promises?

@Margarit (3677)
Philippines
November 12, 2008 7:43am CST
Have you ever incounter with someone that like to do lot's of promises and never done what they promise! It is pretty bad isn't it. Too bad they don't understand that they could hurt someones feeling by making promises and not doing it. i don't know what to do, to this kind of behavior since the people does it to me are very close to my heart. What do you do if you incounter this situation?
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28 responses
@JUNGLE (1157)
• South Africa
13 Nov 08
Yes many times I have been promised things,and these things have never materialized.There is one thing that one must take note of when someone makes a promise,and that is,"Is The Person Making The Promise,Drunk Or Sober At The Time Of Making The Promise.?" This is very important.!!!LOL!!!
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Oh i guess the state of mind should be also included when someone make promises, if he is been drunk or sober for he may forget what he says doing that moment. Thanks for the respond.
@goymon (40)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
People tend to make promises just to have an assurance that they gonna do it, for those who gonna do it; and just to make the person whom they made a promise comfortable. As others may even say, he already promised, but still, you like to be it in reality.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Okay, you mean that they just make promises for assurance purposes but not really wanting to fullfill it. I think it may be true because lots of people doing like that without keepin it. Thanks for the respond.
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Of course, when someone promise to you and he didnt do it, surely it will hurt your feelings especially when you expect that much. I also encounter that kind of situation in so many times in my life. But now, because of the bad past and heartaches it cause me, when someone make a promise to me i always tell myself not to believe or expect that he/she will really do that. Instead i just tell myself to wait and just be happy even he/she cant do it...
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Hi gwapako, Wow that is so nice of you to say, i guess i should not expect more from them so that i will not feel deeply hurt from what they do. I will just let them promise if they like without any expectation. It is the expectation that can make us fell disappointed. Thanks for the respond.
• China
13 Nov 08
Many people like you said, they just promise, but never to do that. At first time, I believe him, but the second time, I will not believe him, and try to have little connection with him. It is my way to solve it. Sometimes, it is not affect.
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@balasri (26553)
• India
21 Nov 08
I am up to my neck with the promises made by all the Governments so far in his country.They promise that they will eradicate poverty.The poor politicians have become rich while the farmers have become beggars begging on the streets.Enough of promises.These animals should be exterminated.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
I agree with you balasri, We always heard promises in government officials that are not being fullfill. They make people like a fool. that is too sad for all of us for all we wanted is to have a better life to live and improve the quality of our living. Thanks for the respond.
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@balasri (26553)
• India
23 Nov 08
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Nov 08
Yes! Our company! Lats 7 months ago, we were promised that we'll be trained for Management Trainee which in fairness was granted. Part of that promise was the assurance that we'll be promoted effective after our graduation ceremony on the program. Graduation came but the promotion was not still granted. We were promised again that it will be on Nov. 1, 2008 but still nothing happened. I really wanted to quit my job now because I don't know if they'll still put their promises into reality. ^^,
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
Hi friend, Same here, i still wonder why even close person in our life cannot keep their promises, they dont even care our feeling.Anyways, I am glad that in the company i work they always live to their promises, all their promises are given to the employees. Thanks for responding.
• Canada
13 Nov 08
Better hang onto that job for now, z. If you quit it might be a bumpy ride in these economic conditions before you get a new job, if you can get one. While their promises might have been sincere, they may have found the economy is so tight they cannot offer railses and promotions until their business improves.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Hi mariposaman, I agree with you, now a day economic crisis really affect so many companies including my workplace, better hold on to it and have patience for it is so hard to find another job. Thanks for responding.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
13 Nov 08
oh yes, i have known quite a few people like that. it does hurt your feelings when they promise things & don't carry through w/them. what do i do i leave them alone & try to forget about them & their promises.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Hi friend, I guess you are right, All the thing they do well affect their credibility and as well thier personality, so why do i bother by them ,it is their lost not mine. Thanks for the respond.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
16 Nov 08
thata' girl.
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
I really get disappointed when this things happen especially when this person is very close to me. Sometimes, I move away from the relationship slowly, whether its intimate or friendship because I don't want more disappointments than I already have. Maybe, it's very immature but that is how I feel.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
Hi sheenarobins, I know what you feel for i also experience like that. Some people likes to make promisses that they cant keep. Honestly i feel like i am not important to them. thanks for the respond.
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Hi Margarit, yeah, I guess there are lots of people who do this. You know, say something and don't honor their words. I know someone who kept on doing this to me. The problem was I always believed him and I always give him a chance to prove he can fulfill his promises. I end up waiting for nothing. The guy's never meant to fulfill his promises. I should have known, once a skunk, always a skunk. I'm just glad he's finally out of my life.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Good for you that his out of your life now but i can't do that because thier my family and just hope they will be responsible enough to what they promise. Thanks for sharing.
• India
13 Nov 08
People are different, with different approaches and outlooks to life. In the journey of our lives, We tend to encounter quite a many who makes a lot promises and then sneak out of our lives, leaving us disappointed. Disappoint is natural. The solution to handling this kind of situation and people, I believe, lies in not expecting anything in return. Try to avoid entering into relationships expecting returns. Life is free and it offers the unexpected as part of the bargain of life...When it is free, everything else that comes with it is free. All that is free need not to be good. Let go of people and past, that do no good to us. Get on with life as though every moment is the last. Can we change people and their behaviours? NO. Change our approach to life itself.. be open for big surprises.. and when surprises come we wont be perplexed..
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Hello Tony, Welcome to mylot.
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
13 Nov 08
Of course. I find that lots of my friends are like that. They hardly keep their promises. For example, one of my friend may say that I will offer you a dinner someday. Then, some day will never come!
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Hi hiddenwing, I am glad that i am not alone in experiencing like this i guess they doesnt value our worth to them for they dont care of our feeling at all. Thanks for the respond, Happy posting.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I have had some encounters with people who have made promises. Special people like friends or family. You are right that they don't understand just how that can hurt a person. I think one of the worst things a person can do is let down a child. I have a son and I know if I promise him something I would like to keep that promise. Children can get hurt so easily and won't forget the hurt they feel when their own mother or father doesn't come through. Making a promise is something that definitely shouldn't be broken.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Yes i agree without, promises are made not to be broken. If you cant keep it why promise, i dont really like to make promises that cant keep for i know how does it feels, i am always the recipient of a broken promises. Thanks for responding
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Oh i know someone like that. She is fond of promising but not fulfilling. Promises to her are made to be broken. Like she will promise that I will give you this, I will give you that when your birthday comes but 7 seven birthdays have passed and the promises never came true. Such kind of person loses her word of honor and people will never believe her anymore. When she talks everyone will just look at the sky and say: Here we go again!"
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Hi salonga, Thats why i keep my promise always for i dont want to be like that as what you said. It does matter if you could keep promises come true for your credibilities is at steak. But why they promise if they cannot keep it anyways? Well i guess no one could answered that for everyone also make a broken promises intentionally and unintentionally. Thanks for the respond.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
I know so many people who promise me so many things but they dont follow their commitment. People break promises as often as they breathe so i don't have any expectation from others to keep their promise. I keep most of my promises and think about others feelings but why cant they do the same thing???
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Hi rizzu87, That is also my question. If ever they cannot keep their promises why tell the truth that hey cannot fullfill, specially when the person is waiting for it. I feel that person who broke thier promise are person who dont prioritize us or dont really care about our feeling at all. I feel frustated to those kind of person. Thanks for the respond.
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
i guess i have things promised to my kids but if it didnt happened on the day they expected... i explain to them the reasons... and i just make sure that whatever it is, i would do what i promised to them later on...
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
Hi friend, It is still good as long as you still fullfill your promises later on. Making promises should be keep to avoid misunderstanding in a relationship.
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
promises are made to be kept.But some people are irressponsible to do so.I guess that why there are a lot of people are victims of promises that were broken.Us our selves might have been once in a while may have not kept a promise.to avoid this we should not make promises that are hard to be kept or promises we do not mean to keep at all.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
I agree with you, We should not make promises that we cannot keep so their will be no more broken promises. If you do promise make sure you can keep it. Thanks for the respond.
• China
13 Nov 08
First,I don't trust people who make commitment easily. Second, when I incounter with them, I would ignore their promises. Third, if someone has tried his best to reach the promises,I would foegive him. Fourth, yourself is the most trustful people.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
wow, thats a good advice, i think i would ignore their promises for it will never come true anyways, I will try not to be affected of the broken promises. No body is perfect anyways i will be more considerate to consider their reason before judging them.thanks for the response.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
13 Nov 08
It is something I have definitely faced.there was a guy , my so called best friend who chaeted me. But he used to make loads of promises each day. all were lies.there you will find this type almost everywhere
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Well this discussion will help you, try to read some of the responses here for their are so many good advices by mylot people. Let me know, what works with you. thanks for the respond.
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Aren't most politicians like that? Making promises before elections but not keeping them after just to get the vote and the trust of people? Seriously, there were times my husband made a promise but was left broken. Of course I felt hurt but then we talk about it and sometimes, it really can't be helped. I think, for me, if a promise was broken and it was acknowledged to be broken and an apology was given, that is so much better than no apology at all. It may have been broken but if the person was aware, somehow, for me, that feels comforting.
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
oh, you are right, many politician is like that, they like to promise everything to get your vote but when they are in the position already, they already forget what they promise. Anyways, they always ask apology for what they said and done but still the damage has been done so it can never be the same again. Thanks for the respond.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 08
I try not to make promises that I can't keep. Sometimes people try and nail me down and make me commit to something when I'm not comfortable and sometimes I say yes and then later I say to myself "you should have said no".
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Same here, i dont make promises if i cant make it anyway, for i know how does it feel when you broke promises. I would rather say no and be honest if i cant make it, for me promises is the thing the you should keep. Thanks for the respond.