Is it right?

Philippines
November 12, 2008 7:38pm CST
Is it right to be inlove with a married girl? I am confused about the feelings inside me because I met a girl with two kids. She is very nice, pretty and very lovable. The time we spent together makes me crazy because I realized I am inlove with her already til such time I tell her about my feelings. The worse thing is, she's telling me the truth that she's just playing with my feelings. I feel down, I know it is the right love in a wrong time. What do you think should I do? Do I need to court her eventhough I know that she's just playing with my feelings or find another ways to forget her.
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27 responses
• New Zealand
13 Nov 08
Hi there mypesodollar (49)... Do yourself a huge favour and dont go there!...There are plenty women out there who deserve your love & admiration...The lady is going to bring you heartache if you pursue her...Plus...She may have a nasty husband, who would not appreciate your sudden admiration for his wife...Women/Men...Are like buses!...( pardon the expression )...There's one every half hour...You just have to catch the right one, at the right time...There is someone special for you out there...Someone who will return the love and admiration you have for them...Thats what you go for!...Good Luck...I hope its not too painful whatever you decide.
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• Qatar
13 Nov 08
I think you should not continue your plan of courting her she told you that she is just playing with your feelings When someone is not serious about relationships, this is too bad find another way to forget her, u go out with your friends, make urself busy with other things Goodluck and GOD bless Happy mylotting
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@baileyq (68)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
mypesodollar, She told you the truth, that she is playing with your feelings. I would take that into consideration...seriously. Why put yourself through all that? Obviously, her being nice and lovable were all a ruse so that she could get you to like her and eventually fall for her...but all for the wrong reasons. "Nice" and "lovable" people simply do not do these things to other people. It is not the right love at the wrong time. It is wrong. Period. You seem like a nice guy. Keep your eyes open. There's someone out there for you, I'm sure. One who will not mislead you or deceive you.
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• Philippines
13 Nov 08
The woman being married is a red alert already to stay away from her plus you said it yourself that she just playing you along then I guess that she is not worth all this trouble.
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• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
I think you shouldn't continue your relationship with this girl. It is obvious that she didn't love you at all, and that she is just playing with your feelings. And it is obvious she is already married. Of course she loves her husband, and not you. You are playing with your own emotions and you are the only one in love. It means you are fantasizing things for now. Love takes two. It will never work if only one part is playing the role. I suggest that you better forget about this girl and move on with your life. There are many other girls whom you will meet in the future. I believe as a good guy, you will have the chance to meet many, many more attractive girls out there. Just leave her. This is what she wanted from the start. She just befriended you because maybe at that time she felt lonely or she just wanted to make her husband jealous. By this way, you can see that she is actually in love with her husband, or else why should she want to make him jealous, right? I hope you can forget her and continue with your life. Take care, buddy.
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I think you deserve better, or you know it. I feel that if you really knew that you have to go after her, you wouldn't question it. It's probably best to try to keep from falling in love with a woman who is already married, and worse, already has kids. You would risk being a home-wrecker. If she admitted to you that she is playing with your feelings, it's probably a sign that she does not plan to reciprocate. I know it's harder to just let go, but I guess you would be much better off if you moved on and did not dwell on her or let this situation control your life. It might be better not to see her for a while if you could, maybe you need a break from her temptation. You need to find out what you really want and deserve.
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@YOULANLIU (312)
• China
13 Nov 08
As a man, I think I can understand your feeling now.I suppose that you could be just a young boy because a mature man usually can not be cheated by that kind of women.So I have to tell you ,keep the distance with that married girl,maybe she is indeed nice,pretty and lovable,but please remember,you don't know whether or not her mind is as clear as her appearance.You need't to waste all your life on that kind of woman,it is worthless.More better girls are everywhere.Make your mind clear firstly.
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@rsa101 (16280)
• Quezon City, Philippines
13 Nov 08
I guess you just said it to yourself, right love at the "wrong time". So analyzing from that statement one positive "Right Love" but mixed with "Wrong Time" makes everything wrong already. You cannot forced it to yourself as you will just be putting yourself into much pain and misery. And just the thought that you might destroy a family if you would continue with your intentions with her. Think about the consequence that you might do. The best is really to forget in my own opinion. That is the best for both you and her. I really think she is happy with her family and you deserved to be happy with yourself too and taking her as you happiness is just not right because you will hurt many people alongside.
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• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
Honestly saying that playing the love game with a married person have a lot of risk. And the risk could be dangerous also especially if it involved the women's husband. If she's just playing with your feeling, it means she don't really love you. So, I think there's no point for you to pursue the love from her. There's still a lot available girls out there and your future partner is one of them. Don't chase the impossible love like that. Forget her and looks toward the future. Good luck for you.
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@vera0571 (167)
• China
13 Nov 08
It's hard to say right or wrong,but if i were you,I will not court on her.I will put this love into my heart deeply. Let it becomes a good memory of mine~ Because without love,there is something called responsibility.
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@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
You know the real answer to your problem is No but your heart is being blind by your heart.The fact that she admitted that she was just playing with your feelings is a good reason you should stop seeing her.You know its love at the wrong time why still pursue.There are lots of lovable nice and pretty woman.There are many other ways you know that.You are afraid to try.Pray for God's guidance.You cannot go wrong if you ask his help.
• United States
13 Nov 08
I think the hardest thing to do in this situation is to distinguish if this is truly love or lust. Maybe its the thought of her being married, and she isn't your's fully that makes you think you love her so much. I would have to disagree about the courting, only because it will only mend your feelings for that moment but afterwords you will want her even more, and your situation will get harder to deal with . Also do you really want to be with someone who has the potiental to hurt you, because its evident whom ever she is married to right now will probably be hurt in the future especailly if she is thinking about cheating with you. She is a married women with kids I think the best thing for you to do is find a nice single women who is worth your love :o) I hope that wasn't to judgemental...
@suzzy3 (8357)
13 Nov 08
Hi I hope you find someone who is single,you are wasteing your time I am so sorry for you.She has admited that she does not feel the same and she should be ashamed of herself. You seem like a nice guy and quite capable of making a relationship that will not tear you apart, this is not doing you any good, she will never leave her husband and you could go on like this for years and it is not fare. Have you ever considered it is the fact she is married and out of reach , that could be the attraction. What about the children just think how this could hurt them , for your own sake stay away and avoid a lot of trouble.Take care.xx
@navas4u (185)
• India
13 Nov 08
My opinion is to stop this relation this moment! Such relations are not encourageable. It will ruin your life and her life. Think a moment about what will happen if her husband came to know about this relation?Please stop this dear.And imagine if you are the husband having two kids and you came to know about your wifes relation with other guy.. Can you foregive that? Better not to prolong this relation, because if you get into a 'no return' situation then everything will be broken , dear.
@zhubo000 (11)
• China
13 Nov 08
I think you must leave her and forget her.After all ,she has a family and childen.You can not destroy her family.
13 Nov 08
im sorry dude but forget about her if shes playing dont play her game.You will only get hurt in the long run.If u want to get hurt well i cant advize u on that but i wouldnt want to do it just back off and c what she does make her come to u if its mutual but if she dont come then let her go.
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
13 Nov 08
You need to forget about that ho*. If she is married and flirting with you then imagine if you two got together. She would just be out trying to get with someone else. I have no respect for people like that. I guess I can't blame you for having feelings for her because you can't control that. But you need to stay away from here. She is married and even if she doesn't care you need to. It's just not right.
@chezze (56)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Definitely NO! Falling in love with a married girl is bad enough, but if you will court here even though she has already told you that shes just playing with your feelings thats downright not right...and very, very wrong. You're single, and you have all the opportunity to search for the right one. Dont let yourself enter a relationship that in the first place is already wrong.
@iamfine (740)
• China
13 Nov 08
All i know is that there's nothing right or wrong to love or to be loved. But a wise man should not only think about now, but also think about the future. If you decide that there's no future between you and the married girl, then it is the time for your to to quit and find your own future.
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
13 Nov 08
If she is married, then chances are you are not the only one she is playing with. A married woman that will cheat on there husband, will cheat on you. Same with married men. Do you really what to take the chance of getting some sickness. After all....Have you ever thought about, when you sleep with someone, You are sleeping with everyone she/he slept with and everyone that the other slept with. Do you really what to chance you health and possible happiness. There are to many singles out there to get involved with a married person. They choose there life, don't let them take you down with them. It time you find your own life. With someone, unattached. It sound as if you are more attracted to the danger of this realitionship...And that's not love.