should i break up with him?

November 17, 2008 12:43am CST
I wrote in a few days ago about breaking up with my boyfriend. I had a few responses and i took into account the advice that was given to me from each one. First i would like to say thank you to everyone who responded. I broke up with him. Right now i feel like dirt for hurting him so much, because i know that he does love me, but i couldn't go on with him when my feelings had changed. The one major thing i did wrong though was not talking to him a long time ago and telling him that something was wrong, so i ended up hurting him twice as much. It was absolute hell to go through that, so my advice to anyone out there in a similar situation is this: If there are problems in your relationship, please talk to your partner, give them a chance to fix things, try and work it out before you take that final step. Believe me it is hell to break someones heart.
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11 responses
@mengrufa (239)
• China
18 Nov 08
I feel sorry about that, through you words , i think he is a good boy and worthy to rely on.We often want others can walk together all our life, but something just unexpected happen, sometims we even do not know or unwilling to see whose fault it is. But at last the two have to leave alone for each. Tragedies are always hanging around the loving people.
@swtpareek (651)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I am so sorry for you and your relationship. But the thing is are you in a state of peace after doing it. I know you wouldn't be happy but consider your situation before and after the break-up. It is true though that break-up is the last step to any relationship and is done when things go out of hands, but if you have taken that extreme step then don't feel guilty... But if you really want to hook-up with your guy again then you will have to make the first move this time.
• United States
18 Nov 08
You need to watch out for yourself first though. No one else is going to look out for you. And honestly, you can't sacrifice your happiness for someone else's happiness. I don't know all the details of your story, but everything happens for a reason, and I'm sure you did the right thing. Good luck getting past this rough time in your life.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
17 Nov 08
You are right KhittiKhat77. I made a decision without thinking 100 times and now I suffer for it. Like what you said, think many times first, talk to your partner, try to weigh some things before making decisions so that you will never regret in the outcome.
@adeeb747 (100)
17 Nov 08
i think he should leave you
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
ohhh!! you must be so worried about all this and i think you must be really feeling guilty. I think you should have tried to solve the problem in the relationship rather than just breaking up with him. Like if you see from his point, he must be thinking that everything was going right and suddenly you started avoiding him, you did not talk to him. This would have really hurt him badly. I think in this situation chances should be given. Now after allt his break up, both of you must be feeling so bad. Be happy!!
@amirev777 (2565)
• India
17 Nov 08
hi yeah u r right when u say that good communication is very essential in solving any problem-if u just dnt speak up,things usually turn up to be more worse then better.yes its terrible to break someones heart,but it is even more terrible when someone u love breaks ur heart.yes u r right-u shud alwayz give ur partner a chance and also urself to fix the problem.neywaz hope u can face the heart break with grace.
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I hope you're happy with your decision and you don't have any regrets when you broke up with him. Now that you saw him in grief for losing you, I also hope you won't say to yourself, I shouldn't have broken up with him. Because sometimes our decisions are overridden by our emotions. Yes, you're right. You should have laid everything to him when you came to that point where you had to cut the relationship with him. But anyway, it's done and everything will be back to normal soon. Happy mylotting!!!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
17 Nov 08
it is always a pain to break up. nothing work well then. But if you have taken decision reading all, its good. time will ease it
@annierose (17915)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
You are absolutely right! It is not good for a relationship to end it soon especially if you not give a chance to your partner to speak up. I think, for some things to be fair between the two of you, there must be an open communication. And who knows, you or your partner is just having little conflict that can easily solved if only you and him talked to each other.Everyone deserves a chance and for a relationship to work out, I believe that each of you must be open minded. The ego must not be present at all times. Learn the importance of humility.
@rsa101 (13833)
• Quezon City, Philippines
17 Nov 08
I guess for every choice we make there is a benefit to enjoy and a price to pay. In your case the benefit is you've set yourself free from a relationship that is not working anymore and the priced you've paid is you've hurt the person that loved you. The question in here is are you happy now with the decision you've made for yourself. If yes, then I guess you've done what you have to do that is right.