Guys carrying handbags for girls?

Malaysia
November 16, 2008 8:16pm CST
Another topic raised by the radio DJs this morning. It's quite an interesting one. To be honest, I don't really mind to help carry the handbags of my female friends if it's for a short while, especially when they are too occupied with other things. But if it's for long, it's not that good since I have nothing to do with them. They're not my wife or girlfriend. LOL. What do you think? If you're a guy, are you okay to carry handbags for your female friends/wife/girlfriend? Or if you're a girl, do you ask you guy friends to help you carry? And at the same time, do you think guys who carry handbags for girls look weird or sissy?
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27 responses
@shooie (4989)
• United States
17 Nov 08
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I'm a girl and ummmm I have never seen any guys around hear in SC carrying a womans handbag for his wife or girl friend. I have seen them hold it for them when the woman goes to the little girls room or gettin out of the car but to walk around with it no not yet. If I did and the girl was with him I wouldn't give it a secnd thought but if I saw a guy with a bag and no woman around I think I would go hmmmmm. But then again what can anyone say. Now days girls wear what guys wear and guys wear makeup and earrings and clothes that we wear so guess wouldn't be a big deal if he was carrying a purse to.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
For a guy to walk around the SC with a handbag, that is indeed quite weird. But I've seen cross-dressers running around in the SC so I think it's not that bad, right? Hahha.
@shooie (4989)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Ya I know. But would have to say a majority of the men here wouldn't...lol Now I am originally from California and the purse thing well ummm well ya there are guys wit purses...lol
@shooie (4989)
• United States
18 Nov 08
so daydreamer when did you come to SC? (South Carolina)
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
17 Nov 08
If I'm with a guy, more of a boyfriend than guy friend, and he told me no, I would not go on another date with him. It shows me he's shallow ands cares too much about what others think.
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
Actually not much big deal unless the girl is actually very free, and just wants the guy to help carry the bag for no reason.
• United States
17 Nov 08
Oh, I agree. I wouldn't just any guy to cry my purse., even if it was really heavy. Well, if it's heavy it's my fault. LOL I'd just ask if I had a b/f or a date.
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
it's ok for my husband if i ask for his help to carry my bag, though it seldom happens... and i think a guy who would do that for his girl is a gentleman...
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
Most guys will offer help if the girls are carrying too much things at that time. :D
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
well then, it's really nice to know that there are still a lot of gentlemen :)
@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
It's not sissy at all. I find it charming even. It shows that guys have a soft side, even if they seem all macho and stuff. Most of the time I just carry my own, but half the time the guys I'm walking with would offer to help me carry it. I decline but I'd make sure that the gesture is greatly appreciated. It's really cute, and a major plus on the guy .
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
I know some guys who will not carry no matter what. Hahhaa. I don't really mind to help if the girls are busy with some stuff or are carrying many things. But if they ask me to carry for no reason, it does feel weird unless she's my girlfriend.
@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I've seen girls younger than me who use their cuteness to that advantage over guys. They make them carry everything even if they're not their boyfriends. Poor guys! LOL
• Germany
17 Nov 08
Why would it be weird? For me, if the guy acts sissy, then no matter he carries the handbags for girls will always look sissy. I always think helping girls to carry their handbags is a gentle behaviour, it is sweet for me. :-) My husband does this all the time for me since i'm pregnant. I appreciate that and he really makes me warm. :-)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
Even my colleague who was pregnant, i helped her carry stuff because it's quite tiring for her to walk without carrying things. No harm to help. :D
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• Germany
17 Nov 08
You are such a gentleman! I think you must be an easy going person :-)
@naka75 (797)
• Singapore
18 Nov 08
I too agree with you. Each of us has our personality and the accessories we carry reflect this. It'd be weird for a girl to let a man carry her handbag. Besides being overwhelmed with too many stuff on hands, I think it's inconsiderate for the girl to ask the guy to do so and also reflects her immaturity. For the guy to carry the bag for the girl as a sign of his love for her is also immature. They don't look sissy but just plain stupid.
• Malaysia
19 Nov 08
I think if she's too busy with things, it's still okay. Just don't walk around the shopping complex with the handbag ALL THE TIME. That WILL be weird.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
18 Nov 08
I'm a girl. I will be appreciated very much if my male friends help me taking my handbags when I am occupied with other things. But I just have one handbag with me, I will carry it by myself. It's common in Shanghai that boys help to take their girl's handbag. I feel a little sissy.
• Malaysia
19 Nov 08
Aiks, you will appreciate guys helping you but you call them sissy. :O
@Sheepie (3121)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Well, as long as he's not trotting around with it or carrying it on his shoulder. Also, if he's kind of holding it carelessly against his chest and kind of hiding it, or holding it like a football. He can't look effeminate. It just wont' do. Unless it's a man purse or he really is just a sissy boy. I wouldn't give a dude my purse unless I was purposely teasing him, I would give him my books first.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Carrying against his chest will definitely look weird.
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
well, what's wrong carrying handbags for girls. It's just okay as long as the girl is your friend. It's how you show your being gentleman. You will gain points if you are helping your friend, same way too. If you carrying a lot of things it's not awkward if the Girl will help you carry thru in return. And be sure that you have trust your things to the person who have carried your things.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Yeap, only pass things to the person you trust. :)
@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
17 Nov 08
HI there ! My fiance carries my bag sometimes ! Either when we are at a ball game and in a crowd . That usually is when he will carry it is when we are in a crowd and im scared i will fall with my huge bag , so he will just put it over his neck LOL. Or sometimes when i am out shopping and need free hand . My purse is more like a tote or a bookbag so he dont mind . If it was real girly or had sparkle he might care more !
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
"i will fall with my huge bag", this is exactly what I've seen with some girls. LOL. They tend to put too many things inside! You can actually knock a person down if you swing that bag hard enough.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
17 Nov 08
A girl is more attached to her hand bag.She have everything to her needs in it,for emergency times.If she is giving to you to carry,then it seems she is getting close to you.So,dont miss the situation.These are nonverbal communications.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Some just need you to help them. LOL. Don't think so far mate.
@excellence7 (3418)
• Mauritius
17 Nov 08
I don't think there is anything weird in it friend. Because nearly all the work are assisted by women, that is women do all works of men. There is nothing wrong if men just help a bit with women's work.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Yeap, exactly. No harm helping actually.
@zhangdl (24)
• China
17 Nov 08
i think if a guys wanna help carry the handbags for girls.maybe there are two reasons. one is to show their cavalier.they want to be seen as a gentlemen.another is they wanna pursue the owmer.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Hahha, I think it's okay to carry for a while actually. I helped my friend carry because she was busy with something and she's married. :D Just be helpful since I got nothing to carry at that moment.
@gracie04 (4556)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I never let hubby carry my bag as i don't want other people to make fun of him.. you know, everytime i see a guy carrying his gf's bag, i feel he's just making an impression.. yay!
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Maybe the guy is sincerely trying to help?
@iamcdy (1120)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
My boyfriend doesn't mind if he carries my bag sometimes. There were even times that he get it from me when he feels like I am already tired or when we are in the mall and I need to fit certain clothes that I wanted to buy. Also, he does not complain when I ask him to carry it for a while. I think it just shows that he is such a gentleman and carrying his girlfriend's bag won't make him less of a man. I don't think that it is weird, maybe for others. I will feel weird if my boyfriend carries his own handbag! That's a no-no!
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
I seriously cannot imagine a guy having his own handbag. I prefer getting a sling bag or backpack. LOL.
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I think it is quite alright for a guy to carry a girl's handbag. Personally, I would rather have the guy carry a heavier bag or my shopping bags. The guy might not know how to carry my bag properly. Normally, it's also part of an outfit hehe...
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Oh ya, some girls carry their handbags based on the colors of their outfits! It's a fashion trend. Kinda defeat the purpose for the guys to carry those fashionable handbags.
• India
17 Nov 08
i dont fhink itz wierd or sissy at all for guyz to help a female infact v shud alwayz look forward to help them coz v r meant to protect them respect them nd ofcourse to bear dem
• India
17 Nov 08
i usually love to help dem coz the responses u get after dat is really awesome spcly the smile nd the way they thanku
• China
17 Nov 08
This phenomenon is very universal.As a girl,I do not ask my boyfriend to carry my handbag,unless it'll be so weight enough that I can't carry it.Also,I don't think the guy who carry handbags for girls look sissy,in opposition,I think they are considerate. However,the scenario that a guy carry a woman's handbag is strange more or less.As a girlfriend,I can't make my boyfriend be looked strange.
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
I think if the guy looks sissy, he will look so even without the bag.
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
I think its ok, if he is helping the gf to hold ahwile..Its kinda warm and gentle But i can see that some guys are holding their own bag, really look sissy..perhaps the way the dress up..They though that they are model in magazine..
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Models in magazine, do guys carry female handbags O_O ?
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I don't generally ask for help unless I really need it. I won't make a guy carry my things just because it's gentlemanly thing to do. :) I find it weird how some girls give their handbags to their boyfriend when it seems very light anyway! It only strengthens guys' belief that women are inferior!
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Maybe they just want to "mark" the guy as theirs?