Do you have their permission?

@SaintAnne (5453)
United States
November 4, 2008 3:10pm CST
When you post their pictures here on myLot? I'm talking about your daughters, your sons, your family and friends for all of myLot to see? I know this is a sharing and also a networking site but it is not like we can choose who can look at the pictures we posted and whatnot. I must admit I didn't ask Boyfriend if I could post the pictures he was in with me. I almost don't want to find out what his reaction would be if I tell him. Have you ever had a family member or friend post a group picture on the internet that has you in it (without letting you know) and you didn't like it? Just something to think about, I guess.
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@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
4 Nov 08
This is why I dont post personal pictures. i would mind If I saw my pic somewhere on the internet and Im sure most of the people I know would mind too. Besides I do not trust internet enough to post anything personal on it, acccept if it was some personal side, where you could choose who is going to see your personal stuff.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Yes, I do post personal pictures and with people I know but that is on sites where the people who has access to my site are those that I trust and okayed to be my friends. I hope they're all just looking at the pictures and not doing something funny at all. Thanks, mojcica.
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
13 Nov 08
Aww thanks for BR!
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
14 Nov 08
You're very welcome, mojcica.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
5 Nov 08
I haven't post any photos of friends and family on the net and to be honest I don't know how, lol. But if I know and I'm going to, I will ask their permission first as much as I would like my family and friends to ask me. I don't know of anyone that has post my photo on the internet.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Well, if you want to, let me know, maybe I can help out, CJay. But back to the subject, it's fun to share these personal pictures especially if you share it with those who are in the pictures. That's what I want. Sharing it with those I really know and such. Thanks, CJay!
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
5 Nov 08
[i]Hi Anne, I have tried posting without asking their permission! LOL! I do know also if they will love it! LOL! But, here in mylot, I haven't tried posting any pics of a friend or family member! I love posting pics of food and places here![/i]
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I've seen your pictures, checapricorn and they always make me hungry.
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• United States
6 Nov 08
me too Anne, that is why I am posting that so when I have only noodles, I will only imagine those food! hahahhaha!
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Noodles are yummy too. If you put ramen in your pictures, I would still drool.
@drannhh (15229)
• United States
4 Nov 08
They had better not post any pictures, as when you do that you do put the people at risk of identity theft. People often do not realize how widely available personal information they post including photos can become. They just don't think. Just like a real "dark alley" the information highway is beset with robbers and worse. Everything we do online can be traced by just about anybody to an IP address and from there possibly to a real address. It is AMAZING how much personal information one can come up with just "Googling" various keywords taken from things myLot users say.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Yes, I was shocked to see my personal details just "Googling". I was scared at first specially after seeing the movie, The Net. All her account details were traced then the "thieves" tried to steal her identity from her. So we better be careful on what we say, write or post/upload on the net, since it's widely available around the globe. it's fun making profile, putting pictures, meeting new friends, joining conversations... but then there are risks like you said. These pictures that we uploaded might come back to us on scary ways. Hey, drannhh. Thanks for reminding me. I'll be more careful on what pictures I post even in my friendster account, hehe!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Hey drannhh. I was actually thinking of your post on my way back home from work last night. I realized you had posted a similar discussion about the risks of putting personal information online. I like this dark alley of an information highway that you said. Once it's out there in the internet, no matter how much you've made it "safe" or removed it from that source site, it is still out there. You never get to breathe a sigh of relief anymore. I enjoyed The Net too. But I'm more scared just watching all those dateline segments about identity theft and cyber"robbing" in real life. You have a different avatar again but this time I didn't panic. I knew it was you. Thanks, drannhh.
• United States
5 Nov 08
I did post one picture of my daughter that I asked her permission to use. Only because if she came across it, I didn't want her to be upset about the use of it. I needed it for a wedding dress picture. She agreed to let me use it because I made it small enough, and blurred it just enough that the faces cannot be clearly seen. Any others that I might have posted here, were already online in the other person's my space albums. There are pictures of my family all over the place in line. Unless it is a picture that the person might object to, I don't really ask because, like I said, most of them are scattered around the net anyway.
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• United States
5 Nov 08
Oh, sorry for repeating myself.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I am one to blur faces in my pictures too in a public site such as this, bohemianheart. I also post pictures with me posing from afar so you can hardly see my smiling face. Thanks for sharing!
5 Nov 08
For the most part I don't ask people if I can post pictures I have of them. My friends and family don't have any issues with it. They know when I take pictures I'm going to post them. I had a friend who didn't like their pictures or their childs pictures posted so I didn't post them out of respect. I also had a friend ask me to remove one picture of him and I did - he didn't like the pose lol. I removed it of course. I have people post pictures of me and I don't have an issue with it. It's sharing memories that I like and I'm not opposed to people posting my picture. There are websites that have policies that if you own the picture you are free to post no matter if someone likes it or dilikes it. But out of respect I don't post pictures of people who don't want their pictures posted online.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
People don't want their pictures online, not only because of the bad angles or poses but also because they do not want their identities out there for others to steal. Identity theft through the internet is on the rise. Thanks, pinkpassion and it is considerate of you to remove those pictures your friends and people you know don't want you to.
• United States
5 Nov 08
I try not to post any personal pics on the internet. I was told by a friend that their are people out there that just copy peoples pics and names and any personal info that they can and that is how identy theift starts. I mean say you post your pic on this site and then in one of your discussions awhile later you talk about your daughters school. Then, in another your town. Now, I know what town and your pic and who your daughter is. So, if you are near me I could drive around that school see you and your daughter and follow you home and from there. Anything! that is why I don't put pics or personal on the internet. the friend that told me had gone to prision for Identy theift she had been doing it for over 10 years and the only way they caught her is she turned herself in.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
This is what I am wary of, Carpathian. Not a lot of people pay attention that what they think is harmless could turn harmful, very harmful. I've read of people's experiences and how it took them years to get their lives back because of identity theft and cyberstalking turning into real-life stalking. Thanks for sharing.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Well first of all when you say sons and daughters for the most part I think of the younger ones, under 18 who have no say as you being the parent. Now for the others, I would have to say that I would wonder and worry about family and friends posting pictures... I don't post a picture of anybody without their permission, I don't think it's right to do so. I do post pictures of our pets, but that is a different story as pets can't really say whether they want you to post their picture or not, just like they can't say they like or dislike the camera too much. Note : Unless they run away from it, or give you an evil look!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I have taken hundreds of pictures of our dog. I can't help it. She is just way too photogenic and cute and the pictures always make me happy. Thanks, SomeCowgirl. Scoop, why do the poses all have to be suggestive, huh? They're just cute poses.
@wujinbo (341)
• China
5 Nov 08
i dont like it,the internet is freedom ,but it must obey the rule and the law.without the permition and the internet is a public ,you must have some pracacy,so you have the right to keep your pracacy.......
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
People have every right to keep their privacy and it is also their responsibility for it to remain private. But sometimes one can only do so much. I hope families and friends realize that some people don't really take too well to having their pictures out there. Thanks for responding, wujinbo.
• United States
5 Nov 08
well i think just as every one else probably thinks but they do not notice it. you always lke to look at pictures of other epolpe and you could care less who they are right? but when you see and familiar face you get aggitated for some reason that makes no sense it would seem , but in fact when you are pictured on the internet and have had no idea of it nothing is the matter, it is not like he whole world is looking for you or is going to look for that guy or girl who had a stupid look upon thier faace at that party last week or something, . just somwething to nibble on.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
It's not only about that, vladigibbs. I know that not everyone cares about other people's pictures but there are some out there who do use these pictures with bad intentions. Identity theft is on the rise and not to mention, people who find it arousing just looking at certain pictures online. Thanks for responding!
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 08
Hi SaintAnne, I value my privacy very much, and I'd hate to have my picture posted on the net, without my permission. I would be very upset! That's why I don't post pictures of family or friends - only things.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Good for you, lazeebee. In public sites like myLot, I try to post personal pictures of me to show the "human" side but it's quite a distant shot. We have little left of our privacy in this world today that it is good to value it very much! Thanks!
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Well typically i post family photos on myspace.com for my family and friends. My profile there is set to private. If a family member/friend makes it clear they don't like their pictures up i will remove the photos. Because i understand that some people don't like their photos on the web. So they stay on my computer till i print them for my album ;) By the way i never posted photos of family or friends if they are considered by them to be embarrassing, or if i would consider them embarrassing if i were the person in the picture.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I am happy to know that you also think this, nadooa. I've passed up posting good pictures of myself (and they don't come too often!) because the others in the pictures ask me nicely not to or that I see that they wouldn't really like the way they looked in the picture. I hope others would think this way too. Thanks for sharing!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
5 Nov 08
There are a number of photographs of me on various sites and thankfully I was well aware of most of them being posted because they are related to corporate events and oublic speaking engagements etc. There are though a number of pictures that I only just saw recently that I had no idea whatsoever were placed online. These were put on a social site by a friend of mine and although I don't have any issues with the context of the pictures I would have preferred if he had of let me know before doing it! I think that it is a common courtesy to do this. I do not put pictures of people up on the net and if I were going to, I may not seek their permission first but I would definitely inform them that they were there. If they asked me to remove them, then I would. It's like intellectual property in a sense and they have every right to dictate the use of content with them in it.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Another post well said, James. That and I'm tired so I don't think I need to add anything else to another good post.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
5 Nov 08
That's a valid point you made there. I have always made sure to ask my friends and family before posting their snaps.. That includes my close friends, sisters, nieces, nephew, BILs. But when it comes to my parents,I do not take their permission. I remember once they found out their snap while I was networking and they were so happy. I am sure they wouldn't say NO. But I must ask them as well. I do not mind much if my family post my photos if its a good one or else I would mind. But I am sure they wouldn't post anything too candid about me.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
I don't really ask permission all the time but I just make sure that they know that it's out there and only those that need to see the pictures get to. If they ask me to remove it, I would. I don't mind if they post bad pictures of me, I'm almost always the one making faces and elaborate poses anyway. It's cute that seeing their pictures online made your parents happy. Thanks, mou.
@yangshuai (136)
• China
5 Nov 08
before posting a picture,i will ask them first.after all,once you show the picture to all in the mylot,you can't get it back.but have you ever thought of their take?if the host of the picture think that hurt him or her,what's to be done? and what's happen next? complaining about you,arguing to you.that's too late.and that will come to negative efforts.so before the inconvenience comes up to you,talk to them.inconvenience is avoidable.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Yes, yangshuai. I agree with you. I don't think there's any harm at all at asking first. I think everyone would appreciate it. Thanks for responding!
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
5 Nov 08
I had a falling out with a friend that posted pictures of me and my family AFTER I told her not to. She still went ahead and posted them and I got upset and posted a comment for her to delete it. She got angry because she thought her friends saw my comment and was embarrassed about it and so it started an arguement between us. I apologised for posting the comment but like I had told her, she should not have posted them even when I said not to. Even though we do talk from time to time, our friendship is not the same and even though I have apologised, she never did for posting the pictures.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Hello, maddysmommy. I apologize it took me this long to comment back. Just busy, busy, busy. I am sorry to hear about your falling out with your friend. If we think about it, people may find such quarrel petty but it's not really. I would have felt upset like you did especially since she did AFTER being told not to. It's you and your family in that picture, not hers. Take care.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
Yeah, you're right SaintAnne, I have posted photos of my family and chums without asking their permissions. They were so surprise to see their grinning faces online. I also have photos published by my kids without asking my permission but it's just okay with me...We all find them cool!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Nov 08
Just as long as everyone knows and is cool about the whole picture thing. Thanks, mjmlagat. See you around.
• United States
4 Nov 08
I haven't posted any photos on here, but I have posted some on another site. I generally don't post photos with human subjects in them; that makes things a lot easier for me.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Nov 08
I like taking pictures with nature as the subject too, wilsongoddard. That, I don't mind sharing with everyone just as long as they don't try to claim the photos as their own. Take care and thanks!