Is it right to lend friends money?

I think maybe she has been blinded by love. You should wake up her mind. You only can help her by give her the job or somethings like that. Because if you give her money, it means you help your husband not help her. And her husband will not do anything. Everybody can help a little. The main depend on her and her husband.

I think you need to have a talk with this friend of yours. It was very nice of you to give her a job at your company but if she's just making it harder for you, it's time that you made her realize her place. She should be grateful and work hard. I understand that she's probably very upset about everything that's happened and maybe feels like you giving her a job is like charity, however, that doesn't mean she can get away with creating more work for you. Lay it on her as gently as you can. Hopefully she'll understand. =\

I am sorry to hear that. A friend of my is also a fraud. For her sake, she even frames up an innocent person. I never know there is someone like that in this world. But I still call her a friend since I have to meet her everyday for reasons. Hope one day she will be out of my sight, which will be great. I've already lost my topic. I think you shouldn't lend money to her!

I think you really should go out to supper together and have a talk.I think you should talk to your friend about her performance on the job as well as her home life.Think about it,she is still with her husband so you are supporting her husband not her because her husband more than likely gets the paychecks.

If you feel that your friend isn't doing an acceptable job, I think that you and your friend need to consider how things can be improved. What is she doing wrong and is it possible for her to do better? If she isn't fit to work for your company, maybe look at where she can find a job elsewhere. I think that you also need to talk about what's going on with her husband. It's kind of unusual that he expects her to do all the work while he doesn't do anything. How does your friend feel about this? Be as helpful as you can, but most importantly make sure that this problem doesn't interfere with *your* life. If their problems create an issue for you, no one's really helped anyone and you're just suffering. If you're lending your friend money, make sure that she can pay you back after a reasonable amount of time and that this doesn't pose a problems for you. Continue looking for alternative ways to help your friend, but do it in a way that it doesn't bring you down. =P I hope that things will get better for your friend. ^_^

Helping friends when they have material problems is a noble thing. Sadly, this almost always backfires. Shakespeare once said, "Friendship si constant in all other things, save in the office and affairs of love". Truer words were never spoken. I tried to start a business with one of my best friends. When it came to money, we started arguing. I worked 3-4 times harder than him and when I confronted him he denied it. When I presented evidence, he got mad. The best thing you could do is confront your friend. Take her to coffee one day and make her understand the line between friendship and business. While you're at work, you are her boss. She might not like it, but this is the reality. ask her if she would feel ok to get preferential status. She will say no and you'll be fine. Try to keep your head up and revert back to your old self after work. If any arguments arrive, try to settle them after work, in private.

Ohhh what a bad story. I am sorry to hear that you have a friend like that. I guess, u did ur best as a friend and i hope she will do her part also.

No. you have to be honest with your friend sltoni, talk to her..Don't tolerate her. Is it just right to lend money provided if she will pay it on the day of her compensation period. Tell her to be serious on her work. She's lucky she got a friend like you. It's a matter of communication ...all you have to do is to talk to her frankly without offensive thoughts ok.

i always say you never mix money and friends, it will always lead to problems. but i think you should have a talk with her, and granted its definitely NOT easy to start all over again from scratch but it could actually be a good thing for her. she also needs to see she not only needs to make money for herself and a home for her, but importantly for her 2 year old son. break it gently, it isn't gonna be easy but it definitely needs to be done. good luck sltoni!

To be honest ,it is helpful to lend money for your friends ,because they will not borrow from you if they are not in a trouble ,but ,sometimes ,lending money to friends is really an unhappy thing ,especially when they do not return you .Last week ,i lent about 5 dollars to one of my colleagues ,she did not give me back until one day before she said to me :"I think it will not do you a favor if i return you this 5 dollars ,so i decide to not return you ."5 dollars is not too much ,but if you hear such words from the one you lent ,I bet you will feel not happy ,just as me .

I want to say, just try your best to be a good friend, but never let a friend be your burden. She is marrying a loser, you offer her a job and she don't cherish it, that sounds to me that she never try to think about you. If she think you are a good friend, she would pay more attention on her job and try her best to do it well, instead of creating more trouble to you. And one more thing, you company is your career, your friend is your privacy, I dont think it is good to mix career with your privacy. If I have a company, I won't let a lousy worker work for my company, since it is clearly do no good but harm.

Friendship is the greatest of all relationships. They are the most special and are the most lasting. Having said that, let me say that it is also a two way relationship. True friends do not take advantage of another. A heart to heart talk is definitely in order. You friend needs to know what she is doing and the problems she is causing. It was a great thing you did for her. She should have taken it graciously and did her best to show this by doing her best on the job. If she is truly a friend she will understand you side of it and your feelings. I wish you all the best and hope this goes well for you.

When one of our friends have troubles, we can give him or her a hand to help them go throug the adversity. But in the reality, we all know that not all the people want to give a hand to the person who is in trouble, as the proverb" adversity has no friends."or when no is down , they give him a push, not a pull. Since we don't want to be a underdog, yet we shouldn't let others who we cherish much be. when one sweep, we should not let him alone but try to comfort him. For the situation above, I do think that what you have done to your friend is not a good solution. she is not good at doing the job you offer her. I insist that you can her in other ways, just as find another job for her, or give her another advice which is fit for her ability.Do remember, helping others is helping youself.

First,i must say that u r a really a nice friend.but as she is creating more work for u,why not work out in another more approprite way.like find a job that suits her,and talk to her,give her support.

ya... no problem if they are legit in returning ur money.. otherwise it will bring more problems in future to affect ur friendship too

next time learn form ur expereince n try to a good freind ;) j/k but seriously, nothing much u can do here. if i were u i will give her straight ..

i also agree with what the others are saying here.i guess you need to talk to your friend about the situation.you two are personal friends but when it comes to work,you two must be professional with each other.why not talk to her during office hours,that way she will understand that you are serious about the duties and responsibilities that she needs to do as an employee.

u need a nice talk and i think because u have known each other for so long, there is nothing to hide from each other. tell her how u feel but be tactful and also let her know that u will be supportive in any way u can because she is important to you. that is what friends are for. I think the reason she is not working well may be due to her family problems so she may need some time.

What i know is help if i can, but always help myself first before helping the others. Ofcourse, we also need to identify the priority first....

Given the fact that she has been your oldest friend, then i presume that you already develop your trust on her. and it is normal to feel the need of helping this friend in this kind of miserable situation. Your action I think was the best. Giving her a job means a lot. I mean you just not gave her money but you gave here livelihood. you gave here a chance to stand up on her own, and we all know not all the times we will be able to accompany here to her problems. And for that it is already an enormous reason that you did your part as a friend. Now our concern now is, has she done her part? or Did she response on the positive way? But as you said it is sad to know that she did not. She is even making you problems to take care of, and it is very unfair to your side. So practically speaking it is not right to lend friends money. You know helping a friend is one of the greatest actions that we take. But how can you help her if she in the first place isn't helping herself. Well but since you are close friends, I think you two must have a tete-a-tete regarding this, don't hesitate to discuss this matters to her, so that at least she knows, I mean how will you able to fix the problem if the persons involve to that problem arent aware of the matter. And then try to wait for her response after the talk. Then you depend your decisions to that response. I hope this helps!! God bless