Why Maids are always ungrateful?

@subha12 (18453)
India
November 16, 2008 4:58am CST
It really surprises me. I was facing problem when our miad of 12 yrs left without ven telling. I actually worry for Mom who has to do all things in absens eof maid. It was gruelling search for anew one for me and dad. we got one after few days but that lady left after 15 days as she got a new paying job. Now we again searched one AND got one. this was working for 2.5 months. suddenly today when my mom told her why she has just left yesterady without doing the work she is supposed to do, she was talking very badly with mom and says she will not come from today. its winter approaching and again she ha sto do all.. my mom even taught her son for free. Now why they are so ungrateful? is it in their blood? Now there is no new maid nearby available? what we will do i do not know. Are they really 'MADE'?
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@gaisri (154)
• India
16 Nov 08
This indeed is a day to day affair in many families.If we tell them to do the work neatly, they think that we dominate them.Getting a loyal one is a tedious task. As you said, they are made like this. Since in most of the families as both husband and wife go to work, they are dependant on the maids and this inturn makes them more unsatiable wrt to their salaries and perks.The market demand for them is very high and infact, it should be us, who has to adjust and accomdate them.NO OTHER GO MY FRIEND
@subha12 (18453)
• India
17 Nov 08
they are in hign demand.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Hi there! My family has also experienced maids like that. But we are fortunate we have one that has been with us for more than 12 years now. She has gone and come back several times cause we like her and she is good. I think some maids are just working for the money and not to serve a family. Working is different from serving cause I think if we serve, there is caring in our hearts and we don't just leave. It can also be because of lack of education. Pardon for that but it can be a factor why people act in such a way that they don't show affection and consideration for others. Ciao!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
17 Nov 08
i completely agree it must be due to lack of education
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• United States
4 Mar 09
I clean houses for people too but my services do not include: cooking, ironing, pets or running errands. I am grateful when people love my service that they end up recommending me to other potential customers. What I am not ungrateful about is when some of my employers treat me as if I'm beneath them. I'm already charging an affordable rate so they should treat me with dignity and respect as I do with them. I try not to get too friendly with the employers because they may ask too much of me. So I just do my job that I am hired to do. If they wanna make conversation while I'm on the clock and take up my time not cleaning, then I'm still getting paid.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
6 Jan 09
I am a single mom and i can't even imagine having a maid. I work full time and do all the housework myself and wouldn't have it any other way. I would not want to be a maid for anyone. I'd feel like a slave, i think. I think that being a maid would be a very demeening job. I just could not do it. It has to be tough. It would take a special person to want such a job. I suppose if it was the only income i could find to support myself, i'd do it and do the best job that I could but I'd really hate it. People can be very sloppy when they have a maid coming in to pick up after them. I'd get irritated. It's one thing to do dishes, dust, mop and clean windows but quite another to pick up after someone who doesn't pick up their own mess. Not sure why the maids aren't staying with you but I'd want to. If I were you, I'd be talking to the ones that left and asking why they left.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
we never really know what other people are thinking and we can only do so much for them. my advice is never really trust them especially that you are not related to each other. when we are with relatives, we can't even be sure of their loyalty... what more if they are other people not blood related to us.
• India
23 Nov 08
Sorry, but I hear the same story everywhere. I guess we should be professional with our maids, not try to do social service for them. Pay them for what they work, and don't keep them full time in your house. Simply hire a maid who will come home, do the tough work, and go. Don't talk too much; maintain your distance; and don't try to solve their stupid problems for them. And don't hire children (below 18) Most of the kids are undernourished and have no energy to work. :) Hope this helps. Cheers and happy mylotting
@efarmer (184)
17 Nov 08
I know and I agree with you. We too have had maids and they just always seem so rude and ungrateful. We hve always been good to them, given them gifts on festivals and never shouted at them and yet. We got so fed up with having maids that we finally decided not to keep any and now we do all the housework ourselves. I know it must be difficult with your mother bcoz she must be old but dont worry you wil get one soon all the best for that
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
17 Nov 08
Hi Subha...Yes maids are far becoming extinct species here in Kerala also...In my younger days we had maids at home who did all the housework,including washing grinding ,cleaning etc sincerly and happily ate the food that was served to them..... But today maids are becoming more and more demanding....Even if we have all sorts of gadgets at home which makes their tasks easier, maids are very demanding,and insincere and arrogant.They are never satisfied with their food and salary,and are becoming ungrateful too.....
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
we dont really know what's your maid was really thinking... but i guess, it would be unfair if we would generalize that all of them are ungrateful... coz i believe and i know that there are a lot of them who are not like that. i did have experience having househelps 3 times and with all of them, we did have good relationships. maybe you were one of those who experience having an ungrateful maid. i just hope you'll find a new and trustworthy one.
• United States
17 Nov 08
do you have any idea what maids go through? how would you like to clean up after a family everyday all day? its tiring. especially if its a family that really are bunch of slobs. i'm not saying you are but you never know. if you've gone through that many your mom may want to evaluate whether she has good working conditions.
• Nigeria
17 Nov 08
i think maids are just human like us.. they are not always happy with what conditions they find themselves. so , they pick offence on any thing whatsoever that passed them. we just have to understand and treat them like a member of the family. that is all i know.
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
16 Nov 08
You should find a much kinder and more grateful one! Now, the finanical crisis is so serious that lots of people worrly about their jobs, the maid included!
• United States
16 Nov 08
What are the odds of all these maids leaving you mom and she was being really nice to them? Your mom is probably rude to them. Why do they need to be grateful of the opportunity to clean your mothers house? If your Mom is telling them that they are the ones who should be grateful I can understand why they just leave.
@bdugas (3581)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I never had that problem but apparently there is a problem when it comes to MOM, no one wants to work for her for long. Most of us in the real world have to clean our own house and wash our own dishes, ahd I like that Idea. I don't care to have strangers romping around in my home. Maybe there was some emergency that she had to leave and couldn't find your mother to tell her, maybe she was sick. I think I would have a hard time being someone that had a maid, I don't like giving orders to people to do stuff that I wouldn't want to do myself.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
16 Nov 08
Perhaps she left for a better job and a better payment? I don't think it has something to do in the blood. People can leave a job in search of another one. Or perhaps for some other reason. Did you try and search what was the true reason why the first maid has left? © ronaldinu 2008
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
16 Nov 08
maybe you are asking too much of the maid, the maid is a human being with emotions, if you talk bad to her, she may talk bad to you, or leave. If you are good to your maid she will want to stay and work for you.
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
There are reasons why these are happening... Maybe they are not treated the right way... Dont get me wrong with that. There are maids that are just sensitive... they will leave once you got mad at them or shouted at them. Or you cant stop them from leaving if they found a higher paying job right? They wont leave if they earn enough for themselves and if they are happy with you. Ask all the family members how they treat your maid. :)
• United States
16 Nov 08
Since having a maid is not a luxury that I have ever known..I cannot say I understand completely your dilema. IF your maid left after being with your family 12 years..there is more to that picture that you know of. ..If someone left after 15 days..means there really is something your family needs to sit down and talk about: 1st: why did a family friend/maid leave all of a sudden after 12 years.. What has been different this year or what has she experienced this year different then others? 2ndly why did the newest maid leave so soon Is there demands now on the maids that are unreasonable?
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
16 Nov 08
Well it is very unfortunate regarding the situation of maids at your place, somehow we are very lucky as our maid is working with us for more than 10 years and now she is like a family member and whenever guests come she works extra. I really feel what we will do without her help.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
Some maids can be very choosy with who they want to work for... but some prefer the simple life and stay with those who they think is fair to them and is giving them the right pay and treatment... How big is your house?... if it is large... i don't think one maid can handle it... but if you really want only one... then you should be compensating that person more that what is required... because of the bulk of work that she has to do... For the maid... they also feel that the family they are serving can also be ungrateful... so it is a give and take process...