Changing your name
November 15, 2008 12:34pm CST
I have recently got married and it is very traditional to take your husband's surname. It was very difficult for me initially to accept his surname as my own. however, I am over it and am ready to accept his surname now. but what do you wives think? was it difficult for you too? is it really necessary to accept his surname?
• United States
17 Nov 08
It's not that I'm uncomfortable with it, it's just that it's easier to leave things as is for now. Also, I don't have the money to make my name the way I want it. In the US you are only legally allowed to change or hyphenate your surname. I want to add his name to the end of mine, no hyphen and to do that, you have to go through the name-change courts.
16 Nov 08
According to the Hinduism, it is a rule. But if somebody is not ready to accept her husband's surname, she should discuss with her husband and other senior members of the family, i.e. Father-in-law, Mother-in-law about the matter. She can use both the surnames, i.e. maiden surname & husband's surname.
• United States
17 Dec 08
I kept my name. I didn't want to change my name once I got married and my DH is cool with it. Our DD has his last name and in social situations, I'm introduced in a way that uses my DH's last name, but professionally and legally, I go by the name my parents gave me at birth. there isn't a rule or law that says you have to legally change your name once married. If you didn't want to do it, why'd you do it?
29 Nov 08
dear efarmer, i to have the same problem married since one year and a mother of 3months old baby.so far i use only my dads name while signing any documents or any other important things.eventhough my husband loves me a lot i still use my dads name as my surname.for a change why dont husbands change their surnames as their wives once they get married?when my daughter gets married also i would advice her not to change her surname as her husbands name.anything by birth is permanent and things cannot be changed in the middle.