everywhere relationships fail and marriages fall apart...

Philippines
November 9, 2008 6:58am CST
i've been hearing bad news about relationships of people i know...partnerships that seemed ideal are suddenly over. seemingly "solid" marriages are on the brink of ending in separation...is there anyone here who has been in a relationship/is married for at least eight years and can still truly claim to be happy with their partners and their relationship?
2 responses
@Metalchick (1387)
9 Nov 08
I too feel this in todays society. My parents marriage has stayed strong throughout and so have many other marriages of that era but as time has progressed so has the commitment felt in marriages. My cousin is on her second marriage now, another of my cousins has been married ten years and her husband has cheated on her so it's a bit rocky there and finally so many of my friends which have got married young have split up within the year. It makes me wonder if I can be bothered with all the hassle of marriage or even having a man for that matter. I am single at the moment and is't too stressful without a man...I mean I do miss having a man to cuddle up to sometimes but all the other stresses that come with it...is it really worth it. The way marriage is adapting to the times it's a wonder couples last long enough to make it to the ceramony nowadays. It's quite a sad topic when you think about it.
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• Philippines
10 Nov 08
hi, thanks for sharing...i wonder what is the greatest contributory factor to all this splitting up in this generation...i didn't mean for it to be a sad topic, by the way, sorry :( i was hoping to see some happy stories that might restore faith in marriage...but there's none so far. :(
10 Nov 08
Shame I would have thought you would have recieved a few happy stories too...they can't all be bad. I think perhaps marriages don't last as long nowadays because we our all in contact with far more people nowadays and through metting more people things develope.
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
9 Nov 08
For me, Nope I won't be able to claim that for myself as i am still very young, and not thinking of marriage any soon. But, I do agree with you that it seems like the people of today no longer holds the concept of marriage and love the same way our grandparents do. Nowadays, it is easier to say to separate than it is for us to sit down and talk things out. Gone is the concept of till the end, but rather it is more of if we are happy, then be together, if unhappy then separate. That's the mentality of today's youth. I have been in a relationship for close to 1 1/2 years, friends with him for close to 6 years, but I won't claim that I am very happy with him though it is only for such a short period of time. There are many times in my relationship whereby I had thought of giving up, but then chose to hold and carry on when I thought back on those happy times. But, there are not many youngsters who will do the same thing that I have done. Youngsters of today no longer have the concept of give and take. We are selfish and all we want is to take and take, and the same goes for our partners. This leads to many conflicts between the both parties eventually leading to separation. Well, I wish you all the best in finding someone who will be able to share with you a happy story of togetherness! Take care!
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• Philippines
10 Nov 08
yes, selfishness is a factor, which leads to a refusal to compromise, without which it would be very difficult to make a relationship work. i hope yours does. =) good luck, and thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.