anorexia

United States
November 3, 2008 8:34pm CST
I think my 14 year old daughter may be making herself throw up after she eats. I have asked her about tis but she denies it. My friend tells me that my daughter is allways telling her she feels fat. My daughter has never weighed more than 120 lbs and she is 5'8", she is really skinny. I noticed within the past mnth or so she has been eating alot less and saying she is just not hungry, and she runs right back upstairs right after she eats. she said she is getting on the computer so I started going up with her and just doing things upstairs. The other night I had company so I stayed down and she came down brushing her teeth. I dont know what to do to help her. I know that it is verry serious, I can watch her clsely when she is here but not when she is away from home.
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@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
4 Nov 08
This is serious, its a medical problem. I would suggest taking her to a doctor and talking to them. She can die from this, she can also wreck her health in other ways. She needs medical treatment. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you and your daughter. I just said a prayer for her.
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• United States
4 Nov 08
thank you so much polly. I really hope that I am wrong. I appreciate the prayer very much.
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@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Your very welcome. I hope you are wrong too. But its better to be safe then sorry.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I found this site that may help you to determine if she does have an eating disorder. http://www.something-fishy.org/ At 120 and 5'8", I know she has got to be really thin, but some people are thin. I was 115 and 5'6" when I was a teenager, and I ate a lot, just I couldn't gain weight..I also would take her to her doctor for a checkup, letting the doctor know your concerns..Because if she does have a problem, the sooner it is dealt with, the better..I will be praying, because at 14, your daughter is moody and changing very quickly, she may need counseling to help her understand her changing body..
• United States
4 Nov 08
Thank you I will look at that website. We are all really skinny, even her dad. I try hard to put on weight and it is work to keep it on. Thank you also for your prayers.
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• United States
4 Nov 08
Wow, the whole family is skinny? It was my Dad I took after, and like I said, I was skinny, but as a teen, I didn't think I was, but I also didn't care, I guess I loved food more than how I looked.. But some kids do care and another suggestion for your daughter is to talk to her and ask her if she thinks she is overweight, why not start eating right? (some foods actually help you lose weight)..Have her go vegetarian, making sure she eats enough beans and peanut butter for protein..Tell her that is natures way of staying in shape along with not having large portions..Go online together and find for her height,weight and age, what is a portion for her. Make goals, maybe she needs to feel in control, so if she plans her meals, then she is in control, and eating right...I hope this helps, if she isn't already too involved in trying to loss weight, this might work... Also, exercising..Toning up muscles not only look better, but make you look slimmer..
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• United States
16 Dec 08
Thanks for the BR, I hope everything has turned out for you and your daughter..
@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
People with this kind of problem do not really accept that they have anorexia... it is what they call the denial stage... as a mother... i think you should act fast before it is too late... get her the necessary help she needs... and try to find out the root cause of this problems... For teenagers... this usually stem from peer pressure... so good luck to you... and i hope your daughter gets well soon...
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• United States
5 Nov 08
thank you. She is moving in with me starting this weekend. So I will be right on top of it.
@ltsaxcash (197)
• United States
4 Nov 08
it sounds more like bulimia than anorexia. A good way to check for bulimia is checking to see if her teeth are eroded. If you can't get her to admit she has a problem try showing her horror stories about people with the same disease. This can get really serious (like kidney failure serious)
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• United States
5 Nov 08
thanks, I read the difference and it does sound like bullemia.
@jesus777 (664)
• Bermuda
4 Nov 08
father god in the name of jesus i lift up lady bug daughter before you right now in jesus name i ask that her heal her from the inside out and help her to know she is loved and cared for by you and her mom jesus i ask that you helped this mother to do the right and say right thing help her with this issues that she is facing with her daughter nothing is to hard for jesus nothing is impossible for you to jesus so i pray that you move by your holy spirit and that the bond between mother and daughter will be streghtheend in the name of jesus christ i pray amen and amen!!!! happy mylotting chow for now i will continue to pray for you anf your daughter that things will work out in jesus name!!!!!
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• United States
4 Nov 08
Thank you jesus 777. I truely appreciate the prayer.
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I think that you might absolutely be right, and if you are, you really do need to do something. Take her to counseling, or some kind of help, take her to a hospital if you can. You need to get more evidence though, so make sure you're right. I hope she really isn't doing that! Tell her she's really beautiful the way she is, anything will help. Maybe her friends will know.
• United States
4 Nov 08
Thank you, She does have alot of issues going on in her life right now, she lives with her dad but she is moving back in with me next week. I will talk to her friends thanks for the idea. I tell her all the time how beutifull she is inside and out, but you know kids. She promised me she wasent but I really think she wouldnt admit it. I am going to let her go up and waita few minutes and sneak up. If she is I know that it is really serious aand I will ned to get a professional to help.