My friends don't like it..What would you do?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
November 9, 2008 5:42pm CST
We finished painting ( for the most part) my sons room. I like the color. But my two best friends don't. One thought the color looked like a dirty diaper. Would this make you rethink the color if you had time to paint again? I don' think I will. I was just caught off guard.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
It's a matter of preference. I have a story to share with you regarding this thought. There was a race between all the turtles of the world. On the starting lines, there were a few hundred of them waiting for the go signal. When the lights went green, everyone ran as turtles would and eventually they reached the steep mountain, everyone knew it was impossible because they were turtles! They can't climb. The audience kept on talking about how steep it was, how impossible it was for the turtles to climb them. The few hundred fell and quit, but only one did climb and finish the race. Amazed on why he was able to, other turtles came to him to ask his secret. They came to realize he was deaf. In life, there would always be something or someone who'd tell you that you can't. Friends, families, peers, etc. Everyone would always have their idea on something. Now, if you keep on listening to everything or every comment they're going to say, then surely you wouldn't finish your race either. People are most especially good at pointing out the bad things in all we do. Even friends do that. Change or something different just stirs fears, that's why it's better to quit than to move on. No one because successful because of listening to much to people. If you must listen, listen to those who are successful. Don't listen to those who didn't finish the race. As for the room, if you like it, and let it be. You're the one who's going to see that room anyhow. It's your taste. It's the expression of your mood. So let it be. Remember it's only paint. Eventually you would change it, for now let the beauty of your hard work sink deep in your heart.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 Nov 08
That was beautifully put laydee.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Well as much as we desire our friends to like and respect the things we choose some won't. I feel that if you and your husband likes it then it should stay that way. When your son gets older and finds he doesn't like it then it will be time to repaint but until then it might depress you a bit but it was your choice to choose the colors for your sons room you put alot of thought into it and shouldn't change your mind just because someone doesn't have your same taste in paints. What color have you chose? Sorry if you have told me already but I am a mite bit forgetful.
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@stealthy (8188)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Well since it is your son's room in your house and your friends will most likely hardly ever see it, then if your son likes it and you like it, leave it like it is. Seems to me like your friends should have followed the old saying: "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
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@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
As long as you, and most importantly you son, like it then poopoo to your friends! Color is one of those very personal things, some people will love a color others will hate it. The only thing I use as a tie breaker in my color decisions is how it can effect the possible sale of the house. So if I was a mommy and my daughter wanted a hot pink room, I think she would be SOL if we planned on selling at some point! And if your 'dirty diaper' color is what I'm thinking of - a brownish yellow? - then it's actually a very popular color. You see it all over.
@busyB4 (875)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Too funny of a reply jesssp! I agree though , if you like the color, just decorate the room and it may change the whole look of what your friends like. After all, it is YOUR house!
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
10 Nov 08
My brother recently painted his dining room a color that resembled a dirty diaper. We joked about it, but after he got done staining the hardwood floor a darker color it looked really good.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
10 Nov 08
Yep, we call the color 'baby poop'. And it always amazes me how modern and sophisticated it can look.
@GardenGerty (102495)
• United States
23 Oct 15
It is up to you and your son. It can have some really nice accent colors and should go with almost anything.
@whittby (3073)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Well, there is honest and there is a way to express an opinion with tact. Surely your friend could have come up with something that clued you into the fact that he/she didn't care for it while respecting your choice? Unfortunately, a remark like that would take some of the pleasure away from me. It would depend on how much I loved the color myself. If I was just okay with the color, I might eventually repaint or try to accessorize to brighten up the room. If I loved the room, heck with them.
• United States
10 Nov 08
I would work with your own inspiration. Your friends do not have to appreciate the room or the color as much as you and your child. Even so, sometimes it is nice to take a step back and take a second look. But do it for yourself, not for them.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
10 Nov 08
Pictures, pictures, we want pictures! The people who say they like diaper brown might not like it seen in living colour. I have a rule of thumb about painting walls, if it is a colour I see in my toilet, I do not want to see it on my walls. Thus I probably would agree with your soon to be ex-friends which you are not speaking to because they do not like your brown walls. Having said that, it is your house, your walls, your paint. I don't suppose I will be seeing you or your house anytime soon so I guess you are safe from my opinion in person.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
10 Nov 08
i will take their comments into next time a painting job has to be done.after all they are best critics.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
well, if your son likes it then be happy.. don't mind your friends' comment because the most important thing here is you did your best to make your son's room beautiful..
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I think as long as you like it and your son likes it...don't worry about it. One time I painted our kitchen of a house we were living in pale yellow with marigold trim...my Mom freaked out and said it blinded her. I loved it...it was so bright and airy. I miss that kitchen. [b]~~MY OWN PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF**[/b]
• United States
10 Nov 08
Well if your friend isn't going to see the room then i wouldn't repaint it unless you want to. If she doesn't like the color you can always tell her to go buy some new paint and paint it her self then and then see what she has to say about that one! Since it is your son and not her son i would keep the color if you like it. I wouldn't go through the trouble of repainting it even if you do have the time if yo are fine with the color.
@sarazeng (221)
• China
10 Nov 08
Hi ersmommy1! I think most important is what you like not your friend. :-)
@Mamagee (392)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 08
Sometimes I need my friends oppinion to be look nice. Sometimes I think I should have my own colour. I mean I should not depend on my friends to choose for my colour. What I think and what I see is the best choice for me and I want to be look nice with my own colour. Sometimes what other people think is not we think. So I prefer to be me....
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
10 Nov 08
ersmommy1, One man's (sorry for the genderism) meat; is another's poison. Just no telling of another's taste and/or preference. Since you have asked for their honest opinion and being their straightforward honest nature, I am sure they just spoke with a perceived mutual understanding. Just don't take it to heart and be happy at least to know that they are honest and that there might be others just like them that would not see eye to eye with your choice and preference. Afterall, you are painting according to what you know best and there will be others who will have the same taste namely your son. Cheers and well done!
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
10 Nov 08
That would hurt my feelings LOL. I would paint it whatever color that you are comfortable with, without worrying what someone else thinks. It is your choice.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Nov 08
if i was pleased with the color i would leave it as it. what your friends think doesn't really matter if u like it. u can't please everybody so don't try just please yourself. is your son old enought to comment?
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Everyone has different tastes. What is most important is that it is a color that YOU like. When I was a kid my older sister came home one week to because she decided to redo my room for me as a gift. I picked out this pretty deep mauve color that I really liked. She painted one little spot on the wall and decided that it was too dark and refused to paint with it. She then went out and got a lighter paint in the same color family. I hated it. She painted my room that color anyway. It grew on me eventually, but I did not like it. I wanted MY color the color I picked out. My point is, you picked out the color. You liked it on the paint sample thing, you painted the room and you STILL liked it. Don't rethink it. You might end up with a color you DON'T like.
@rusty2rusty (6766)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Nov 08
To be frank with you, it really does not matter what your friends think. If you like the color, than keep it that color. You have to live with the room every day they don't. When they come over all you have to do is close the door.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
9 Nov 08
If your son is happy and you are happy ignore your friends unless they are volunteering to buy paint and do the painting for you.