What will you do if you caught your boyfriend cheating on you?

Philippines
November 15, 2008 4:21am CST
This is a very hurting experience for me. My bf might have forgot that he gave me his password before... because i told him im not gonna open his account coz i trust him. recently i heard stories that he is having an affair to other girl and as i gf i feel it that there's really something wrong. Last week i tried if he has the same password and he yes he didnt changed it! I have read emails from both of them... there correspondence... i havent cried, i havent reacted and i didnt knew what to do! but ofcourse it hurts me so bad... i tried to broke up with him but he explained something blah-blah... i can feel it that he's telling a lie but i forgive him... i know im weird and maybe crazy! but i love him! what do you think you will do if you were me?
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8 responses
@messageme (2821)
• United States
18 Nov 08
He would definitly be out!! It don't matter how much YOU love someone, if they don't love you back then what's the point? he is just going to keep on hurting you. It might be a week from now or a year, but it will happen again! Like Tina Turner always said "what's love got to do with it"
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hello messageme... thanks for your response.... how would u think about me if i tell you that i forgive him and gave him the chance to prove to me that it will never gonna happen again?
@messageme (2821)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I wouldn't think anything of it. I have been there myself. If your not ready to leave then it isn't going to happen. YOU have to be ready! But from my experience he will do it again. It's your choice though. I do wish you the best of luck and the best comes out of your situation. I don't dream that on anyone.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I already did. I forgave him. But he did it again so I have to say good bye to him. I will not allow myself to get hurt over and over just coz I love him so much. I need to have self-respect too.
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Hello Shar... thank you fro yoru response... so, i think its fine if i gave him another chance... i think he deserves to given a chance... what do you think? did i made the right decision? i just hope he would do his promise that it will never happen again... thank you!
@Lucifey (93)
• China
17 Nov 08
Dump him without any hesitation, even it may hurt much for years. He can never be trusted any more. Do not believe his crap, he can betray you once, so the next time he will do the same thing.
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hello lucifey... what if i cant? becuase i love him... still love him... how would u think about me?
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Hello pinky_laces. Welcome to mylot. If you know that he's a great pretender and liar, then leave him. It will really hurt, but you must think about yourself, too. It will be healed and gone for sure. You're still young and the right one will come at the right time. Believe in the power of prayers. God will provide. See you in other discussions
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
cher joyce... thanks for the very good advice... :)
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I will leave him, and I will remove myself from such a deceitful relationship!
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hello cream97... thanks for ur response... what if i tell u i forgive him and we're still together now? what would u think about me? my friends think that im a fool... but they dont understand me... have u ever fall inlove?
@Rustinas1 (440)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I, as soon as I could, left my son's father for this reason when my son was 3 years old. I was told from a few friends that he was cheating on me while I was at work. I had asked him about it, more than once, and always told to get real and stop listening to crap and rumors like that. I believed him, until one day when I came home from work early. There was no denying my eyes, when I came home early and there he was in bed with a girl that was supposedly my best friend. Some friend, huh? Well, father or not, we were done. Friend or not, we were done. That was it, he lied plenty of times right to me and it was so devastating. I was the fool for believing him, but I didn't have the proof until then. I've never talked to her again, and not really him either unless need be. Guess what? That's how they started their little affair, online and chatting through email. I'll tell you what, most people will tell you that it's nothing, but in my book, if correspondence between two people is concerning, then be concerned and pay attention. Remember though, it takes 2 to tango. Unless of course the other person is lied to. Just be observant and pay more attention and don't be dupped. If they are talking indecent chatter, whether it's email, phone, in person, your radar should definitely be alert, because one thing leads to another. If really loves and respects you and he's being totally honest that there is nothing going on, then he's going to stop that right away and not let that kind of nonsence come between you two.
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hello Rustinas..thank you for sharing your thoughts and story with me... honestly, its hard for me to just let him go coz i still feel the love i have for him and m afraid i might regret if i let him go... im a crazy fool, right? i dont know why i feel this way... can i say this is real love??? OH MY GOD!!!! love is making me a fool!... my friends who knows my story were laughing and pissed at the same time... well, they dont understand my feelings... i just hope and pray that he will do what he have promised... again, thank you very much... hope u can share your thought with me again...
@mz_Ira (1091)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
If I were in your shoes I would definitely have felt the same. Love they say can make you weird and crazy in the eyes of others because you tend to go out of control of things that you should do but you arent because you depend on what you feel instead using heart and brain at the same time. It is really hard for you breaking up with him then him explaining and everything but then think of it you have read their emails and whatever is in those messages only you can judge if he really committed a sin to you. If he ever has, discard the feelings and take some time to think. You have better things to gain than to have someone who would play around you. You deserve better treatment. Someone who is honest and trustworthy.
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
hello mz_ira.... thanks for ur response... u know what... its really hard to decide... i can still feel the love i have for him... i am afraid i might just regret if i let him go... so... we're still together...(crazy fool!) i just wish and pray that everything will be fine and that he will do what he have promised to me... thank you so much!
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
30 Nov 08
Hi, pinky_laces. Welcome to myLot. This is understandably a very hurtful experience. I wish for you that you will respect yourself enough to know that you deserve to have someone who cares more for you than this.