Should youu try to rebuild a broken relationship?

United States
November 5, 2008 5:04am CST
If your husband or wife has an affair is that the end of the relationship? Or should you try to rebuild and repair the damage done? If you do decide to rebuild the relationship who is responsible for seeing that it is done?
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4 responses
@roque20 (518)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
It can be rebuild,it depends if both party still love each other,if they still love each other then why not rebuild?its nice to have a happy family or a nice relationship with your partner or fellow.If i can i will rebuild that relationship,i can be bridge to rebuild relationship,i will do anything for the common good of a relationship because no one dont like a happy life,right?so lets fix it and everybody will be happy.Happy posting!
• United States
7 Nov 08
I think trust is the hardest part of a relationship to rebuild.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
5 Nov 08
It is up to both parties if the want to repair the damaged relationship. There is no way one party can do it on their own or if the other person is not prepared to discuss the issue. My marriage fell apart after my wife had an affair and she was not at all interested in attending counselling sessions to work it all through. She wanted me out of the house and that was that as far as she was concerned, so after trying to sort things out for a short while I did move out and lived with my mother when I was in the same area. I was driving trucks at the time and not long before we separated I had started driving interstate as both my wife and I felt the extra money would help us long term. At a later stage I found out that she had been seeing this man behind my back while I was still dloing local driving. That explained more fully why she wanted me to do interestate driving which meant me being away from home every 2nd night. As I said she was not interested in attending counselling at all but on the advice of friends, I did go and in the long term it helped me considerably. It certainly helped me when I met my current partner as a lot of those issues of losing trust in another person I had been able to work through. So, if both parties are willing to discuss the issue of why the person had the affair and how it affected the "innocent" party then the marriage can survive although trust might take some time to come back. But both parties have to work through the issues, individually as well as a couple.
• United States
7 Nov 08
Very well said and I agree it takes both parties.
@oderog (732)
• Kenya
5 Nov 08
You can build a broken relationship, remember not everybody is perfect and weakness are for human nature. You identify these mistakes and work on them, you or your partner can change after a second thought. When you have children you should consider your action and the consequences that it is going to impact on your family, either negative or positive.
• United States
7 Nov 08
Sad to say but sometimes the family enviorment can have a negative impact on the children as well.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
5 Nov 08
I think that anything is fixable if two people want to work at it. My partner of over 12 years and I have been through so much. We both have done things to hurt each other and have had our own personal demons to deal with but also try to be together and raise children in that. Not easy. There were also affairs and breaks ups. The last one was eight years ago. During that split I met someone else who I was "involved" with. My partner and I did get back together and I found out I was pregnant with the other man's child. That was difficult for both of us to go through. It was not easy for him to make the decision to accept me with a child that wasn't his. I know if he did the same I would not have been able to stay with him. So I don't think an affair is a deal breaker. If two people really want to be together they both have to work at it.
• United States
7 Nov 08
I think the key to staying together is that both parties have to work at it. My ex-wife had an affair and I thought we were going to be able to work through it but as it turn out I was the only one working on the relationship.