Your boyfriend cheats and get the ex pregnant, whats the solution??????

@loxion (1551)
India
November 10, 2008 10:28am CST
You four years boyfriend was cheating on you without your knowledge and only to find out when the lady he was cheating with became pregnant and demanding that he take care of her Your boyfrind told you that he only slept with her once, but one thing remain unchanged...he is about to have a baby with his ex lover. whats the solution? you leave?
6 responses
• United States
10 Nov 08
Once a cheater, always a cheater! Now he has a child to take care of on top of it. Find yourself an honest, loyal man who will be there for you. Dump him!
@loxion (1551)
• India
10 Nov 08
I think leaving him could be a great decision, but it will always be hard to do that cosidering that you have been together for 4 to 5 years and obviously you had plans, in this case all you plans becomes shattered. Is like as if is the certain change in your life which you have to overcome and making decisions is not as easy as packing bags and leaving
• United States
13 Nov 08
I guess we would all deal with such a situation in the best way we know how. I could never trust that person again. If you have a long history and can forgive and trust again, you are definately the bigger person. Best of luck to you!!
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
10 Nov 08
You have to ask? Leave! Run for the hills! Even if indeed it was a one time thing, it could repeat itself now that there is a child to bond the two... What else may he keep secret from you... You are not married, you have not shared obligations I assume, just leave and find somebody worth your love!
@loxion (1551)
• India
10 Nov 08
Run for cover but i think that thing will always remain on your mind, i mean for 4 to 5 years being involved and now you have to breakup... but in this case i guess you will have no choice but to terminate the whole thing But i think this is the most difficult situations most ladies may find themselves in and to come across it is even harder
@neededhope (1086)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Honestly I wouldn't be with him. If he's cheated on you with her the possiblity that he has cheated on you with someone else. There's too many dieases out there to temp luck with a cheating boyfriend. I'd say Bye and find a man that Will be faithful to you no matter what.
@loxion (1551)
• India
10 Nov 08
I think it would be a great decision too, because obviously it show that he was cheating all along and i do not think that he loves you, but it could always be worse if you already has some involvement in other things, things like maybe you already had collected little to buy your own home together, i guess in this situation one has to be a looser, because for a period of 4 or 5 years...obviously ther could be something between the two of you I also think parting could be a wise decision but considering that you are not loosing anything
@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Since you and your boyfriend are not married yet then the best solution is to give up your boyfriend and let him have the responsibility of taking care of his ex and their baby. It's for the better of both you and the baby they made. Besides, you don't deserve to be with him in the first place if he was cheating on you.
@loxion (1551)
• India
10 Nov 08
But i think is always hard to break up with someone, especially in a situation where you really knew each other, a period of four years is a long time inndeed, but what can you do...i mean the next thing the ex will be demeding that the father pay his child's maintanace and you will obviously not be happy to see that every month your husband's salary is cut to fit his child But i also think that if you feel like you want to end the relationship then you are free to do that
• United States
10 Nov 08
I am not sure what hte solution would be, but i would think that part would depend on how much you trust or believe him. If it did in fact only happen once, and you are certain it didnt and wont happen again, I would prob give him a second chance..but it all depends on how much you belive him. No matter what though, he owes the ex lover nothing as for taking care of her..but he MUST take care of the child, and if you are to continue to be with him, you will need to be understanding and willing to allow him to have contact with the mother of the child and see his child and all to be civil in teh best interest of the child...oh and i would also make sure of paternity, if he in anyway has a doubt its his.
@loxion (1551)
• India
10 Nov 08
But will you still give him that trust you have in him? i mean here he is, he does not have a baby/kid with you but yet he is about to have a kid with his exlover, how would you feel after the baby is born and the ex demand that he has to pay a certain amout for the maintanance of his baby? will you stand it to watch maybe quarter of his salary cut every month and going to fit the ex's child?
@Valenas (1510)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I would leave. There is NO excuse for cheating, none whatsoever. And, if he is going to have a child, he needs to be there for it. If he is low enough to cheat on his girlfriend, then he is not worth the struggle that she would have to go through with him and the pregnant ex-lover. People should be able to trust others, but its people like him that make it impossible to do so.