Teenage Pregnancy: Abortion or Marriage?

Philippines
November 12, 2008 8:12pm CST
Two of my friends, which happens to be younger than me gets pregnant. They told me that the first thing that comes up in thier mind is aborting the baby. I told them not to do it because of the disadvantages it bring. Fortunatelly they listened. Teenage girls now usually was overwhelmed on what they should do! whats the right thing to be done? abort? get marriage?
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@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
I think abortion is never the answer. The mother does not have to right to decide for the life of the baby just because she doesn't want to face the consequences of her actions. I think the baby should always be given the right to live. As for the marriage, the mistake has already been done but getting married just for the baby is not always the right decision to make. If the couple loves each other and is really sure that they want to commit themselves to each other then marriage is good. But if they are still very young and not sure of themselves, then maybe it would be better if the father would just support the child but no commitment to the mother. Because if they don't love each other then they get married, they might just cheat on each other or hurt each other whether emotionally or even physically. They would resent each other for being forced into the marriage.
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
fortunately the 18 year-old friend of mine and her partner is currently lived-in, i see no problem with her beau since now i really see the changes he made, and how welling he is on finding a good job. But as to my other friend shes working alone and her parents can't support her financially since they don't have worked either, and worst! the girlfriend of her ex-bf keeps on calling her and telling her bad things... How will moved on?
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
thanks by the way for dropping by.
@nadooa247 (1097)
• United States
13 Nov 08
depends on how young these girls are. I am totally against abortion but if you are talking about 13 or 14 year olds or even 15 year olds they shouldnt have been with a partner in that way in the first place. But abortion might be the only option. If they can not provide for the baby but are willing to keep the baby till birth, and then give the baby to a family that can provide him/her a wonderful life, that is an alternative. That way the baby gets a wonderful life that the mother perhaps couldn't provide, and the girls don't feel forced into marriage. This will serve as a lesson about using protection or even perhaps abstaining till they DO get married years from now.
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
19 and 18 actually, 19 has worked already, and is planning to moved on a higher salary to support her baby, and on the other hand 18 doesn't. thank you for dropping by.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Well I am pretty much happy that you were able to stop them from doing it. Well I am not into aborting life when it is already there. Marriage is not an option too since I think they are still young at age. I guess they must learn the consequences for their actions in there. Although it may scar them in life but the lesson they will learn from it would really make them stronger that is if they would not do anything stupid with their being mother at their age.
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Yeah, pretty good they listened... thanks for dropping.
• United States
13 Nov 08
They should do what THEY want to do, not what you think is right or wrong. It's their life, not yours. THEY will be the one raising the child. THEY will be the one staying home from school with a sick child, not you. You need to remain neutral on the subject and let THEM do what THEY want. It's not about you, it's about THEM. Getting married only because of a pregnancy is a sure-fire way to be miserable the rest of your life. If she wants to abort, then she should abort. If she wants to keep it, then she should keep it. If she wants to adopt it out, then she should adopt it out. You have no say in what they do. Be there for her. Be her friend. But keep your opinions to yourself.
@maximax8 (27048)
13 Nov 08
Yesterday I saw a teenage mother with a baby boy and then a teenage mother with a baby girl on the bus. I think that in having the baby each made a responsible choice. If they had aborted the baby then this might have made them depressed. I would be superb if the father of each baby is a caring dad but the two teenage mothers seemed to be doing a good job of bringing their baby up. I don't think marriage is essential because it should be for the reasons of love and compatibility. If a teenage girl gets pregnant she might be able to continue her education and put her child into day care so that she can work. By the time she is in 35 years old her child will be grown up. She could then achieve any dreams like going around the world for example. I would never have an abortion because I believe life begins at conception. Teenage girls might not be mature enough to understand that having an abortion would be painful emotionally and that they could regret it for the rest of their life. Each person must do what is right for them. For a teenage mother I think keeping her baby would be superb and adopting her baby would be great whilst aborting her baby would be very sad.