Do You Make Friends Easy? How do you make Friends

@Boraxo (225)
United States
November 13, 2008 4:52pm CST
Do you make friends easy, and how do you make friends? I have always been a friendly sorta guy and making friends has always been fairly easy. How I make friends I suppose is the real question. I am somewhat outgoing, sense of humor, and not normally bashful. I will talk to most anybody about anything. I believe sharing conversation is how you get to know people and for myself seems the most practical way to meet new friends. Todays world offers many social medias to meet friends and this is a fairly common method of meeting friends. To meet new friends do you go to bars,events, social networks, malls, laundry mats? Is making friends for you hard or easy? How do you make friends?
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28 responses
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
yeah, i make friends easy, like for instance sharing my food to them or entertaining them by introducing myself, my company where i connected. It's really nice to make friends while in the event or special occasion it's nice to talk with the stranger and make friends.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I also like to prepare food for friends and share a nice afternoon just sharing thoughts and conversations.
@efarmer (184)
15 Nov 08
Making friends for me is very difficult. I am a shy kind of a person and often keep to myself. I dont talk to anyone unless I have to. If someone talks to me I dont shrug them off but it is difficult for me to initiate a conversation which is required to make friends.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
That is e beauty of the internet you can make new friends, and converse with them in your own comfort zone.
@glords (2615)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I used to be great at making friends. I never worried about spending the summer in a different town, because I'd always have plenty of friends by the end of the week. As I got older, it got harder for me. I don't go out and actively try to make friends, but I do seem to always find friends in my life. When I was a working girl, I had plenty of friends from the office, a college girl, I had plenty of friends from class, and now as a stay at home mom I have friends from the park, story time, baby sign language class... etc.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I have found as I have gotten older that friends are more important, as my children have grown and I have more time to spend quality time with my friends.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 08
well making friends for me is real big problem. I make very selective friends, those are the ones who are good friends. Apart from good friends i have timepass friends as well, and they aloooot. But making good friendship with them is alot difficult for me because I dont have confidence in me to talk to them freely. I think this is a negative point of mine.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Sounds to me your doing just find....the fact that you have a select group of good friends is a good thing.
@Firefly99 (251)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I tend to make friends to easily for my own good sometimes? I am just a very outgoing love everybody friendly girl and it has gotten me in trouble in the past? Not everyone I befriended was a very good friend.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I can relate, not all my choices on whom I chose as friends were very good friends.I would think that I have more good ones than bad ones*smile* because the bad ones are not really friends just bad choices.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I have never been the type of person to make friend easy because I have always been a shy quiet person who kept to myself and never talked to anyone unless they talked to me,and when I was in school I used to get picked on a lot,so that was one of the main reasons I kept to myself,I hung out with my self,and I preoccupied my time with television and video games,which was fine with me,even though I did have a few friends and as I got older they taught me to speak out and to not be so quiet and to talk to people,and I agree sharing conversation is the best way to get to know someone and to make friends with someone,and going to places like bars,mall,and going on social networking sites like myspace are all good places to make friends and even mylot is a good place to meet new people,especially since you can meet people from different countries,and different cultures which is always nice,and I think that making friends can be easy,but it can also be difficult especially if you are a shy person,that is afraid to talk to people,and I have always had trouble making friends,but now I do not have as much trouble,especially since now I am with my fiance,and she has showed me that I am a good person,and not a loser,so I feel better about myself,and will actually talk to people,and the way I normally make friends is by going out and say hey how are you and then talking to them,or if it is someone online I will message them and start chatting with them,and ask them to be my friend,and it usually seems to work for me.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Congrats on the girlfriend, maybe the best friend of all.
@kolsnt87 (27)
• India
14 Nov 08
the most toughest of the lot well i think making friends is simple but nurturing and making it to grow lies the real test of temperament character and patience,i feel place is never a constraint for making new frnz the only thing is a rite one must be found out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!making new frnz is quite a tough scenario for me
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Pehaps these things come to friends without a burden. I find that being supportive of friends is not a difficult task because I care for them. Patience would and is one area that I have difficulty with myself. As I have become older patience has gotten easier. One friend comes to mind, I care for her very much, but my patience with her has lessen the friendship because it is always drama, drama, and more drama. Over the years I was always willing to go the extra mile to try and help her in times of need. However, like a broken record same ole same and my patience has grown weak. For some they have to find their own way out of a rut, for others you can offer your hand and help pull them up, after many attempts with your hand extended and they do not reach out then the hand retracts.
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
14 Nov 08
Like you, I am also a sorta friendly and approachable person, and I would like people to think that I am such a guy when they encounter me. I have no problems making friends. People in my culture here though are quite shy about opening themselves up and making new friends. Often I find that people are inherently friendly, but there seems to be an artificial barrier between them, and usually all it takes as an ice breaker is for one party to just offer a smile and say a simple "hello", and the other party will reciprocate and start talking. Until that "hello" is said, the two parties can just look at each other like complete strangers (actually they are). In cyberspace, things are somewhat different. Making friends is simpler I feel. Like myLot here, all of us just make friends by posting responses. There is no face to face encounter, so no barrier to stop someone communicating with others. All you need is to type in some text to a discussion and fire it out, and you have started chatting with someone else you don't know, like what I am doing now 'talking' to you. It's the same with internet relay chat, where you can actually be talking to people you don't even know, and they become your instant friend.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I agree some find communicating easier through the different types of media offered on the internet. I think that this is one of the most positive things about interactive sites that allow a person to share, without the restraints of sterotyped first impressions. For example a person can share what he/she wants and become friends with many different people of differnt cultures. If a person chooses not to disclose certain aspects of their lives, and communicates with a person that would not normally communicate with them because of their differences in lifestyles...barriers, predjuices, and preconceived notions are limited and a quality communication can happen without the sterotype.
@23uday (2998)
• India
14 Nov 08
Hi frnds, I will make frnds easily to me.I always make a frnds.When i go my frnds house i met my frnd their his frnd also come to his house and i will talk to him i will a make new frnd to me.I will in social helper,frndly nature,positive mind,etc. I always frndly nature to my new frnds and old frnds.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I agree to show the williness to help one another, and showing a positive outlook on life will make it easier to make new friends.
• India
14 Nov 08
no its very hard to do.... my self its not easy to do...
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I would gather from the short response that perhaps you might want to try sharing a little more of yourself with others *SMILE* It is like you just said "no", and maybe that is enough of an answer and no further conversation is needed, it would seem that maybe this discussion just doesn't require anymore conversation for you. I wonder if the question was "Why is it hard for you to make friends?" would you just say "I don't know".
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I am a fairly outgoing person who will talk to pretty much anyone. I chat with clerks at the store, people in lines if we wait a long time, you name it. LOL What can I say, I like to talk! But, when it comes to making friends I struggle. Yes I get along with everyone, but I haven't figured out a way to make friends that I can socialize with. I've lived in my current town for over three years now and I can honestly say I don't have a single friend. I have people I know and see to talk to - but no friends to "hang out" with. Since I don't attend a Christian church that isn't an option like so many people suggest. And since I'm at home most of the time thanks to health problems I don't work so I don't meet people that way either. In a couple of months I'll be moving again to another town. I'm hoping once there I can make friends somehow. I want to have people over to play cards, have BBQs or go to dinner with. How I'll accomplish this I have no idea.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I would suggest that you become active in areas that interest you. If you like certain things say BBQs go to places that have BBQ contests and I am sure you will meet people who share you interests in BBQ. Join some clubs,that you have an inerest in. Join a canasta club if you play canasta.....well I think you catch my drift.
@deewee (1)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
Making friends for me is easy. I am use to meeting friends before as far as i remember when I was in my grade school. What i usually do is start talking about anything interesting under the sun. Of course, I mean every related intellectual questions you would ask a new friend you meet. Making friends is really one interesting activity we as individuals get along with. I mean its part of our communication skills and social skills.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I agree that friendship is an end result from communication skills and social skills. If you projection is one of positive outlooks on like you will most likely develope friendships with people with positive outlooks. On the other hand if you projection is one of negative outlooks.....well good luck with that.
• China
14 Nov 08
I am a shy person, I do not make a new friend for a long time. my social zone becomes small and small, it seems that ther is a little chance to make new friends for me. Although I am always a friendly person, I do not have a habit to talk with strangers. How to be a talkable person? waht topic can you talk with new friends?
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
That is a good question....what do you talk about when you first meet a stranger? I am a spur of the moment type of communicator, so the conversation could be weather, something relevant to the location, what one is wearing, sports,for myself just about anything. The trouble with my approach to people is that maybe they could care less about the Seattle Mariners so I would rarely say"How bout dem Mariners" but if it is a miserable down pour of rain and you say something as simple as "I can not stand all this rain", knowing that they probable can not stand all the rain as well starts off with something in common. So I would answer to begin a conversation with something you precieve as being a common interest.
• China
14 Nov 08
Hi I like to make new friends,the more friends the more you can talk to when u are sad. yeah,i think so...when you are not happy you need to talk to your friends then you'll feel more comfortable.do you think so? I am easy out going,and easy to talk to you,It's easy for me to me make friends on the street or when i m on the bus long ride.hehe but just for if i really want to. ;) take care! cheers
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Yes it is good to have friends to comfort us when we are sad, myself I prefer not to be very active with my friends when I am troubled because I do not want my friends to be upset or sad just because I am. I do a select few who will know and not let up until we have talked, as they feel it is their duty to be there in time of need.
• China
14 Nov 08
For me, it is a little difficult to make friends. I am not outgoing and good at talking. I am with myself at most of time. Seldom I go to take part in social activities. Sometimes I do like to make friends, but sometimes i don't. I haven't better ways to make more friends.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
A small group of friends for someone not that outgoing and talkative is probably as good as a forward, outgoing person with many friends because in all honestly I would guess that the outgoing person has probably about the same number of friends as the not so talkative person, that they really socialize with, but perhaps just a larger cicle to chose social activities from.
@jayyerex (224)
• Canada
14 Nov 08
I think you really need to show that you are a caring person. If you can do that you can make friends quite easily. I've made the majority of my friends by joining social groups and believe it or not through work. Once you have broken the ice it is easy enough to show that you are interested in them and there well fare. Although if someone has no desire to open up to you then there is not much you can do about it. You either keep on trying with that person or you move on to someone who does want to be your friend.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
As easy as it is for me to make friends, at work I am not that successful. I am a QA manager/Technical Director, and not many want to hang out with the guy that is always telling them what need to improve, or what is not being done correctly. That is a challenge but then again for me friendship at work is not really the place I seek friendship as I see enough of these people everyday and outside the workplace the interaction with my co-workers is non existent.
@mengrufa (239)
• China
14 Nov 08
Making friends is a kind of skill. One who want to make friends may often paticipate some public activities and tend to have a free or open talk to others, in other words, the one who can make a lot of friends must be a very talkable person. However, some may not like a talkable man, for they may think he should be the kind of man who talks always no an end. SO, in my opinion, actions speak louder than words. for me, it is easy, whoever comes to me, i always have a pleasant talk to him or her and make them be confidence of me by my honesty.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Yes talk is easy and I agree action speaks louder than words. When one first makes friends we can not expect too many actions other than honesty, politeness, and concern for mankind in general.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
14 Nov 08
Well, not very easily to be honest. While making converstion with people may be easy to go that extra step and get more to know them more and get friendly does not happen to often with me. It has a lot to do with the comfort i feel in thier presence or while communicating with them.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I agree it goes beyond the conversation, however I think what you learn from the conversation determines if going to the next step of friendship is warranted.
14 Nov 08
Truthfully no i dont go out much to do that. I dont understand y i cant bring myself go out and do that. Do u have any ideas on that? Im not a social person.I wish i was but i guess a person at 43 years dont get scared at anything but i have been this way all my life.I dont make friends all that much at all. I do get leary of people that i dont know.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Well I have found that their are just some people we do not like. Only suggestion I would have is to have a smaller social group that fulfills your needs, build some trust and gradually branch out into a larger group if you want too. We do not need a million friends to be content in life but at least a few to communicate with that share common interests. I recall and not that many years ago that if not for my children I would just become a recluse ,as I was so disgusted with mankind in general and angry at God, I was disappointed in myself and wanted to put blame on man and God, and I think perhaps if at that time, what I needed most was perhaps s friend.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Yes, I do make friends easily. I normally start with hello or smile then a handshake. From then, friendship starts and just be yourself. I dont need to go to the bars to meet friends. You can only meet f*cking friends in bars and laundry mats. LOL. Social networks helps.
@Boraxo (225)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Not so sure about your reference to bars and laundry mats but I would suspect that is one type of friends you could meet there, but you might also meet some friends that share the common interest of darts,pool,sports and spirits,and I threw the laundry in there to see if anyone would pick up on the friends you reference *SMILE* however I have never met those friends in a laundry mat because I have a washer/dryer.