Why do good girls get attracted to "bad" guys?

India
November 13, 2008 1:04am CST
I have often wondered about this...And I would like all the Guys on this site to answer me.....Why is it that Girls who want to get married/serious relationship always get drawn to the "wrong type" of Guy, who hates commitment? Is there any specific reason?.....Please do share your views on this. Also why is it that some guys want to have multiple girl friends at the same time? Iam just curious....So be frank;-)
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• Malaysia
13 Nov 08
Its a human nature to discover things and learning new things every now and then. It seems that the bad guys really had more tricks in his sleeve rather than the conventional good guys. They break the law, they looks cool and spontaneous. These character will surely attract the girls to know more about it. The thrill of having being there within the bad guys is an experience the will share amongst their friends. The unpredictable kind of person with a "free" personality really makes them want to know more and more..but I'm not that 'bad' huh...
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• India
13 Nov 08
I think u do have a point!!!
@TerryYuan (229)
• China
13 Nov 08
so ,where r the good girls, r u a good girl? maybe the bad guys have good idea.
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• India
13 Nov 08
Of Course Iam a good gal....lol!;-)
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
i guess im not one of those girls... :) and im hoping my daughter would not end up with those kind of guys...
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• India
13 Nov 08
I am sure ur daughter is as smart as u;-)
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
I believe it is because OPPOSITES ATTRACTS. Such an old cliche but oh so true. Most of the time couples are opposites but in a way has something in common too. The tendency is to look for someone who has some characteristics that one does not have.
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• India
13 Nov 08
Yes OPPOSITES DO ATTRACT I agree with u...but, in this case I would hardly describe it that way. The relationship is never healthy as the expectations are totally different. U kinda always feel why cant I completely have this guy..Tell me how many girls out here like sharing their boy friends?
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@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
13 Nov 08
i think it is because, the good girls like to experience the bad side of life, like thay say, girls flirt bad boys, they don't take them home, the good guys is who they take home. The bad girl on the other hand have kinda seen it all, so they need a good, even shy guy that will be there for them.
@23uday (2998)
• India
13 Nov 08
Hi frnds, The good girls get more attracted to bad guys even to attract to good guys. The girls think that who good and bad guys with their relationship.Now the girls were attracting to only the bad guys not the good guys with the relationship.
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• India
13 Nov 08
It may sound kind of obvious, but could it be something to do with the old 'opposites attract' saying? Maybe 'good' girls like 'bad' boys because they are different to themselves. Maybe the appeal of a 'bad' guy is because he does not conform with society - you know, just something different. There was a 'bad' guy I liked when I was back in Yr 10 - we got put together for an assignment once, and I asked him to actually put some effort in (because he never handed up work). He did do some work, and we both got a good mark. He was a real **** to some people, but he was always nice to me. Usually though, I would say I tend to go more for the 'good' guys. Or the ones I can't have (not that I actually do anything to go after them).
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@deepakchp (341)
• India
13 Nov 08
Good or bad its depend on the character of each person.For one girl a boy may be bad but for other one he should be good.
• India
13 Nov 08
True!!
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I am totally this way too. I think that us girls like to chase. We like the unattainable. If we meet a guy and he's a total bad a$$ then that is like the greatest thing. They are mean to us and push us away and we can't get enough of it. A lot of the time in my case especially I think I can change these men which is obviously dumb. In my case, if the guy would do a 360 and all of a sudden want me I would lose interest because the chase is over.
• India
13 Nov 08
Thats interesting...Thanks for writing in....;-)
@MKBORA (80)
• India
13 Nov 08
hi friend, as i can make out that you are a simple lonely guy just like me... its sad to see good and beautiful girls accompanied bad boys, and believe me, its unbearable. there were time when girls used to befriend good boys, not any more. there are solid reasons for all this:- 1. today in this expensive and fast world the girls know what they want. they want everything quickly and easily without much hype. 2. they want to use boys. they know that a good guy will always think good, do good, but the girls want enjoyment excitement and adventure. 3.they no more care about their family or society or anybody. they love their freedom and want to experiment with their life. 4. i have also seen college girls with bad boys with big gadget, they flaunt in style, they try to impress and at last they succeed. the girls as they know will soon get married, so she also want to do whatever she likes, because this is the time, its now or never for them. and some boys with multiple girl friend... these type of boys will first impress one girl, made her fall in love. then they start to befriend her friends. it is easy for him because he is in regular contact with his girlfriend and her friend... and in between him and his girlfriend he will start flirting with her other friend. as the boy is bad, and he knows that one day this girl will ditch him, so he try for the backups... whatever is the case today but the girls as well the bad boys know that they are not made for each other, both are using one another.and sooner or later they will split and they will move ahead in life. but i will suggest you my friend that beware of these girl friend... its better to be alone than with a girl who want to use you. they can use you in any ways and many ways... as they say why should boys have all the fun???
• India
13 Nov 08
Hey M K Bora....I just loved your reply...It was touching at the same time humourous....Firstly Am not a guy...Am a gal....But wat you said about yourself is very similar to how my boy friend was in college...He got me at the age of 28....Its not easy to find the write person....And u know wat...He is a very sweet, nice, dependable guy..... There is a lot of truth in wat u said abt today's woman.....But there are some nice gals out there as well...When she comes along , keep your heart open!!
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
wow this is interesting. i think good girls wanted to explore or wanted to have an adventure that's why they chose guys who are their exact opposite. they really wanted to give it a shot because bad guys makes a difference to the their lives. it teaches them to be strong and be not afraid to face life challenges and consequences. i consider it a balance of nature because if both good people are being paired then the one's together as well, what will happen to the world? there will be barrier and we can never be united again. this is just my opinion,anyway.
• India
13 Nov 08
Thanks a ton for ur opinion Despompa...was interestin :-)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
the reason why girls are attracted to "bad guys" is because of the challenge they are encountering during their relationship. some girls use to think that there will be a way that she can change his boyfriend/husband to be a good guy... its all about challenges plus the fact that being a bad guy is so thrilling. Some girls wants to be dominated by man like that. i should say that some girls likes men of that kind.
• India
13 Nov 08
U KNOW WAT....what u wrote is absolutely true.....Thats wat psychologists say as well....U nailed it!!! Great analysis....
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
I really have no idea but still I have fallen for some of those guys. Probably because opposite attracts and the bad boy image is more appealing to women nowadays because its more manly than those being sweet and romantic which they find boring in some ways.
• India
13 Nov 08
Great! I was also attracted to a few guys like that...But thank god that stopped with attraction...I would rather settle for a guy who is all mine....than be with a person who needs me to share him with others...;-)
@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
13 Nov 08
shankari_prabhu, Because a relationship is but two entirely separately individuals, with vastly different psychological mindset, personality and home environment, coming together - via freewill - in this imaginary bonds we call 'Relationship'. The truth is that we are not bounded into any relationship like what you could do to two items by tying them up with a nylon thread or rope. But we stay 'bounded' because in our hearts, we appeared to have melded into one. Therefore, in that sense, if we could detach this heart away from another just because the circumstance seemed 'fertile' for it, perhaps this love isn't functioning the way it ought to be. Love never stays stagnant; it either provides growth or degenerates. Therefore if you cannot seem to achieve growth, chances are, it could be declining subtly without your acknowledgement. And I can tell you that it's not just negligence that is causing this. Take care.
• India
13 Nov 08
So? What are u arriving at... ???
@nadec23 (63)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
That's what we call the "mystery of life" in relation to boy-girl relationship. Girls tend to like the idea of unraveling the incredible puzzle that is of a man. By then, they want to experience what it is like to be with a bad-guy image. They are basically repressed. And to have a bad-guy image in a relationship is an extension to their freedom. Having a good girl-good boy relationship would sound boring for some thus they try to make a turning point in another side of their love life.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
hello shankari_prabhu, In my own opinion, maybe good girls get attracted to bad guys because they're challenge that they might help the guy to change for the better. Remember the saying that opposite "character" attracts the most. Regarding with your other question, some guys want to have mulitiple girl friends at the same time, maybe because they want to prove their selves that they are really macho and got the look.
@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
Well, as they say opposite pole attracts. It gives undefineable excitement on the part of the gurls.
• Netherlands
13 Nov 08
Some guys like to get as many girls as possible. It's power for them. They think it's cool. I never really understood that. I'm more the loyal type. One is enough. I don't think girls/woman get attracted to bad guys. It just takes a very long time before you know if this person is a good or bad guy.
@nimnim74 (251)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
I think it a matter of preference in a guy because I know of somebody in which she's really attracted to a bad type guy and she's never attracted to a good guy.
@niqbloo (62)
• United States
13 Nov 08
So I'm not going to lie. I admit to playing it off as the "bad" guy to get a girl I want. I have no idea why it works though. Maybe the girls feel like that kind of guy can protect them? I have no clue though