Is it HArd to forgive Someone?

@anikakim (364)
Philippines
November 10, 2008 9:38am CST
Forgiveness for me is to be given to a person who is deserving to forgive. Right? Maybe I can forgive a person in a long run or If I cannot remember what he or she did to me in the past, Time will come and I can forgive again.
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@pierone (1895)
• Italy
10 Nov 08
Hello, i guess that forgiveness is something we usually give to someone we don't want totally lose. So we forgive them to allow ourselves to still have a good relationship with them. Personally i forgive, but i don't forget...
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@anikakim (364)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
Good for you. For me I can no longer talk to that person anymore if he or she commit a mistake with me. No more trust and forgiveness.
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• India
11 Nov 08
I truly believe many people carry resentment around all their lives making it a burden the longer it goes on. Resentment is like a parasite as it feeds on you and leaves you weakened by its presence. Its only purpose is to take from you and it will eventually take all. If you want to break free and shake resentment off start by focusing on what you do have, not what is lacking. Some say to forgive and forget and yes it’s sometimes hard to do but if you let resentment stay in your life you will never reach your potential. There is simply no room in your life for it and still be the person you know you are. Let go of resentment today and you’ll be amazed by all the space it leaves in your life for better things..
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• United States
10 Nov 08
It really depends on what the person has done. Was it to me was it to a close friend or family member. I believe every one gets one chance to be forgiven. Or maybe if i cannot forgive them right away i will be able to in the future. Or if i forget what they did then they deserve the forgiveness because you dont know why you are mad at them. I for sure cannot forgive two people in my life because of what they did to me that wont be forgotten because its always on my mind and how my ife might be diffrent if they didnt do what they did. However im christian and the lord says that forgive and forget is the only way to truly forgive someone and that forgivness is part of entering heaven so im not so sure what to do i think he will understand my situation on what has happened
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@gicolet (1704)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It is...it is hard to forgive someone who had hurt someone else's feelings so deeply he or she could hardly function. It's always better to forgive so that you could move on with your life and not have to deal with the pain forever. Forgetting is a choice though. I'm a very forgiving person and I sometimes hate myself for being so forgiving especially if I see a sincere remorse from the other person while it's hard to forget what that other person did to me. It pays to forgive though cause the other person could learn a lesson the hard way and I also believe in good karma. Now my being forgiving definitely has its limit. If some psycho monster physically torture or abuse any member of my family I would never ever...even til the last breath I take will EVER forgive that person even he was proven to be 392% insane. They said God forgives...well I'm not God.
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@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Nov 08
Yeah you're right. Forgiveness is given to people who deserve it. And time heals the wound that hurt you. Until now I haven't forgiven my aunt of what she did to me back in college when I stayed with them. It aches me a lot because I've experienced too much pain. My mom understands me because she knows how I really felt and she says I need more time to learn to forgive her. I've seen her and meet with her but I'm not really interacting with her that much. ^^,
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
11 Nov 08
I have come into more growth and learning to forgive since I have gotten a little older. It seems that when I turned forty this year I have taken a different outlook or perspective on things and how I handle them internally. I came to find that forgiveness can be empowering to ourselves and it helps us to grow and have more acceptance. It can be hard to forget things and wrongdoings of others but in the long run forgiving can be a healing thing for everybody involved.
• United States
19 Nov 08
I think forgiveness should be given to those who do something wrong to us. As far as how hard it is to forgive it depends on how bad the thing was wrong done. Some things are easier to forgive than others. Another thing if the bad thing is done more than once than it is hard to forgive. Because it would appear that they just don't care. Forgiveness is more for the person who the wrong has been done to because it releases a bad feeling in the person doing the forgiving. Sometimes it is easy to forgive and sometimes it is not.