Has anyone ever flirted with your spouse in front of you...what did you do?

@hdjohnson (2981)
United States
November 8, 2008 1:29pm CST
I've heard all kinds of horrible stories of spouses being flirted with in front of other spouses and the other spouse getting so upset and starting a brawl or fistfight, etc... When my wife and I first got married, there were a few flirtatous guys she dealt with while she worked and traveling to and from work at that time. I never saw any of these episodes and it is good that I didn't either. There haven't been any women that openly flirted with me while I've been married neither alone and especially not while I was with my wife. I think it is extremely disrespectful for someone to disregard the fact that a person is married and flirt with them. I know there are some mylotters that have experienced this, I'm sorry you had too. But I thought I'd bring it up as a discussion today. Has anyone flirted with your spouse in front of you, if so, what did you do? Thanks in advance for sharing.
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@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
8 Nov 08
It doesn't bother me when a guy flirts with my wife as long as don't do or say anything inappropriate. I think my uncle put it best. He said, "If you have a woman no one else wants, you ain't a whole hell of a lot" LOL
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• United States
8 Nov 08
"ain't GOT a whole hell of a lot" I mean...
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• United States
8 Nov 08
I have had several times in the past 17 years women flirt with my husband and I usually just sit on my hands to keep from ripping their hair out and smashing their faces into the ground.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Oh my, LoL! Please don't ever act out upon your on those impulses. I'm glad you find some sort of way to deal with it. Does your husband know?
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
9 Nov 08
Yes, and I didn't like it. On top of that one of them is a religious teacher. My spouse teaches at a religious school and the actions of this religious teacher were the most obvious. There were others too. Part of the fault lies in my spouse. Her looks and behaviour made her popular among male students of a secondary school (Malaysia). Her parents did not object and in fact were proud of all the attention she received. This continued when she continued her studies in Grimsby (UK). She never really changed even though she promised to do so. So what did I do on each occasion? I became quiet and confronted her when we reached home. She answered back and on several occasions accused me of being a green eyed monster. After many years this has put a great strain on our relationship. Me a green eyed monster? How would you feel if your spouse did special things for her close male friends yet after 27 years never did the same thing for you?
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Nov 08
My fiance has told me before that guys have looked at me while we are out. I told him I hadn't seen anyone looking but he says he has, and that they have a way of looking. I know about the whole eye thing where guys can or at least try to look under a girls skirt, but other then that I am not sure what he meant. In any case, I am not much of a person to notice when being flirted with, nor did I actually like to flirt and on top of that I hated being flirted with... I guess that's why I never knew.
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@pam210 (345)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Ok this is a sore topic for me. A few times a woman has flirted with my husband in front of me and I have always taken the more mature response of ignoring it because - he isn't going to act on it and I ultimately am going home with my husband not this desperate woman that either is jealous or trying to get me upset. Now that being said the biggest fight my husband and I have ever gotten into was many years ago and it was over a woman flirting with him. At the time I didn't say anything and was polite and said good bye to her but when we got home I made it clear to him how I felt and how disrespectful she was to me. We were at a bar having a few drinks and my husbands high school girlfriend walked in with 2 other guys. I had never met her but had heard alot about her from other friends. Let me tell you at the time we were both in our 30's so way past high school age. Anyway we all said hi and she sat across the bar from us. When I got up to go to the bathroom she bought my husband a shot. When I got back I asked him what that was and he told me - and then he bought her and her friends a shot. I told him that that was very rude for her not to buy me one and he just didn't understand. He told me it was a toast to old times - well why did you buy her and her friends a shot - well he says it was only right -exactly. She was rude and disrespectful to me. Well after 11 years of marriage this topic came up a few months ago and he finally understood how hurt I was and agreed that she was wrong. Sorry to bore you - but I got it off my chest again. I also tend to believe that girls flirt alot more with men in front of their spouses then men with women. Just my opinion.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 08
Well, of course I wouldn't be happy because of that. But instead of confront them right there and then I would just leave them alone. I would like to see how my partner would manage that situation. Whether she would get too far or she could reject the person, it is something that I really need to know. If they don't stop it, I would tell them straight that they have to back off because the one they flirted with is married and they are just too low to try to involve themselves with married person.
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I have had women flirt with my husband in front of me and I just choose to ignore it. Yes, it bothers me but starting a fight over it isn't going to solve anything. In fact it will usually just make that person want to do it more. A person that has no respect for someone being married isn't going to change just because it bothers the spouse.