how can i move on?

Philippines
November 15, 2008 6:25am CST
it is so hard to end to a relationship whom i think is prefect...i thought he is the right guy for me but i chose to break up with him because there are so many hindrances between us.. it feels like i'm dying little by little inside each time a remember our moments
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• Philippines
15 Nov 08
hi lovely angel, it is sad to hear that! by the way how long have you been together if i may ask? moving on is not that easy. it takes courage and acceptance. breaking up with someone you love is likely similar to losing one of your valuable things, some are even greater especially if they have established intimacy. however, break up is part of being into a relationship. now that you are in that situation all you have to do is to move on. i want to share with you what i have done when i am into that situation. 1. acceptance - you have to accept that both of you are not meant to be. there are purposes and reasons that only God knows. pray hard for this that you will accept the situation that you are bearing right now. 2. release the pain - tell your friends about the break up. good that you post it here. it is one way of releasing the pain inside. it will serve as your outlet. cry whenever you need to cry BUT give your self a deadline until when you will cry. personally i am giving myself ONE week to be sad and hurt about the break up. after a week i am telling myself "hey girl move on its not the end of the world. there are a lot better men than him" with that affirmation you will feel good. 3. move on - get out on dates. meet new friends. forget him, forgive him and learn. stay pretty and feel good about yourself. with all that i am sure moving on will be easier for you. happy posting. be blessed.
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
thank you so much..
@fedge098 (1331)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
You are so young and you feel like dying for just one heartache? You did this in the first place, be responsible for your own actions. No offense but I think there is no perfect guy for you or for anyone for that matter. You said you thought he was the right one, why'd you broke up with him. If you still feel he is the right one for you then there is no reason to leave each other's path. But if your just saying that then nevermind thinking of going back. As I said, you are young. Move on! There are many other things that are far more worthy experiencing than what you are feeling right now! Cheer Up!
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
thank you...but know i know what am i going to do..
• India
15 Nov 08
i don't know what to say. Was it a must to end th relationhship? Why? what were the compulsions/id thoswe cmpulsions exist before you married? did you give a thought vefore marrige as to what willhappen if .... etc? Many of us make the mistake of rushing into a relationship. They say that "marry in haste and repent at liesure." never make such a mistake. weigh you r options alwasy and any decision must be a well thougth decision. Stick to it once you have decided. IF YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP, PLEASE DO. You are wiser now and willnot repeat the same mistake.