In which family would you like to marry?

India
November 15, 2008 4:49am CST
If given a choice, which family would you like to get married in, a family where your spouse has a lot of brothers and sisters or a family whre yo r spouse had no brothers and sisters. Why? i personally woudllove to have a lot of brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law. it is great to have a large family to go into. Thre is alwasy somethng happening. Eiuther someone's birthday or an anniversary or some occasion to celebrate. Then thre is always someone to talk to if you go over. Ther is alwasy someone to receive you and see you off to.
5 people like this
23 responses
• United States
15 Nov 08
hmm i dunno.. while as yes family functions may be funner since there would be more people you arent guarenteeed that those people will LIKE you!! a lot of people have problems with their inlaws or at least part of the families of their significant others not liking them so really there wouldnt be any joy in having a huge family that hated you compared to a small family that did or did not like you.. heck if you had to get hated i would rather less people haha.. so i really couldnt say.. not to mention if it was a big family and every one DID like each other then you have to worry about affording gifts and making time to get to everyones things etc..
• India
15 Nov 08
If you keep worrying life will get rather difficult. Better not to worry too much. relax and take life as it comes. Have faith in yourlove to win people over and you can have a good time with a large family.
1 person likes this
• United States
15 Nov 08
lets just say my example is based upon experience..
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
15 Nov 08
For myself I wanted to be with a person that had a big united family that were very close. I come from a very small family and the ones that are in it are not very close. My sister is my best friend and I am close to my dad but that is the only family my three children have on my side. My partner however comes from a family of 12 children. They all live in the same small community with their children and even grandchildren now. Most people there are related in some way. It is nice because they are close and if you ever need help there is someone around. But as for closeness, I find that being related does not have that same feeling as when it is a small family. It isn't as special to them as it is to a smaller family. Like they have taken for granted that their are 200 family members around. While the few I have I hold very dear. I love the fact I have had three children. Today that is considered a bit larger and I hope to have a big but close family when they are adults.
• India
15 Nov 08
Today is an age of satellite families so people like to have only one child. but imagine how boring it is if you go to yor inlaws place an there is no one to talk to. if your husband had not a single brother ro a sister, wouldn't it be boring? if you had no sister how woudl it have been? i am sure if yo had a brother and a sister, yo woudl havbe had more fun. having a reasonable family is good. At least two if not more.
1 person likes this
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
18 Nov 08
I agree with you totally! :)
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I would marry into which ever family comes with my husband to be..I didnt and woulndt marry for the family, I did and would marry becaues I love the man...thats all that matters IMO
• India
15 Nov 08
probably you would, but i wouldn't. The family of the person you are marrying is as important as the person you are marrying. You have some support and someone to fall back on.e can not live in isolation.ometimes a man does things for the honour an dprestige of his family and does not do anything wrong. the influence of a family is very important. If my wifes family is good, I know I have nothing to worry about. I got married after seeign my wife's father. I knew if he is such a good person, there coudl be nothing wrong with his daughter. i have ben married for 27 years now and have no regrets.
@dandan07 (1908)
• China
17 Nov 08
I prefer the late one. My mother is the only child in her family, while my father only has a sister, I am also the only child in my family. So I only has a cousin. To me, I am not good at dealing with people, keeping in touch with my cousin is a great job to me. If there are many people in a family, I think I can not hold it well. Though having many people in a family can make the family warm and can have more funs.
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I would also like to marry a man with a big family if only for the reason you have pointed out.I also love celebration on any occassion.Happy to be together with relatives and friends alike.But a man with big number of family members can also mean big problems too.I don't say this is true for all.What I was trying to say is that what about if many differences was also with many family members.
@suegt31 (166)
• Australia
17 Nov 08
I would just like to say that i am now divorsed and my exhusband had no sibblings. The only way in which this was good is xmas time. I am now in a new relationship with a wonderful guy who has 3 sibblings. I love the fact they live in another place, but are close enough to go visit on weekends. They have opened their arms and excepted me into the family. I love having an extra two sisters to comunicate with. I get on great with one of them. I myself have four sisters to confide in. This is great and i wouldn't have it any other way. The two new sisters are just the icing on the cake. It's a whole new world with so many advantages. It gives you a diferent outlook on problems, a different point of view all together. I would have to say having been married to someone with no sibbling for about 17years and now being with a wonderful partner for 1year with sibblings is so much better.
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
This discussion remids me of something that really hurts me a lot.My boyfriend is an only child.For me,it doesn't matter as long as they treat me as family too.But hey did otherwise.They treaed me like sh1t ever since it became "us".I thought it was ok for the first few months sine they would get used to it sooner or later but it has already been two yrs and still they treat me that way.My parents never treated him that way.And one thing that made me sad is they took him away and I wasn't able to say goodbye to him and I have no idea when he'll be back.His dad picked a fight with me the other night but he lost.Oh... You know,it wouldn't matter if he belongs to a big family with lots of siblings as long as they welcome and treat you well and make you feel that you're part of the family.Ohana means family and family means nobody gets left behind or alone but I was mistaken when I encountered his family but I love him just the same.
@tinguz (1)
• Hong Kong
16 Nov 08
As long as the man, is not a mama's boy. A real man who can stand up for his kids and most specially for his wife.
@Emilyzhu (147)
• China
16 Nov 08
For me ,I would like to choose the family that has brothers and sisters ,because I am an extraverted gilr ,I like liveliness instead of peace .However ,it will not be good to have too many ,there will be many irrevocable troubles in that case ,maybe just one or two brothers or sisters is just okey .
• United States
16 Nov 08
Since I was an only child and come from a small family, I would like someone who also comes from a moderately small family. I'd like to have one or two sister or brother in laws, but not too many. If we were going to start a larger family, we can have more kids. Happy MyLotting!
@iamfine (740)
• China
16 Nov 08
I think I am marry to a guy, instead of marry to a family. So I will think which guy I like best. Given the 2 condition, one with big family, and one with small family, I really don't know how to choose. No matter what, when I get married, I hope my husband and I can live together, without his family memebers living together with us. We are young, we want to enjoy our lives. Some old generation may not tolorate what we done nowadays.
@nimnim74 (251)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
My husbands family is big, he got 7 siblings and I like it compare with my small family, I have so many cute nieces and nephew from their family and during reunion it's so fun and we can have a program in which some will have a dance number and others will sing.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
16 Nov 08
My fiance has one brother but he does not really talk to his brother, and he doesn't and does claim him as a brother. He's really my fiance's father's child, so he's a half brother. My own sister and brother are my half brother and sister. In any case, so in my own opinion my fiance has no brother as sometimes since we hardly see or hear from his brother, I forget he has one. He also has a sister in law, and his sister in law has children, but they are not his brother's kids. I think that having a small family when it comes to brothers and sisters are great, but having many cousins and aunts and uncles are even better. I enjoy hearing stories from older generations so while having people my age to talk to and have fun with is great, I also don't mind spending time with the older generation. So as sometimes your own age group can be fun to hang out with, sometimes it's just fun to hang out and hear stories from older generations. My fiance's family has more adults then young adults and children, so whenever my fiance and I and his parents go see his family, we see more of uncles, and great uncles then of young cousins. He has more older cousins then younger cousins anyway.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
I guess I'll go for marrying a guy with brothers and sisters. That would be fun. There would be more resources in getting to know my partner hehehe.. And besides, thinking of getting together with his family with lots of family members would be interesting and fun indeed.
• United States
16 Nov 08
I, myself, am the youngest of 12, and would find it really interesting if I found someone who came from a large family as well. I've been with men who only have one sibling, or none at all, thus far, and it's kind of hard to get those ones to understand why I go out of my way for my siblings. I don't know if there's any correlation between having a small family, and selfishness, but if I had to guess based on the men I do tend to go for, I might say so...none of them understood why I made it a point to spend time with my family...not saying all only children are that way..just all the ones I've me so far :)
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 08
Well i would choose the one where there are alot of brother in law and sister in law. I think that you need people to spend some good time and have fun, and if given a choice i would choose that. But i think these types of choices can only be given in discussions not in real life so i would just prefer that. and if i dint get that type of a family, it does not matter to me.
@reza092 (76)
• Bangladesh
15 Nov 08
I personally do not like so much people in my house. It hinders my workings and thinking. But never do not like lonely life. And for my spouses grow up and better mature personality and good manner, I think exposure to people is effective.When it came to my marriage , I thought moderate no of brother in law or sister in law is essential. But this consideration did not make change or it can not change my critical decision of my life.So in choosing family to be married , this consideration is less important.And if you give me chance for another marriage then I can say what should I do.Lol
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Hello My fiance has a small family , he is an only child . Later , in life his dad had a baby girl so he has a half sister too . For the most part it is just his sis, mom dad, gram , and uncle . It is nice to have a gathering ! I would tho like to have a huge family like my dads side . The more the merrier . It is nice that family parties with the fiance are not overwhelming too . But at the same time it is a mature group .
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I will be marrying my future husband, not his family, so I don't really care. Sure it would be great if I get along with them, but that is just extra as far as I am concerned. I'm not a big family person, and I wouldn't mind if we live far away from both families, unless he really needs to be close to his. So for me, my decision to marry someone will never be dependent on what kind of family he has. The only thing I need to know is if he loves me and I love him, and whatever our families think about it is irrelevant.
• India
15 Nov 08
ya i would to marry a girl from a good family and they should first give respect to others and they should have good communications with others and as well as with family members also...