Could you love someone with an handicap ?

@ronnyb (6119)
Jamaica
November 10, 2008 12:23pm CST
I know we would all like to think we see beyond people physical appearance but how many of us can truly say that they have actually considered falling for someone with an handicap.Note its not because these persons are not good people ,many of them ar egreat people its just that many of us like Shakespeare says "love with our eyes".Consequently if the person is not "eye candy" we are immediately turned off.Imagine how many wonderull relationships opportunities have been missed because we fail to look beyond the superficial. If your answer to the question above is yes tell me is there a limit what types of handicaps would you be able to overlook
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
11 Nov 08
There is definitely a limit. I don't think I have traditional tastes in women. Most women that people say are hot I say look like (MyLot deleted the word, but just think of people who sell their bodies and you'll know what I meant). But while I would certainly consider someone with a disability, some things are just too much. I could never have a partner who was unable to work. Mental problems would be cause for serious reconsidering. I had a bipolar girlfriend before, and never again! And because I am an outdoors type of girl, I'd probably have to say that I wouldn't date someone in a wheelchair. But most minor disabilities would easily be overlooked by me. I can't say I'm perfect myself.
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
yes of course we could, I saw someone who love disabled or handicap person, we can call this a groovy kind of love, no matter what the appearance is he/she really loved the person
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
27 Dec 11
you are a rarity cause many persons dont see the handicapped in that sense ..they are more likely to have pity and the humanitarian love for them
@Mashnn (4503)
16 Jul 12
Being handicapped in not something that a person chooses to be and it can happen to anyone, anytime. I believe it does not matter whether you are handicapped or not. True love is more than physical appearance or disability.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
16 Jul 12
HI RONNYB, been a long time, hope all is well w/u. I think all of us are handicapped in first one way or the other. It might not show by just looking at a person but everyuone has some hangups.Yes, i could love someone who is handicapped. I have always been a nurturing kind of person. Eye candy is a good thing but alot of times that's all it is .I would not want to fall in love w/someone who had mental problens but think i did, lol . I think their attitude would mean more to me than anything. U never know anyone till u live w/them anyway.
@Mayuko (1272)
• United States
27 Dec 11
Could I? Yes, I think so. Would I? Probably not.... I think it depends on what the disability is, but generally (and honestly) I would most likely not get into a relationship with a man who has a disability. There are just certain things, little and major things that I expect to occur when I'm with someone. And if they have a condition that made it unable for them to do something, I don't think I could be satisfied with that. Of course, this is different if I'm already with someone, and then they become disabled.
16 Nov 11
hhhhh I'm an handicap person 29 years old live in usa. I tried many times to talke with girls do u know what's happened reject reject me because my defect so please be serious in your didcussion. sorry about my english because i don't speak it well
@yagi7uda (112)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
i believed that loving is not chosing. its happening and sparking. physical appearances is not important. the important thing is how you will manage those physical appearances to love a handicap person...yes you are pretty, yes you are handsome..but dont you know handicap person is prettier than you. why because they can use thier self as an inspiration. most of the handicap person losing their self confidence because they know no one can accept thier situation. loving is not the appearance its the feeling...its the joy.... its the passion...
@Crocket (315)
• Canada
11 Nov 08
I am only responding to this because I had been married to a woman that had a handycap. I gave all that I believe I could and yet that did not seem to be enough for her as it was her intention to rule my life. I became a doormat and had no life of my own so to speak. After two years I could not take it any more and so we were divorced. I did end up giving her some money when I got an inheritance and she was happy I think. We are still friends and we now realize that we could not live together. I wish her well. Crocket.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
11 Nov 08
If my fiance were to become handicap I would love him none the lesser as I believe it's not what appears outside, but what's inside that counts. Those who can not look past that have a lot to learn, but can learn.
@hildas (3031)
11 Nov 08
I would have to be honest and say if it was really bad no. Now if my husband was to become this way. I would still love him all the same. I have an illnessess and it effects my life now. It is not too bad, but my husband had to take days of work to look after the children. I did nearly die to be honest, but I was annoyed that my husbands Mum said "well you should of thought about it before you married her". We do get along, my mother in law and I, but I was extremely annoyed with her comment. In sickness and in health I say. If you love someones inner beauty a disability should not matter. But I would say it would put a lot of people off if it was really, really bad.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
11 Nov 08
Yes, I can. Even if they are not functioning the way that they should, I will still be able to love the same. After all, they are people just as I am. They just have an handicap. they are still entitled to my love.
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Well, you can call me a hopeless romantic, but yes, I will definitely fall in love with a handicap. I think the disability just makes them special and vulnerable, the more I want to care for them.
• Canada
11 Nov 08
hello ronnyb. i do think its okay to fall in love with an handicap, as long as you realy do love the person and one has to learn to look beyond their disabilities and focus squarely on their ability.
@haqita (122)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 08
for me, i can accept handicap persons. but not a critical type of handicap. it'll just making me feel sympathy and not love. it's my point of view. but, if i really love that person, me myself can't predict what will happen.
@Porcospino (18583)
• Denmark
11 Nov 08
I would love to say: "Yes, a handicap is not important at all, the is the inner beauty that counts" But I can't say that without lying. Many kinds of handicaps would not be a problem for me, but there are limits. I can't imagine falling in love with a person who is mentally disabled. A slight mental handicap might not a problem but if the person is severely handicapped I don't think I would be attracted to him. A mental illness would not scare me away, though. Most kinds of physical handicaps wouldn't be a problem for me. I can't say that one particular handicap would scare me off, it all depends on attraction. There has to be some sort of physical attraction because otherwise I wouldn't be able to kiss the person etc.
• India
11 Nov 08
Keep me in the circle of your love Looking dowmn to comfort from above You who guide my feet though the pathway may be steep Keep me in the circle of your love When God, the creator, loves all his children universally and bestows blessings equally irrespective of the handicaps of his children, we mortals can surely follow his principle and try to surface our humane tendencies that will slowly help us erase our superficial tendencies and broaden our outlook to appreciate people like Stephen Hawking, who conquered the world by his beliefs.
10 Nov 08
Yes of course, I believe if you really listen with your heart you can really love without limits. But then as what you said people looks at the outward appearance, but it doesn't mean because you have a pleasing personality or beautifully looking you are loveable. Some people are just not loveable but there are people with handicap if you really want to know them inside and out, they are great people. And you can just love them of what and who they are!