov 08
Ohh. In that case its a wise decision to turn off alerts for few days. After all you can tur it on anytime isnt'it. At the moment it will be good for you. No need to keep my discussions alerts active he hee . Anyways, best of luck for you business. Have a nice day ahead. Regards, Jnk3dfx.
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@vera5d (4007)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I don't read any of my mylot notifications at all anymore. I really have too many mylot friends also but I like them all so don't mind :) I just am too busy with my kids and my sites though to let myself get distracted by mylot discussions. I haven't been on here at all much lately, i try to just visit for a little bit each week and see what i have been missing...lots and lots!
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Some things are more important than mylot discussions, like kids and working
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Hey fwidman! I have a whole lot of friends, but I don't get all the notifys or my mailbox would colapse! I only get a few peoples email notifications and I have no idea why I don't get the others. I don't know if they don't have me turned on and that's why or they just don't work! I think that was a good idea though for you to turn them off while you are gone! Just don't forget to turn them back on when you get home! I would hate to miss your discussions! I hope you have a wonderful trip and enjoy the wedding and the train ride! See you when you get back!
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Not to worry, they will be turned back on just as soon as I get home. Well, maybe not that quickly, but soon after I get home
@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Goodness I have lots of them in my list I can't count them. I add new friends everyday! But I turned on notifications for at least 5 people. These are the people that I knew from another site or my first few friends here in myLot.
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Those five must be very special
4 Nov 08
Hi fwidman, Well it will keep you busy won't for when you come back and it will keep you quiet for while, well have a nice time at he wedding, and see you soon. Tamara
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I didn't want to turn the notifications off, but I had to. Otherwise the mail server would get all clogged up and Verizon would stop collecting all my emails What if someone was paying me? I'd never know! As soon as I get back I will turn the notifications back on and all will be well
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@Rosekitty (19443)
• San Marcos, Texas
4 Nov 08
I have about 140 friends and i'm sure half don't post anymore so am going to do a major overhaul and delete..I only get about half of the half emails since i turned most of them off and go to friends started to find the ones i don't get their discussions..some emails notifys i never get of friends.. I'm sure if Shelly posts it will be from missing you.. huggs and have fun on that train
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I do hope she doesn't drive everybody crazy because she misses me Maybe she will post lots of stuff though and not have such a tough time making payout this month since I will be gone and she'll have the computer to herself
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@littleowl (7157)
9 Nov 08
I have a few pages of friends but have never looked to see how many, yet I do know that I have to turn some of them off at times otherwise my inbox would be overloaded to but I still have many discussions to answer hopefully I will get round to doing it sometime but 200 odd is a lot for me to master!! LOL littleowl
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I know what you mean. I have a couple of friends that seem to come on here determined to fill my mailbox with notifications of discussions they have started. But, I do try to keep up with them all, as best I can
@littleowl (7157)
14 Jan 09
Thanks for the BR fwidaman that was very kind of you..hugs littleowl
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Me? I am a sweet sweet sweet woman
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Yes, you really are
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
5 Nov 08
And don't you forget it.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I have 64 friends and a few pending. I have my notifiactions on on all of them but I don't think I get all of them like I should. Have a great trip.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I don't know why the notifications don't always get through, must be a glitch somewhere. Thanks, I will do my best to have a great trip
@camomom (7537)
• United States
4 Nov 08
You're welcome
@romfreak (40)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I've joined recently so I don't have many, So I am not having that problem yet
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I saw that on your profile page. But, soon you will have many friends to read
• United States
5 Nov 08
Thanks, I hope you are right
• United States
10 Nov 08
I have just under 10 friends.... I don't receive emails or notifications from any so what's the use in having them as friends? Just kidding... I havn't gotten any notifications since I joined... i think mylotters are trying to see how many friends that they can gain.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
12 Nov 08
On any social networking site like this, there are always people that want to see if they can get the most friends. Seems silly to me, but if it makes them happy then good for them. I'd rather spend my energy answering discussions
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I know what you mean I was checking my friend list an have 5 pages worth an I have a hard time answering everyone an while you are away for your week have a great time an your mylot friends will be here waitting for you when you get back
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Thanks, Enola. I am back and have way too many things to do to try and catch up to everything. But, given Time and energy I will hopefully catch up to all the imprtant stuff in a few days
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
5 Nov 08
I have 41 friends and I have my notifys turned on but still dont get notified when they start new discussions.I just come here when I get a cahnce and see who started discussions and respond to as many as I can while here,I have dialup so the computer isnt to fast but I do the best I can.You have a great week and I love the new heels.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Even with DSL it is sometimes hard to keep up with things. But, the best we can do is all we can do Those heels are rather interesting and cute.
• United States
5 Nov 08
I'm thinking you actually consider these internet friends real friends. I appreciate comments from people on the internet but if I'm probably never going to meet them in person I don't think I consider them real friends. They are plain and simple just internet friends and I'm sorry but I wouldn't put allot of stock into these kinds of friendships. I mean if you get busy and don't have time to answer emails or contact them; I mean is it really of that dire importance. I love my fellow man in general. Do I like my fellow man well that's another ? to ponder. lol Do I care if I answer someone's email I don't know and probably never will meet. Well I got to many things to do to worry about this.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Well, I have met a few of my online friends through the years. I also married a woman that was an online friend So, yes, I do consider them to be friends. But, I do not answer every email notification that I get from these friends. I do have other things in Life to worry about, like my family.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I have one friend, that I have an notification turned on when they decide to make an discussion. I have about 1,000 friends here on myLot..
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
1000? That is a lot of friends Hard to keep up with that many, I bet!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Oh man. I have tons and tons of friends on mylot, mostly because I accept friend requests BECAUSE I am a friendly person AND this is a social site. I don't have every single notify turned on, I started out having all of them turned on but that was back when I had about 25 friends. I think I have more than 11 pages which must be what, 200? I don't have any 'system' to what I answer, which I know is frowned on by some folks but I'm simply not that organized. I have a yuwie page too and I had friends there who had a whole written system to how they managed to visit 10K people. I bow to their greatness. Have fun while you're gone from mylot, I will miss your discussions and your comments in mine
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I have 18 friends pages. Imagine having all those notifications on? I rarely have turned down a friend request. As you say, this is a social site and one must be sociable and have friends I will miss mylotting while I am gone, that's for certain. I spend a lot of time on here every day. Maybe the spirits in the house will visit mylot while I am gone
• China
4 Nov 08
I have only one friend on mylot. I would be glad if you can be my friend. :) I'm a newbie here.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I left you a friend request
@subha12 (18453)
• India
4 Nov 08
it is true. but i have many friends a swell. i have not put notify on for all. otherwise the mailbox will just flow.try to keep it for few. you can anyway visit discussion started by my friends section
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I don't normally have all of my friends turned to on, but I had a lot of them on. When I return from my trip I will go back through the list and turn them back on again
@yangshuai (136)
• China
4 Nov 08
concerning my friends on my list,one part is i added them actively,the other part is they added me.no matter which way adding each other,i think it should be honest.if somebody get me into unfriendly space,that really get on my nerves.so don't send spam mails to other.that might hurt more or less.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I really don't like spam emails all that much but I really don't like them when friends send me spam