do you think its worth leaving your family for working abroad?

United States
November 13, 2008 5:16pm CST
Long distance relationships are very common now a days specially to third world and developing countries. Either one of the spouse goes to another country to look for a greener pasture or earn a living. There are many different comments and ideas regarding this. Some are positive and others are negative....specially in the effect of family unity. Do you think its worth leaving your family in order to work abroad? What's your opinion in this?
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@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I don't think so. Family is more important than money. You'll get and spend so much money, but you will only ever have one family. Especially when you have kids. Children need to have their parents in their life. When they are all grown up, they aren't going to remember all the expensive clothes or the presents you bought them, they are going to remember the time they spent (or didn't spend) with you. They are going to remember all the things you missed and all the times they missed you. There is more to life than money.
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• United States
24 Nov 08
Well that's true i mean I see your point in staying for the family however, I completely understand why people specially from third world countries like the Philippines need to leave their families for a good work abroad. Its mostly for economic unstableness and people are just hopeless to find any stable jobs enough to support their families. If looking for a greener pasture for the future of their kids is the main purpose in leaving I guess its worth the sacrifice, kids will understand that it was done for their benifit and welfare.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I wouldn't go for more money in exchange to leaving my family behind even if it was okay with my spouse. Working abroad means months and years of not just working hard for that money but missing all the good times I could have had with my family especially if there were small children left behind. You see if you leave when a child was 2 then you go back to see that same child turns 5? Think about it - you missed 3 yrs of that child's growing up period and that's big thing to me cause I could never turn back the hands of time. Never!
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Nov 08
i guess its not worth it...some families or members of the family resorted to bad things due to the absence of both parents or the wife or the hubby..due to working overseas..for practical reasons parents need to do that..since its their responsibility to give their children a good education,food and shelter...its like a gamble you know...and i agree with you about the results...the negative and positive effects on families..
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Well, in my opinion... if I have to choose I will never leave my family behind. If there is an opportunity for me to work abroad i should bring my family with me. There are many broken homes because of this situation. Either of the party has elicit relationship with another person because of human needs ,,, hahaha.. seriously, if you really love your family, you will never cheat. But temptation is so strong when husband and wife live separately. So, In my opinion, it is not good for them to be separated. They should go together.