Do you think you can satisfy everyone around you?

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@smilyn (2964)
United States
November 13, 2008 7:48pm CST
I really hate this. I feel that we can never satisfy everyone around us. It is not needed too. Once you start trying to satisfy people around you, you will loose your originality. You cannot have a peaceful life. So I try to lead a happy life in which I do not hurt others.At the same time, I do not loose my happiness too. What do you feel? Do you think you can satisfy everyone around you?
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@diillu (5130)
14 Nov 08
I myself think that trying to satisfy people around us is simply not necessary. It's impossible to satisfy all the people around us cause they will always happen to find some reason to put us down. They are never satisfied no matter how hard we try. There's always going to people who will simply find mistakes on the things that we do. So, I think it is important to think about people who are closer to me rather than satisfying all the people.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
When we keep on doing something to satisfy someone, it will really affect the happiness of either our own self or someone else. Infact we would loose our originality because of this.
@Ithink (6014)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Not only do I think that it cant be done (unless you have very few in your life), I dont think it is or would be healthy for someone to be like this. No matter who the person is if they continously want something it can wear you down, add a few more people and then were are you? I used to be like this and I tell you, I felt awful, never had time for me (sounds selfish but everyone needs their own time), and it made me very grumpy! LOL! I started doing for me and the ones that are mine (family) and even then within a limit. I have just a very few friends that I would drop something for. Other then that Im no longer interested in satisfying everyone elses needs, sometimes other things need to come first.
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• India
22 Mar 09
very true,,,,,,,sum 1 said ...frnd is nt lik rain drops u and goes away bt itz lik air dats silent bt alwaz around u,,,,bt wat i gt wz totally reverse f dis....d silence killed me...and dropped me and went away...i used 2 satisfy oder z bt no more ,,,,m selfcentred nw.....cant satisfy all.....nt intrested in satisfying ....actully nt ....ready 2 hurt myself while caring for oderz.......
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Every individual has each own degree of satisfaction. My satisfaction may not be your satisfaction. So I guess we can not really satisfy other people. We have our own different needs. Whatever we do, even if it will be the best for us if it will not be the best for others then we can't really satisfy all their wants. So we just have to do what we think is the best no matter what other people might think and do. We just have to be ourselves and be true!
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
yes..I like to be just as how I'm ..I think even my friends expect the same thing from me. It is always better to react according to our own character. Because when you start doing things just for the happiness of others, oneday it will look like an artificial thing.
@Porcospino (16435)
• Denmark
14 Nov 08
I don't think it is possible to satisfy everyone. There will always be people who disagree with you and people who think that you should have done things in a different way. I used to be a "people pleaser" I always wanted to satisfy everyone and I was so busy making other people happy that I ended up making myself unhappy. It is like the story about the man, his son and the donkey (no matter what you do, someone will think you are doing the wrong thing)
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
You are absolutely right. It is not necessary to be a people pleaser. I too have seen many like this. They do many things just to make others happy. They won't mind about their own self happiness. Infact sometimes they even do things that they don't want to..just to please people.But it is very difficult to continue the same thing as oneday you will be frustrated by this.
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
14 Nov 08
No, you can never satisfy anyone nor please everyone. No matter what you do...in the end you may hurt them or they will hurt you. Don't sweat in making everyone happy. You'll be just fine.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
17 Nov 08
your words are really true..At the end of anything, it would be very clear that either of the two would be hurt or unhappy..
@bfarrier1 (2083)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I think to satisfy everyone around you would be impossible since everyone is different and dont view things in the same manner.I would not even try to attempt it,and I am very happy.You have a great night.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
That is fine.It would be better not to take any attempt to satisfy other as it is really impossible.
@impexp (246)
• China
14 Nov 08
I believe that no one's perfect,thus I know I could never satisfy everybody around me. Since everyone hold different ideas to life, work and other fields, it is unnecessory to meet the other people's standard by changing you yourself.I do not care somebody does not satisfy with me cause I only want to be myself.However I would like to know the reason and if it is my fault to make them unhappy,then I would make some changes if their comment is really helpful to me.That's all.
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I also feel the same way. You cannot make everyone feel satisfied or happy. If we keep on focus on this isuue, then we would loose our own happiness. Also, it is not that we have to keep on changing ourself to satisfy others..
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
14 Nov 08
I do not think that you can satisfy everyone around you. Especially if two people want two different things from you. I have been in this situation before and it is not easy. I just try to do the best that I can and not hurt anyone in the process.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
yes, it is very difficult to satisfy everyone. It is always better to lead a happy life in such a way that it does not hurt others.
@Swaana (1208)
• India
14 Nov 08
If we start satisfying others at one point of time, we start loosing our self. Every individual have their own self and it always gets ruptured and at many times damage personal life and image. And many a times people take advantage of this and they just take you for granted which is not what you had expected from that action of satisfying them. I always try the maximum to live for myself and the people who try to satisfy to some extent are my immediate family. This way I dont hurt others and I too dont get hurt.
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@Zodiacgg (14)
• India
14 Nov 08
see u cant satisfy ever person around u coz they all have different mindsets yet we make efforts to satisfy not all but some of them which we like.But many a times in dong so we tend to hurt others these should not be done n personally i take care of these.
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@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
Man has no satisfaction. So I am not bothering about this. It is okay if they are not satisfy with me for as long as I did my best to give them the satisfactions they are needed. At first I will do my best to give what they need but if they are not satisfied I'd rather change my strategy for their benefit also. I'll do my best.
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 08
The saying goes, you can please some people some of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time and that is so true! And you can die from trying to please some people who are totally unpleasable! You have to be self-centred, rather than selfish, because you need to satisfy yourself and if you start satisfying other people before yourself you become a doormat to others and they play on it and will successfully manipulate you into satisfying them, does that make sense?
@icegermany (2524)
• India
19 Nov 08
i agree with you as it is very difficult or impossible to satisfy the people around us as they expect more and more and we have to do more and more for them and as you tell we surely lose our originality and keep satisfying them and there is nothing left for us in life and except serving others. life is given once so i thing we should not waste it and i am not telling that we shouldnt do any thing for others but at the same time we are not going to hurt them and i think this is more than enough for them to be happy and also we can lead our life happily but most of the times it cant happen and we need to give up our wishes and thoughts to keep others feeling and respect them and that is what happens most of the times in life as i experience it and now i have thought hat i would not only give up things and i would also try to gain things which i want to.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
19 Nov 08
No, I am not able to satisfy others. I know that I can't. I will waste all my time trying to. They will never be happy with what they will do for you. So why should I bother trying to make them happy? Especially when they don't want to accept my love that I have to offer to them..
@dana234 (2126)
• Spain
19 Nov 08
I don't think it's possible to satisfy everyone around you, no matter how hard you try. In fact, the harder you try the more unhappy you feel. And you're very likely to loose your sense of humour. I'm talking from experience here. And I have to mention that I was only trying to please ONE person. I've learned my lesson. Too much eagerness can make others feel uncomfortable and doesn't do anything for your own happiness.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
hi, smilyn we cannot really please everybody because i guess there are just people who find something wrong amidst the good intentions. what i do is just try to do what i am supposed to do and try not to hurt anybody. if i have casualties, i say sorry. if somebody is unhappy with me despite my efforts, hey it's their problem. in turn, when i start to get unhappy with somebody, i try to look at the intention and the effort behind and outgrow the disappointment. take care and have a nice day!
• Indonesia
15 Nov 08
no, i wont be able to satisfy all ppl around me. but i can do my best when they need me, if wat im doing can makes them enough happy, i'll be grateful. if not, at least i've done the best. we're just a human, an ordinary person..while there r many ppl out there who desire many things from us, which we cant always accomplish it..
• China
15 Nov 08
I can not satidfy everyone around me, and I donot want to satisfy all of them. I have my own life, and my own life style, which donnot hurt any of them. I aggree with your opinion that to satisfy everyone around you, you will loose yourself. You will not know who are you, what do you live for, it is really a sad thing.
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
No and nobody can't. People --- and I mean EVERYONE will always have different opinions about things. There always be something one is not satisfied about. In my work, I encounter different kinds of people and my thoughts are, as long as I know that I am not hurting others, I'm well.
@robinemz (211)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
definitely not. everyone is different therefore it's impossible to please everyone.