Will You Commit Suicide If You Failed to Fulfill Your Promise?

@zhaychel (610)
United Arab Emirates
November 13, 2008 12:07pm CST
Just last week, my sister told me that a schoolmate of hers in college committed suicide. And the reason behind was he was too ashamed to tell his parents know that he'll not be able to graduate because he failed his subject. Since he felt so pressured because he promised to his parents that he'll be able to march on April graduation. He ended his life by hanging himself at his boarding house. I felt so sorry for this boy because his reasons was too shallow. WILL YOU DO THE SAME? OR YOU'LL FIND ANOTHER WAY?^^,
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@Marie5656 (336)
• United States
13 Nov 08
I feel bad for the friends and family of this person. They are the ones who will be forever devistated by this loss. And I am sure there will be plenty of guilt, especially on the parents part, even though it would not be justified. I am sure they will feel they pushed him to succeed, etc. I just feel sad that he felt this was the only solution to his problem and that he did not feel comfortable enough to talk it out with his parents, or a mentor at school. I think it was a gut reaction on his part which will have consequenses forever on the people he has left behind.
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
i have had a time where i was not able to keep a promise, and i did not think that i should be killing myself for it. no way. i know we need to keep our promises but then killing yourself won't make you keep the one you have broken already, right? the next time you make a promise, try hard to keep it.
@uditpanda (1023)
• India
2 Jan 09
No ways..i feel that the promise to live & the promise to live with a worth for others is the greatest promise that i have made. No other promise can overshadow that promise. Many promises come & go in life. They are a part of life not the life itself. Why waste a precious thing like life for a promise !!!
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
i will never take my life away. what i will do is find another way to make up for the promise that i was not able to keep. besides, if the other person really cares for me, he/she will understand that i wouldn't break my promise unless there i have a very good reason.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
14 Nov 08
yes that is very sad for the boy. But I'm thinking the parents are to blame. Why should he feel so bad, I mean what kind of standards did the parents have for this boy? Did they pressure him and push him? Would they have disowned him if he wasn't a college graduate? This is a sad world we live in and I think there is more behind the reason he would rather kill himself than to just tell his parents.
@Zodiacgg (14)
• India
14 Nov 08
i m not blaming the boy for what he did but the person who is responsible for these is his parents.Now days parents put so much pressure on their kids that most of the children tend to take these steps.but for the boy he must not have done these if i was in his place surely would have told my parents about the results n would have o convinced them that next year i would do better.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
14 Nov 08
i would never do that. that is so sad & the boys parents will never get over it. nothing is that important. ihave seen what it does to families when sonoe does that & it is very bad. i'm so sorry he chose to do that.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
14 Nov 08
During the four years at university, three students succumbed to study pressure and committed this terrible act. The found them hanged in the gent's toilet. It was a really shocking experience for me at that time. It is an act that I will never understand.
@derek_a (10902)
14 Nov 08
This boy in your example is a sad case, but who am I to judge him when I don't know him and don't live in his skin. Personally, I do my utmost to keep promises and commitments, but if because of some real emergency I am unable to do it, that is the way it is. I would certainly not end my life, as it would be my lesson to learn the consequences of not keeping my word. Which really wouldn't be so bad in the end anyway. We all need to forgive, especially ourselves. Then the whole world would be an entirely different place.
• United States
14 Nov 08
Wow, that's really sad! There's no way I'd do something like that! Hell, my family and myself had high hopes for my dream to become an astronaut since I was very young. What'd I do? I got pregnant two years through my Aerospace Engineering degree and quit to stay home and raise my baby. It's all about choices in life. My thoughts are with that family.
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
well i got to that point once when me and my ex fiance broke up it was painfull i loved him more than my life and it was so sad i drank 4 iterax i thought i wont woke up but i did i guess to shows life moves on no matter what if you have not gained something you can still do other things and be succesfull in other lifes aspects thats what i realized that boy must have not felt that. but admitedly at times we get to that point cause we get weak to face reality but in life you have a choice, but its not a good option to live your life ending it.. you can still make things better..
@baileyq (68)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
I've failed in the past, and I must admit, it did cross my mind. When you're looking for an easy way out, you can't help it. But I'm glad I didn't. If I had, my family would've been devastated, I wouldn't be where I am now (heck, I wouldn't be anywhere), and I wouldn't have a loving husband and 3 adorable kids. I feel sorry for that guy's family, especially his parents. What they must be going through now is so much harder than what they would've gone through if he had not graduated. So many people around the world have gone through so many trials and still managed to make something of their lives. Life is beautiful. We just have to learn to look past all the ugliness.
@blonneth (11)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
hi zhaychel,in connection with that, i will not do the same of what he did,1st, there is many ways on how to tell our problems to others, specially in our parents, its just his self steam is very low,we should have a confidence to face our problems in life. to know how to survive in this world given by god...have a nice day ahead...godspeed
@niqbloo (62)
• United States
13 Nov 08
i wouldnever take my own life
@maria_k (925)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Ni way! I am too chicken to kill my self. You must be brave enough or to be despressed enough to think of a way out is to kill yourself. as for the situation of your sister roomate, I think it's sad. Parents should not put pressure on their kids . They need to leave their kids alone.