In your opinion: the man or the woman?

United States
November 10, 2008 10:21pm CST
In your opinion; who do you think is more apt to cheat on one's spouse: the man or the woman. Who also to you think is more willing to forgive once the spouse is caught cheating : the man or the woman. Why do you believe this way?
6 responses
• Italy
11 Nov 08
I think it varies from person to person and situation. My vote is most likely with womens they forgive and they are mostly fair in love but male partners almost 98% of them looking and trying for other hangouts always. I myself a male and i always try to be fair and honest in relations. I dont want to pose myslef a good and fair one but the fact i have experianced is after all my honesty and fair thoughts whenever i got a chance to meet another beautiful lady i was trying to use that chance. My honesty is all that if i got in such situation i tell every single word to my love. I think its in male genens to get attracted to all beautiful ladies.
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• United States
11 Nov 08
So what you are saying is that men a genetically made to be cheaters? I mean they naturally are inclined to cheat?
• United States
11 Nov 08
well i heard that monogamy is not natural for humans. i'm a girl and even i can understand that!
11 Nov 08
that one is hard to answer i think the man does most of the time but the woman does do it sometimes. The woman does it cuz she gets lonely at home when her husband or bf doesnt pay enough attention to her.
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• United States
11 Nov 08
What about the man? Why do you think the man would cheat? You say the woman will do it because she is lonely at home..but what leads a man to cheat, in your opinion?
11 Nov 08
well the man cheats cuz he feels kind of trapped sometimes or cuz he feels his partner is doing it or he just wasnt ready for the commitment that they both wanted
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
well for me its the guy who is likely cheating majority than the woman...Man cannot control their urge of desire..they are hot compare to woman...This idea was being mentioned by my teacher in Philosophy. and the most thing her..if one's caught and it's the woman who is willing to forgive not the man.
• United States
12 Nov 08
Yes ..i have heard over and over that for man it's so much harder to control himself. I think it's because some kind of testosterone in men?
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
I thought it was easy to say that it's the man who's apt to cheat rather than the woman. But I realize that gender has nothing to do with it. Cheating can be committed by both of the man and the woman. And also with the forgiving part, we are all capable of feeling different emotions. What I mean to say is, we put the blame on the one who started all the problem. HAppy mylotting!
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• United States
11 Nov 08
Perhaps cheating like so many things is something learned? If a child grows up seeing mom or dad loose and cheating.. then when they grow up they will think the same is ok?
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• Philippines
11 Nov 08
In my opinion, I think both are capable of being cheaters and both knows how to forgive. It's not whether you are a man or a woman, it's more on the behavior of a person.
• United States
11 Nov 08
I am looking not for whom is capable of cheating but who in a relationship is more apt to be first to cheat..Do you think it's more a male gene or female gene that perks up one to cheat? DO you think the husband will cheat more quickly then the wife?
• India
11 Nov 08
As a Ph. D. holder, I feel that scientific and anthropological evidences point to the fact that men are more likely to cheat on their spouses as compared to the women. The woman is more willing to forgive as compared to the man. In common parlance, let us visualise our roots that go to our ancestors in the primitive ages. Our behavioral inclinations all can be traced to our biological ancestral genes that have been passed on through generations. The survival theory of the fittest led the primitive man to have as much mates as possible so that the probability of tranmission of his seed increased. However as the times progressed, he settled down gradually in monogamous relationships as there was no further need socially. However, the brain trigger responses remained the same in the mind of the males of the human species. A natural control over these straying characteristics has been an acqired trait through ages. Women have been biologically ingrained to be the perfect home makers preferring the well being of their spouse and kids before herself. This has made a woman more vulnerable, sensitive caring and forgiving as compared to men whose nature was hardened in contrast.
• United States
11 Nov 08
Since you are a Phd holder it seems you have an academic view of things but I hold to the theory that text book explanations can be proven wrong. Men are men and women are women but something makes people of both sexes cheat on occasion ..