i can`t live with my daughter
5 Feb 07
Sounds like my oldest daughter ..... she blames her mother when she is with us because we separated ..... blames me when she is with her mother .... daughter is the problem herself. She is dirty .... will not bath or change her clothes or wash her hair or anything. My partner ordered her to bath last time she was her and daughter flounced our of house .... came back ages later drunk as anything and abusive. I came home that night and kicked her out of the place till she learnt some manners and respect ..... my partner has put up with a lot of crap from my daughter for no reason at all. She is now a single mother .... on benefits and will not work .... always blames someone else for everything that happens .... lies and steals. My sister-in-law refuses to have my daughter at their place and if brother and his wife arrived here to find daughter had arrived they would have a cup of coffee and leave ..... after driving for about 4 hours to get here. I told my daughter at my step-daughter's wedding she either got her act into gear or not to come back near us.
7 Jan 09
Just to update you hope on what has happened with my daughter. Not long after I read her the riot act, the father of her son came back into her life and wanted to spend time with his son. It seems that his parents had also told him it was time he acted responsibly and did the right thing by his own son. They told him even if he didn't want to know his own son, they did .... plus he had a responsibility to contribute financially for his son. He too had no money, no job and nowhere to live so his parents allowed him to return home .... on certain conditions ..... "no drink" rule in their home .... get out of bed every morning and look for work, keep clean, help around the home etc. They were tough but it did work with him and after a few months he contacted my daughter to see his son. The whole family are besotted with our grandson! His mother is a sensible woman .... suggested they take the time to get to know each other before renewing a phyiscal relatiionship. She looks after our grandson so they could date ... insisted all of them be neat, clean and tidy when they were with her or at her home. In fact she was great then and still is now and because she was so determined our grandson would have a decent life, she pulled no punches. The young man got a job which was casual in the beginning but became a permanent one only a few months ago .... after a year of casual work. My daughter works casual 1 afternoon a week and paternal grandma babysits plus 2 evenings per week when his father minds him. Just 6 months ago daughter moved into granny flat at rear of her boyfriend's parents place ... but strict rules in place. They are not living together yet but it will happen I am sure .. his Mum says if they live together or even spend 3 nights/week together, then they have to declare it which mean daughter loses benefits etc. Funny how a "perfect stranger" can get into some heads what we parents can never do in a million years. They plan to marry in a couple of years time ..... they want all the trimmings and we are not prepared to pay anymore for their wedding than we do for any of our other children. His parents will not contribute to the wedding .... have told my partner and I they will help the young couple .... when they prove they are mature and responsible. Both my daughter and her boyfriend have been told there are to be no more children until after they are married .... if she gets pregnant then it will be a small private wedding! Oh and hope ... both his parents work for Cenrelink. I just love that. lol
• United States
14 Apr 07
Tell her you will wash her mouth out with soap, and then do it. I know she is grown, but you shouldn't have to put up with the foul language. Get a bar of soap and write your daughters name on it, and also write potty mouth soap. You will have to remind her and show her the soap, and hopefully she will start to remember. Its a bad habit, and hopefully she will stop soon.
16 Feb 07
I am sorry I have not had to be in this position before my daughter is still only 10 years old. Are there any support groups that can help with this??? Maybe not for your daughter but for you. To remind you that you are not alone and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck, and know there is an ear here if you need to rant or rave.