I have question for mommies..;-0

@insulin (2483)
Philippines
November 6, 2008 7:55am CST
Well sooner or later me and my fiancee will have a baby and I don't know what it will be...Is it really painful to give birth?Whats the feeling?I just wanna and I am ready for it..:-0 God bless and have a nice day to all..:-0
6 responses
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
I am not a mommy, just to make things clear.But I have worked in Labor and Delivery for quite some time also and have assisted pregnant women in their ordeal. Mos of it, I have noticed that it is really painful when it's your first time, when the it is disproportion and you are not walking when you are in your third trimester but of course only if you are not a high risk and it is not contraindicated to you. The feeling (as what they say) is just like when you take a poo, that's the reason why that when you are in your third trimester you are no longer allowed to go to the bathroom alone specially when you are nearing your confinement. I have heard from doctors and nurses that it happened many times in the Labor and Delivery room, that they thought they are just going to take their regular bathroom exercises (you know).
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Now I can sense a little feeling about that but the thing I scared about is my back..My doctor said that I will have difficulties to get pregnant because of my scoliosis but if I can do it and can handle the pain then I will..Just pray with me guys..Thanks for the responds..I am not alone with this..:-0 God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Ok, now I see it where your apprehensions are. It would be not that painful if the degree of curvature is not that worse but if you are able to get up to the third trimester with minimal problem at all then I can;t see any problem with pain during delivery. As long as your child is not disproportionate with your body build. How many weeks or months are you already, if you don't mind. Just pray and have high hope that everything will just be fine.
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Well not too long just about 2 month now..I hope that I will still handle the pain to my back when it comes to 7 or 8 months..
@tinkerick (1256)
• United States
6 Nov 08
It definitely depends on the person, the baby, and your pain tolerance. I've had 3 kids, all natural, but all with epidurals. With my first I started contractions at bedtime the night before, they were every 10 minutes, but I was able to sleep through them. The next morning they continued but were still tolerable so we made a quick stop before heading to the hospital. By the time we reached the hospital the contractions were 2 minutes apart and getting very strong and painful. I got the epidural right away. I think they gave me a bit too much of the medicine because I couldn' feel anything below my waist, literally. My husband had to hold one leg up and a nurse the other. When they told me to push I had no idea if I was or not. With my 2nd I held off alot longer. Contractions started in the morning but I waited until late afternoon to go to the hospital. As soon as the pain became too strong I got the epidural. It slowed the labor down, and she wasn't born until late night. However, I could feel the delivery this time. There was no pain, but just a strong discomfort with all the pressure. With my 3rd I waited until the last possible minute (there's a point where you can no longer get the epdiural because labor is too far progressed). I used the breathing techniques (not the ones you see in the movies where they huff huff huff, but a long slow deep breathing) recommended by the medical staff. It's tough, but I was able to do it. The pain was strong, but I managed. (I have VERY high respect for women who deliver with no meds at all!) Shortly after I got the epidural my 3rd child popped out. (They do say each consecutive delivery gets easier.) The pain is different for each individual. In the books they described the contractions as occuring around the belly, but mine I felt in the groin and lower abdomen. Just be make all your preparations beforehand and be ready to go on the fly. And communicate with your medical staff. Let the nurses or doctors know when pain is becoming intolerable and they'll tell you your options. They really can be a big help. Good luck.
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Thank you so much for your help and advice miss tinterick..This is really a helpful information and very detailed and really give me idea on what will I do If I will deal in that stage..My problem right now is my back because I have scoliosis and it's killing me..I hope I can do this and I really believe I will..Thanks for the response...:-0 God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@tinkerick (1256)
• United States
7 Nov 08
I don't know how many medical options are available to you in your area of the world, but I'm sure you already know that surgery is one. However - for those that can't afford it, there is word that epidural steroid injections can help with the pain. These are shots that are injected into the spinal column (hence the "epidural"). You may want to check with your doctors to see if it's an available option for you.
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
Thanks for the information about that.I will tell my doctor about it and I will choose what options I can get..thanks again and God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
You've got to feel it yourself to know how it really feels. It is case to case basis. There are women who don't suffer that much pain. There are those who really labor hard and I could see that the percentage of those who say that it is really painful is bigger. Those who undergo cesarean delivery will feel the pain after the delivery. They say natural delivery is better because after the pain you can go back to your normal ways so easily unlike when it there is surgery that took place because your movements will be limited till the wound heals.
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
My mom and my sister suffered pain a lot because blood is the one that came out to their bag or something like that and then its so difficult for them..Now I am scared that I will experience it too but anyway,I will do everything for my baby..:-0 God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@grammasnook (1877)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Darlin I have had five children all natural. They range in age 8 to 25 they were all very different. They offer many medicines that can help with the pain but natural is the best way to go. Epidurals can make your lower extremity numb and weak and sometimes they have to use things to get the baby out. I have a very high pain tolerance and I will tell you it hurts how can you expect it not to? think of an average size baby comeing out of you. The best part is the pain goes away as sson as you see the miracle you just delivered. It is normal to fear what you do not know, but in the long run it is over once you have your bundle of joy! Good Luck !
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Thanks for you response..I really appreciate it and I am ready for the pain..Many people telling me too about but whaT I worry about it that the curve degree of my backbone is about 25 and I am dealing some pain and It's 50 50.I am scared I will do this for my baby..:-0 Thanks and God bless..:-0
@slash23 (102)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
I gave birth to my kiddos through Caesarian section. It wasn't painful compared to natural birth. I was hoping to give birth the natural way but due to fetal distress, doctor had no choice but to perform CS. Anyway, don't be scared. To erase your fears, just don't forget that there are so many women out there who have already given birth with no complications or anything. I just kept thinking, "if others have done it, then i can do it too, right?" Always think positively, ok? Wish you well.
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Thanks for your advice slash23...;-0 Now I feel a little better.I always dream to have my own kids and to work for them because life will be meaningless for me and I will done have one and I will really think positive that I can do it..;-0 God bless and have a nice day..:-0
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
6 Nov 08
Really there is no one set answer for everyone...I know women who thought it was the most painful thing they ever felt and I know women such as myself who didnt find it painful or rather it was a bit painful but such a GOOD pain it wasnt upsetting if that makes sense...Even with my youngest who was born preemie and basically ripped from me with each contraction it was a good pain...Does that make sense?
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
Well thanks for the response..:-0 I just wanna know some reaction from parents..;-0 I knew some friend who get pregnant and I can see some pain in there eyes but I know its a good pain and I hope I can do this..:-0 The thing I am scared is that I got my scoliosis and my doctor said that I will have difficulties getting pregnant and I am scared that I will not survive to it..:-0 Thanks God bless and have a nice day..:-0