Men, are you attracted to plump girls or do you only date thin ones?

@sharra1 (6344)
Australia
November 15, 2008 10:03pm CST
I saw a nude shoot in Cleo once and people had voted on whether these people were sexy or not and the largest girl in the picture, who was quite large, scored 50% and the skinniest girl only scored 8%. This made me stop and think that maybe I was not unattractive to men after all. In fact boyfriends I have had since then told me that they actually preferred their partners to be a little padded. So tell me do you have a body shape preference in a partner?
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26 responses
• India
16 Nov 08
Hey ! There is no preference as such . I mean not always we look for the shape of the body . But if choice is given to me I will prefer skinny . Yep the example u just given about the large gal won against skinny one ..happens quite . But doesn't necessarily means that that will be the final verdict . N never bother about your self just b confident what you are . Hope u will . Have a great time.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
18 Nov 08
I thought that was their final verdict for the magazine. It is a matter of individual taste. Some men cannot stand plump girls and some men actually like them. Body shape is only one factor that causes attraction.
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@findcutegj (1466)
• India
16 Nov 08
I am the type of guy that goes after a personality above anything, but if i were basing just on just looks, then i would choose a bit plump & curvy. Hence, i'd say plump girls are better, girls need a little bit of fat anyway so that their body can funtion the way it's supposed to be. skinny girls look unheathy and they don't have all the womanly curves. However, after all, it doesn't matter, as long as they have a nice personality, a nice heart and a good job.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Nov 08
Rubenesque every time Sharra. The size 0 minus types just makes we want to head to the kitchen and get busy with the comfort food.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
16 Nov 08
That sounds like my kind of woman, I like Rubenesque women. Where did we go wrong in life that the ideal for womanhood has changed so drastically from healthy, sexy women to women who look like they come from a refuge camp. Oh its so sad. It used to be a sign that you could look after your family if they were well fed now we are accused of trying to kill them early. I know that some people are overweight but I do wonder were all these healthy weight categories and so on came from.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
16 Nov 08
I think that it is possible to be a little too chubby too. Stick insect thin presumably looks attractive to stick insects. If I want to cuddle up to a bag of bones then I'll go and buy a skeleton. Women are somehow seduced into thinking that very thin is beautiful. I often hear it said that men have manipulated women to be this way. Maybe sometimes, but mostly I think that it is women conning themselves.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
17 Nov 08
He didn't do a very good job with me then! LOL.
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@murderistic (2280)
• United States
17 Nov 08
My husband is from Morocco and in Morocco and most of the middle east, it's the general consensus that men like their women plump. :)
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
20 Nov 08
It is interesting that a lot of men like plump women. That is what Cleo found as well. It makes me wonder where the super skinny image of women came from. I am glad it is changing again.
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@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
16 Nov 08
With all the responses, it boils down to the fact that men has his own preference on what body type they want to have as gf/partner. I guess it really depends on how they love each other and how much attraction the guy has from the girls.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
17 Nov 08
I agree that everyone is different, each man has his own preference, as do women. What bothers me the most is the myth that men only like slim women. I believed the myth for years even after I met a man who told me how wrong I was. I sort of believed him but thought he might be unusual. Then I saw the Cleo shoot and realised that there were a lot more men in the world that thought this way so the myth is wrong.
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@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
16 Nov 08
Even though I'm not a man I wanted to chime in I think that women that are very skinny, like when you can see bones, are just gross. I know I have been there. I was very sickly as a teen and my friends made fun of me because they could see how boney I was. I think everyone is beautiful in their own special way.
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@Emilyzhu (147)
• China
16 Nov 08
I am also puzzled since boys often say they like the slim girls while when they find their own girlfriend they will prefer the fleshy one ,why ?As to the question ,i have asked my boyfriends thousands of times ,he told me that although slim girls are more good looking ,but it is not very comfotable when dauting them ,bones is too hard ,haha ,,maybe they are right ,but if so ,then will we girls look slim from the appearance and fleshy in the inner ,how ?
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• Australia
16 Nov 08
I worked in a circus for a while, as the road-crew cook and running the canteen during interval. We had a replacement acrobat for a short while, quite pretty, but ... I sent the circus manager (female) and her daughter, who were working with me in the canteen one night into hysterics, when I looked at this trapeze artist as she went off to get ready for her next show, and mused not so silently to myself, "It'd be like screwing a surfboard." Lash
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@syfarisk (378)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 08
Yea, I think so. Not too plump though, but yea, I agree that in terms of physical attraction, men do not like women who are too thin. But not too big though, just thin, but yea, like you said, a little padded. When I look at pictures of models, even though the magazines talk about their beauty and everything, but a lot of models are too thin that they lost a lot of the physical attraction. Men don't like that. Some models follow extremely strict diets, which I don't think is necessary.
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
16 Nov 08
I think it varies from man to man. After all we are all individuals. The thing is that I grew up thinking that men would never find me attractive and I found out how wrong I was. I had a hard time dealing with self esteem but I learned to conquer the problem. Models are not healthy as they are always on the verge of starvation and they look like bones with skin over them. Yuk!! When it comes to a choice of partner you date a personality not a body, if you just marry a body it will not last as you need a personality you can live with. I have met men who love big women and I mean BBW's. (means Big Beautiful Woman) It is all a mater of personal taste.
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@redhotpogo (3935)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I use to say stuff like that didn't matter. But after having a "plump" gf, I will never go back. So many things I could describe that would make you lose your lunch. The smells, the sights, the hidden wonders. Exercise girls. Fat is not pretty stop lying to yourself. Put down the donut, and exercise.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
16 Nov 08
Well I have had male partners who were large and it did not bother me at all. I have no preference for slim or large as for me the personality is the most important thing. When I went looking for my partner I was looking for a person not the package he came in. As for my male partners they all preferred plump women, if they had not they would not be going out with me. I know all about exercise and have done lots in my time but due to illness it is no longer and option for me. I was a size 12 in my 20's but I have spent most of my life in the 14 to 16 range and I do not eat doughnuts. However some people have body types that tend towards fat just as some will always be skinny no matter what they eat. You should never assume someone is fat just because they eat too much and do not exercise, you might be right a lot of the time but not all the time. People who are unable to move much will get fat eating ordinary food
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• United States
16 Nov 08
I'm going to piss you off right now, and say that's a lie. Not that I want to piss anyone off, or offend anyone, but people refuse to believe the facts. There is no excuse for being fat. Its laziness. If you are fat and think you work hard, then you need to work harder. I use to say the same thing. Oh those people can't help it. Its in their genes. No. Its not.
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• Australia
16 Nov 08
You have probably pissed her off, and you have certainly pissed me off. I have fought weight problems all my life. Even when I played football (at bordering on first grade level) in my late teens and early twenties, and was training four nights a week, I could never get within 7 - 10 pounds of my supposed ideal weight. When I stopped playing I ballooned, and at 30 decided to do something about it. I spent twelve months running daily, walking almost everywhere, exercising before showers, and watching my intake, and got down to a weight supposedly 20 lbs over my ideal. In my 40s and 50s I was working in kitchens, hard physical labour in very hot conditions, and could not keep my weight down below 40 lbs over my supposed ideal weight. Now I am in my 60s, with severe arthritis and emphesema, so I find exercise very difficult, although I drive myself to the exercise bike most days and still manage to almost control a one acre property and its gardens and lawns. I eat very frugally, yet cannot get down under 80 lbs over my supposed weight. I am a living reminder of my maternal grandfather, who at my age was working a 10 hour day as a master plumber. He weighed as much as I do now, despite a high energy job. Don't tell me I'm lazy or that I do not have a genetic inclination to put on weight. Lash
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@mariposaman (2968)
• Canada
17 Nov 08
I am a little past the dating stage but I can speak from experience if I could just remember what it was that I experienced. Just kidding. Most men prefer a healthy weight in a woman who is well groomed and well dressed. With a few exceptions they do not like boney women nor fat women. While men will not admit what they look for in a woman, they say the first thing they notice is nice eyes, which is a lie, it is a nice figure, nice hair, pretty face, etc. and of course the woman showing interest in them. Personality comes later usually. Personality might be an attraction factor if they are in close contact say in an office or meeting some other way. I think most men are afraid their slim wives when they marry them will turn into obese. Sorry ladies, obese is not sexy.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I think it may be a fair concern for someone to worry, being comfortable does not mean you should let yourself go and adopt unhealthy behaviors that lead to becoming obese. It can also create health concerns that in turn would lead to somebody being a widower. I say this because a lot of older women are in this boat - I could be too if I hadn't started taking care of myself again. It is truly important, not just for the sake of being thin, rather for the sake of being healthy so you can continue to have a long life and enjoy your marriage and see your children grow up and spoil your grandchildren.
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• Canada
18 Nov 08
I think I covered the meeting online thing with my comment about personality might be an attraction factor if they are in close contact say in an office or meeting some other way. You asked the question and I answered it. Men and women make a first impression and they decide if they want to pursue the meeting further in between the first 10 and the first 45 seconds depending on which study you read on looks alone. Evidence of this is that most relationships are short term because personality clashes arise after the initial meeting. I would have got into a long discourse on body dismorphic disorder too where people perceive themselves as fat or short or ugly when in fact they are not but the question was on what men find attractive not how attractive you think you are, as you insinuated you did not feel attractive when you said "maybe I was not unattractive to men after all". Obesity is as much a barrier to men attracting women as the reverse. By the way you misquote me I said "obese is not sexy" [and I might add in both sexes].
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
24 Nov 08
True but I was talking about plump rather than obese. I know that some men like girls who are huge as well but you can be plump and still be in your healthy weight range.
@ronaldinu (12454)
• Malta
20 Dec 08
Hi Sharra1, as long as you are happy with your body it is ok. whether you are skinny or more well padded. People should go more beyond this skin. It is your character that your partner has to deal with besides your body. HAPPY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR. © ronaldinu 2008
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
I agree. I was trying to point out that it is the person inside the shell that matters and while being pretty and slim is a nice addition it is not everything. I used to believe like one of my respondents that men only liked slim girls but I found out that I was wrong. My partner actually likes girls to be slightly plump as he likes padding and other men I know think similarly.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
22 Nov 08
Plumby or bony,I dont think I just go in for structures.What is appealing to me is their facelook.If it is pleasing for me ,then plumby or bony doesnt matters.Just for shapes,it goes on time and it can be maintained as you wish.Again ,I go with the goodlooking,pleasing,lovable one.
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
22 Nov 08
Yes a person's face is important, especially the eyes. They say so much about someone. I find it interesting that so many people either like curvy women or have no problem with them and yet the idea that we should be skinny as an ideal is still around. It is so strange.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
19 Nov 08
It still depends upon the preferences of men. There are men who are attracted to plump girls (which is actually cute) but there are men that love skinny ones. But at the end of time, the body structure and the physical features don't really matter when you want to settle down. What important is the personality of the person and if you really can live with the person. Sometimes, physical feature is only a front. Whether you're skinny or not, it still really depends if you get along well. In my case, I don't really mind about the body structure as long as I can have security with the person and as long as he loves me and I love him too.
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
21 Nov 08
Yes we are all different with different tastes. If everyone learned from that and lived life the way they wanted to be rather than the way they thought others wanted them to be then I think the world would be a much better place.
• India
18 Nov 08
The days when skinny was considered sexy are over. Men like full and buxom girls. They shoud not be fat, but nice and well endowed. nice big boobs and a full body. When yo hold them in your arms, yo shoudl feelthat yo have some one with you and not just a skeleton.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
19 Nov 08
I quite agree. I said plump not fat, a well rounded girl with curves. I think I gave an example of Sophia Loren. She had a lovely figure and I was sorry to see the starvation period that we went through and still seem to have problems with.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Excellent discussion! I'm a girl so I guess it makes little sense that I would respond to this but I do believe that attraction is a personal thing. I think society as a WHOLE prefers thin people, that's obvious by models and actors and actresses, the widespread use of photoshop editing, and the billions spent on gyms, weight loss, diet products and the like BUT not everybody thinks those ideals are well... ideal. I don't think that sexy and sensual is cornered by 'thin' or even that what society widely accepts as sexy and sensual necessarily is to everybody. If you are anything in person like you seem on here - friendly and sweet and interested in a variety of things, I'm sure you're attractive to men. What's even funnier is that I have been talking to my best friend about this very topic a lot lately. I wish that women did not feel this unnecessary desire to be perfect, there are plenty of people who will like you just as you are.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
23 Nov 08
Why? I'm a girl and I started it. I wonder if I should have just left the men bit off. I quite agree that as a whole we like healthy weight people. I have seen evidence that the photos are manipulated and not real images. They create false body images so do cartoons that emphasis huge busts and hips and tiny wastes. It just does not happen in nature. You are very kind to think I am like that. I can be quite fierce when the wrong button is pushed. I am still very sensitive to the inequality of women in our world and I wish I could change the whole world's mindset so that they see women as equal, not inferior. I grew up very sensitive about my weight as I was constantly made to feel ashamed of it by my family and my schoolmates. That did nothing to make me lose it in fact I ate more but in secret. I did eventually get it under control but now that I cannot exercise it is creeping up again. I used to work out an hour every day and not I struggle to do a few minutes. I do know that people like me as I am but it took a lot of personal development courses for me to achieve that realisation. Sadly there is a huge problem in Australia at the moment with children and adults who are endangering their health by being too big. I believe it is not so much over eating as the nature of the junk food. It does not take much junk food to put on weight. I used to drink Gloria Jean coffees until I found out that it had a days calories in one iced coffee. I have never been back. People have no idea what they are eating at shops like this and once the damage is done it can be very hard to get rid of especially if you are unable to exercise.
@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I'm not a man but... I'd have to say that I'm not attracted to stick figure women. They're just not pretty when you can see bones sticking out. I'd rather have a little chubby than a model thin girlfriend. But a nice healthy weight would be ideal, someone in shape to go hiking, biking, etc.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
20 Nov 08
I think the bony models look like they are skeletons. I like a nice curvy girl with hips and a bust. After all busts are just fat there are no muscles there at all. I like Sophia Loren I always thought she was sexy role model.
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@blonneth (11)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
hi sharra...frankly speaking not all men were attracted to that...including me,because when talking about love to another person its not the matter of plump or thin.. it matter about the love to a particular person.so dont think of your unattracted to us men.okay? have a nice day...godspeed...
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
22 Nov 08
I agree that love is the important thing but what attracts you to a person in the first place.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
16 Nov 08
I have always preffered plump girls rather than skinny ones.I like to feel substance when I hold my woman in my arms and not have to wondering where she is.Furthermore it so much better on a cold night to have someone plump.
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
22 Nov 08
Well being plump is a good thing in cold weather as it insulates and keeps you warm. You find a lot of plump women in cold climates, or used to.
• United States
16 Nov 08
there have been a lot of surveys that say men prefer curves versus stick. a lot of men are too embarrassed to admit they like meat on the bones.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
17 Nov 08
True but there are also a lot that do. The funny thing is that some men think that plump is seriously fat when it is actually padding. I do not know where this ideal weight idea came from.
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@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
16 Nov 08
there are many , many , many men out there who like a women with meat on her and who is curvy . I have always been at war with my weight . Over the years I have lost and gained . I did the weight watchers diet and worked out till i was sick for 3 years and lost 100 lbs and after that i just stopped losing and no matter what i did no more weight would come off . To stay at the weight i am now i have to eat well for the most part and stay active . I will really watch in the summers . i hike and swim so much and eat so much less and only can lose 10 lbs the first month and then once again that is all . I just kinda deal now and am trying to accept . My fiance likes my body and i know many other men out there like larger girls . You know we do look good and there just are mean people out there , who dont understand . They think because we are big we are lazy or never tried , and that burns me so much . I never wanna be skinny and would love to keep my curves because i think that looks sexy ! I guess i am thankful i toned up !
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
17 Nov 08
I had the same problem with my weight no mater how hard to worked out I could not lose it all. At the time I thought I was supposed to be 55 kilos but I have since discovered that I high 60's and up to 72 is ok. I never could reach that so called ideal weight no matter what I did. Now I have slipped again since I am disabled and cannot exercise so I have to find another way to lose the weight. I like being slightly plump but I do not want to be unhealthy. I certainly have no interest in being skinny even if I could get there which I cannot. The funny thing is that we are all different, some people have solid bones some have light small bones, some come from races designed to fight the cold and those people tend to be fat because you cannot survive the very cold winters unless you have lots of fat. For the rest of us we are a mixture of races like this and our body type can vary a lot.
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