How do you say SORRY?

@andak2007 (3229)
Philippines
November 18, 2008 5:34am CST
Well i want to say sorry to someone and i want to make it this Christmas...she is my oficemate or let us say my boss..i was her assistant at work and i kind of resigned and did not have a formal talk with her...she had been very good at me and very understanding to all my shortcomings...i know i have hurt her for leaving her without telling her so and i have been meaning to say sorry to her through a letter or a card. I want to send her a Christmas card full of sorry words and at the same time i want to thank her for her goodness...is this a good idea?or not? And what about you?How do you say sorry to someone or to your love ones?
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Nov 08
Hi andak2007 I am sorry to hear that you feel this way, it really is sad. What were your reasons for not telling her? Did you just not get the opportunity? I would definately send her a Christmas cards with a letter of appology in it but what I would do is write it in the actual card itself because I think that would ruin the card and she might not feel that she can then display it if you get what I mean. Good luck and I hope she accepts your appology
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
yes in a way i was not able to tell her but right before that i was telling her that i have been meaning to quit my job and just be a mother for my kids...i know she will accept my apology because we talked already in YM but i want to let her know how sorry i am and then i want to thank her also.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Nov 08
Oh I see but I still yes go ahead then she will be reasured you are genuine about your appology even if she know's how sorry you are. It will also remind her of what a nice person you are.
@zhangdl (24)
• China
19 Nov 08
i don't think your idea is well.if you wanna say sorry for her.firstly,i think letter is a good idea.as when you say sorry to her to the eye.it is more difficult.so letter is good.secondly,you should tell her the reason of leaving her without telling her.this is the most important thing in your letter.at the last, wish your good luck.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
thank you for the suggestion..yes i will include a letter with the card.
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
sending her cards is fine with me. saying sorry even in letters will make your boss feel that you don't disregards her kindness when you are still working for her. saying sorry to some one can be a sign of relief and proves that your not as bad as they look into it...
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
i know she was really angry before but i know she caan forgive me because she is also a mother like me.
@pzygtt (193)
• China
19 Nov 08
Well,I made my girlfriend angry a week ago. Because she loves dancing,I would take her out for a slow dance this evening,and say I am sorry while she is dancing in my arms. I love her and she loves me too,I think she must forgive me! Thanks!Have a nice day!
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
that is very nice and yes im sure she will forgive you..because you are such a sweet man.
• China
19 Nov 08
Maybe you can send her a Christmas gift,with a card in it,write what you want to say to her.I think Christmas is a nice time to do that. If I want to say sorry to somebody,I will call her and ask her for a data,and tell her my feeling.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
a card will be nice enough and i can't afford to be on a date...i have no one to watch the kids for me.
@saracath (18)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I would send a personal note in a Christmas card. Don't dwell on the I am sorry part, but rather on how much you appreciated her as a boss. You can then say that you were really sorry to leave without warning. It sounds as if she is a good person and will accept your apology and appreciate the kind words about your working relationship.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
that is what i am really counting...that she will accept my apology and that to let her know how much i appreciated her kindness..i am not that bad as a person and im really hoping she will understand.
@anonymili (3138)
18 Nov 08
I think it's a lovely idea to send a Christmas card saying thank you to her for being such a good boss to you whilst you were there and apologising for leaving the way you did. Put some positive comments in there like you'd like to stay in contact with her if she wants to and you felt she supported you very well as your boss and she was an inspiration to you. Make her feel good about her management style whilst also saying you're sorry - but don't dwell too much on the apology. Good luck :)
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
that is very true and thank you for some pointers...i have been meaning to do it.
@nilugo (348)
• Singapore
18 Nov 08
It is a very good idea to send a card to your boss saying sorry. A christmas card would be a good idea. You can also just keep in touch with her by calling her and telling to her in person. I usually talk to the person first when I mean to say sorry for something that I have done intentionally or unintentionally to hurt someone. I am not happy until the bad air clears between us. Also I try to give a small gift - like chocolates or something to that person when I go to talk to her/him.
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
i already did that...and a card is just a gesture and a way to say thank you and merry christmas too.
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
As a man... I would say only say "I'm sorry" and that's it. I'm not that kind of guy who says a lot of excuses and I only admit my faults and say sorry from the bottom of my heart. If I explain myself, I would only wait until that person asks me to.
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Usually I say sorry to people I'd hurt through writing explanation why I did something terrible and send it to email. IN my letter I got to explain everything why it happened and humbly ask for understanding. In your case, since it is a work related thing, you have to explain carefully to your former boss why you should make that big decision, if your reason is change for environment I am sure your boss will understand because each one of us want to seek development and improvement in our respective careers, if your boss is a true friend she or he should be happy with your decision. But first you must send her/him with an email detailing your reason why you decided to quit your job, it is always important to reach out to people we hurt to explain our side and make things straight. Sending christmas card is very good, but this should be done after writing a detailed message. Good luck!
@salonga (27986)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Oh yes go and do all your plans to patch up your relationship with her. Sending Card expressing your sincere apology and thanks is really good because there are words only our pen could express. Do it my dear! If I were you're Boss I'd be very glad to receive that Card. I believe a person who takes time to write her sentiments is one sincere person so I really appreciate people who sends me letters, cards or just a small note of appreciation or apology.
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@teshavill (278)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Hi!Of course it is a good idea to say sorry or sending her a card full of sorry words,that will be your way of making peace with her.For whatever reasons why you left,as you've mentioned she was so good and understanding so she will definitely understand it if you're going to explain what had happened.When I say sorry,I mean it.So it has to be personal for him/her to see my facial expressions,my sincerity in saying so.There are times I hug the person if he/she is a family member and a closed friend.
18 Nov 08
usually i dont hurt anybody since i breakup with my girlfrnd.. but dats was not my fault.. so, the best way to say sorry is to tell the truth wht you feel for him,, n i do that but she didn't understand.. my luck..
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
Hmmmmmm... Writing a card can be nice, but I guess, I still want to prefer the text or call and ask if she is free and if she is then ask her out for a lunch or dinner. Sometimes, it's better to write ones thoughts, but I guess, the action speaks louder part is better when said infront of the person whom you thought you have hurt his or her feelings.
@mohommed (60)
• India
19 Nov 08
Just go for it.You are correct .It will be better if you start trying before christmas.Send her card with flowers and choclates.But dont overdo it as that may irritate her. Bye.
@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Sending her ar card is certainly a good idea... since that way you can write your emotions out... but it would be great if you will be able to talk to her in person... i sure she understands why you had to quit your job... and she will certainly be thrilled to hear from you again...
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I think that's a good idea to send her a letter or a card but make sure you include that if you want to meet with her to tell her all that you want to tell them. Maybe if you could meet then it would be good for both of you.
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
sending her a christmas card is one of the good idea but you can talk to her personally and say sorry for what you have done. Feel her your good intention. Feel her how sorry you are.
• China
19 Nov 08
when i hurt my friends,i say sorry to them straightly.Because we are friends for some years,so we can say everything straightly.
@keir3000 (296)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
It is easy for me to say sorry on text messages, letters, emails, phone calls. You can easily talk and you can say whatever you want to say.
@adeeb747 (100)
18 Nov 08
I will say I am sorry with my feelings maybe a kiss with it