love or school? or maybe both?

Philippines
November 16, 2008 8:06am CST
i am struggling with my love sometimes cause we don't have time to go out, nor no time to see each other. and sometimes, i can think that it is time for us to break up.. but it is to painful cause we've been together for 3 years already.. so what am i going to do to let her know that even though i don't have time for her, i still love her..?
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7 responses
• United States
16 Nov 08
Aaah, young love. Depends on where you are in your schooling really. If you're in high-school, concentrate on school because relationships tend to change after graduation...or at least that's been my observation. Example: In my high school there was one couple that was sooooo cute! They stayed together throught high school and looked like the perfect couple. and they were...for high school. After graduation, we started going to college. She dumped him, dyed her hair blonde and proceeded to go buck-wild. No kidding! And she and her b/f were so cute in high school too, the picture of innoscance. If you are in college and she is 23 or older: she's probably figured out who she is by now and if she's still with you, she must like you, and you should both concentrate on school. Happy MyLotting!
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• Philippines
16 Nov 08
i am already at my 3rd year college. and it is getting hard. and i really don't have time for her. i really don't know what to do. sometimes, i can think to stop my school. huhuh
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• United States
16 Nov 08
i think you should really think about school .you could really have both if she understands that you only have a nother year or two in school and then you will have more time if she loves you she will understand.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
It's not a matter of how long you guys were. It's a matter of your priorities and hers. Look, it's good to be with each other as much as we want to. But life isn't always like that. You can't always be mushy and just hang out with the person you love. Why? Well, I'm assuming you're still very young that's why you think that way. Sooner or later you'll be bored with the same old routine things you do with the person you love. Most probably more if you both have no plans of ever doing something great rather than just be together. I'd suggest the following though: 1. Search in your heart what you want to do aside from being with the person you love. I tell you, if you can't think of anything else but we with her, then it's not love, it's addiction and like any other addiction, it's not good for your health and hers as well, and it would end regardless what you do. But if you think and know exactly what you do for your future, it's healthy. 2. Can you live a day without her? If you say NO then that's infatuation. If you can say YES, then it's a healthy love life. You don't need to be with each other 24/7 or talk to each other all the time to say that you're in love. It doesn't prove anything. If it's too clingy it'll end before you know it, most especially if you're married. But if not, then you view her as a partner rather than just someone to have fun with. 3. Go through all your plans with her. If both feel that both can achieve the great dreams of your lives then it's a healthy relationship. Not everything should be about you and your partner. There's a whole new world around you, live it! As for breaking up with the person. Why? just because you don't talk to each other doesn't mean you're not a good match, right? Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It's more mature not to be too attached. Plus, it give both of you chances to experience things you can talk to each other. Remember, don't think you have to spend time together all the time to prove love. If you'd get through life together then you'd probably live your old age together. Don't rush now to be with her, build your future so that you can share your life with the person you love forever and spend your time just talking about your adventures in life and never get bored about it. =)
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@adihindu (1922)
• India
16 Nov 08
I think this is the problem for almost all lovers. I too suffer with this problem. But even when I have no time to meet him. I definitely make my work free go to see him. If you explain clearly about your situation clearly. This will helpful to you. Happy to share.
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@robinemz (211)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
how does she feel about your situation? are you in the same school or is this a long distance relationship? if you feel the need to talk about this matter then talk to her about it.tell her your situation and how you feel and give her the assurance that you love her and always will even though you have less time due to your school priorities. school is important since this is your foundation for a good future. so i dont think you need to breakup not unless your girlfriend doesn't understand your situation.. just be sure to spend quality and romantic time when you too are together. good luck!
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
That is quite a long time 3 years and you just wanna let go. I don't think so that is reasonable to lety go especially if she loves you very much. I think when you love someone you can understand the reason but not letting go. You can only see love once and it's very hard to start all over again. Why not just tell her Why don't you just let her understand your schedules anyway it's for the both of you. Not because you don't have time for her and your busy with your studies that you don't love her. Love is holding each hand helping it to grow not leaving one another. Love makes you inspire not pulling you down.Why not talk it over what seems to be the probolem and their is other options. Think it over a thousand times.Have a nice day!
@prankie (89)
• India
16 Nov 08
Well I'm sure you will find time for her. u just need to manage your free time.. do ur college/school work in your free time dont waste your time and spend night hours talking with your gf.. I'm sure it'll work.
@yukyrob (167)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
i'll choose school first. because love can be learned at the right time. and love can be in any moment but education couldn't be dictated. you must manipulate things in order, first things first....