Arranged Marriages

Philippines
November 16, 2008 9:39pm CST
What are your views with arranged marriages? Is it fair or it is better than choosing your own love interest?
9 responses
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I don't agree with arranged marriage because it is a violation of the freedom and right to choose. But in some places I think they still practice this because it's a tradition and it's part of their culture. For me, in order for us to be happy we should be the one to choose our love interest. Arranged marriages are not bad at all though because let's say the couples are both in loved even before they knew about the plans of their parents, then the arranged marriage is okay. Well what I mentioned is just one in a million case when it comes to arranged marriages. Lucky for that single pair.
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
I agree with you, 100%
@robinemz (211)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
i totally do not agree with this and i feel bad for those who are into this situation.
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I feel the same too.Parents can't control their children when it comes to this matter because they can't force love.They should be supportive of their child's decision whatever it may be.
@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
17 Nov 08
Hello! Marriages are made in the heaven.It may be arranged or a love marriage.Whatever the culture or tradition may be unless you get your soul mate you can't marry.We Indians believe in arranged marriage.According to my view there is special charm in arranged marriage.Ours was arranged marriage.We had not seen each other before marriage.For the first time we met each other in the honeymoon bed and we began our love life since than and continuing for the last 39 years.In the arranged marriage we start love life after from honeymoon night but in case of love marriage honeymoon is performed before marriage.hanx,
@subha12 (18453)
• India
17 Nov 08
it depends on individuals. But i guess it depends where you are more comfortable. in my opinion its better to know the person better before living the life.
• Canada
17 Nov 08
I am from Canada so arranged marriages are not something that I really understand. My personal opinion on them is that they are disgusting. I could never imagine having to marry and live with someone that I am not in love with, and in some cases never even met. I come from a country of choices, whether they are right or wrong it is up to us to make them. Especially when it comes to something as important as love, its not for others to decide who we should love and spend our lives with. My best friend is Indian, but she was born here in Canada. Her parents have been getting a lot of phone calls from relatives back in India talking about how she should already be married off by now and about the different men they have lined up for her to marry. They even offered to give her 6 months to get to know the man she picks before they get married. How nice of them. Funny thing is, she just got engaged to a Canadian man, and her parents have no problems with that as long as he treats her right.
@murderistic (2279)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Oh my gosh, you should all watch the movie "Arranged", it's about two girls, one Jewish and one Muslim, that are going through the process of arranged marriages in America. One of the best movies I've ever seen. I think that in certain cultures arranged marriages are acceptable, however, I do not think that they should be done until those getting married are of a consenting age, for I think that even though a marriage is arranged, the ones getting married should still have a say in the process and agree to the person they are marrying. Choosing your own love interest is definitely the best way to go!
• India
17 Nov 08
It depends on the mentality of the human being.Personally I prefer Love Marriage............But there are Crores of people having Crores type of mentality.So may be other will differ from my view.............
@luwenbin (31)
• China
17 Nov 08
In my opinion,the free marriaged is benefits to us ,if we live the people who not love at all,creating more bad effect us.have the right of marry will make us happy ,
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Since I'm in the United States I don't agree with the idea of arranged marriages. I believe that adults have the right to choose their own partners and who they are going to be intimate with and raise a family with. Arranged marriages take away freedom of choice about a very important and life changing decision.