how to survive a monster mother-in-law

Philippines
November 16, 2008 6:51am CST
i'm also a mother who needs help on how should i handle my monster mother in law? she talks about almost everything, my hair, new shoes, my husband, son, the way i sit, etc. i really do not like these kind of people.i think it happened to them that's why they're doing it to us. every single day , that's what they do, talk about you. oh well i became used to it but still... so what do u think i could do to survive? (lol)
4 responses
@newtondak (3950)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I would meet with her one-on-one and tell her very bluntly that you do not appreciate the way she talks to/about you and your family - if she persists have your husband meet one-on-one with her and tell her the same. You have to, however, decide how far you want to push this issue - if she doesn't not stop after your talks, do you wish to minimize contact with her?
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
thanks for the advice everyone. yeah i guess the best thing to do is tolessen my contact with her after all we're gonna leave their house anyways. that will make me breathe :) a lot better.
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
16 Nov 08
Tell her that you are an adult and you need no advice whatsoever. Tell her how she would feel if you were in reverse roles. Then ignore what she says.
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
yeah that would do. i'll tell her that if we switch places. :)
• Netherlands
16 Nov 08
Sounds like she's jealous to me. Did you talk to her privately that you do not like her to gossip about you? Not too sure if that would work though. I understand it can be very annoying/irritating but ignoring it might be an option too.
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
some says that she's jealous because she loves her son so much. she should give him his freedom. because of her bad attitude, her son started to avoid her, he knows that his mother is really like this that's why he's very very mad at her now. he doesn't wanna talk to her. i think that yeah maybe ignoring her would do but sometimes it hurts up to my bones. she's really mean! she even said that im not a good mother :(
@adapots (82)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
well, you can handle that! just listen and always say, yes mom i do mom! always mom. and tell her that she is the most beautiful womam in the world, most loving, caring and you love her also. and always say yes mom. and listen to her and at the end she well listen to you. hope its work!!! good luck!!! my dear.