Have You Ever Had More Than One Invitation To Christmas/Holiday Dinner?

Canada
November 18, 2008 9:44am CST
I remember one Christmas twenty years ago, when my brother, sister, and myself, received three such invitations. We ended up accepting the one that we were most comfortable with. It had been a rough year for us, and we were invited by some people that wouldn't normally include us. Several years ago, my daughter and I were invited to the homes of four families, who are our good friends. We accepted the first invitation we received that year. How do you decide where you'll spend Christmas? What are the most invitations you've received in one year? Do you find it hard to choose just one place to spend the day?
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
18 Nov 08
Hi there Someone's Mom. I should say that i have had more than one invitation for Christmas and it was hard to choose as you know people expect you to accept their invitation and they often forget that you may have prior engagements so in general i prefer making my own program, with my folks or with my girlfriends parents (at her place in another city) thus avoiding this kind of situations.
• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hello, elitess, These kinds of things can be hard, and it's sometimes difficult to choose 'just one.' We usually accept the first invitation when this happens, then we stick to it. One year, we were invited by one family, and then the ones we often spend the time with, invited us 'late' in the season. We ended up going to dinner at the first family's, and then dropping in to visit at the second one later on. It's good to have 'set plans' each year, to avoid this type of thing. Thanks for sharing here.
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
20 Nov 08
its only happened once, well, no, I've been invited before and always turned down the invites to be with my folks/family but that year I had one local and one out of town, I took the out of town one, I offered to stay in town and just blow off Thanksgiving (too late to accept the in town offer when my dad went back into the hospital) but my sister & mom told me to go. I should'a stayed....
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• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hi ElicBxn, I can understand why you'd want to be with your family. To me, they come first too, but we don't spend Christmas Eve or Day with family, but see them just before and right after Christmas day each year. We go away to my sister's for a week, right after Christmas. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. This would be a tough decision to make. Thanks so much for sharing here. Take care.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Well, my sister comes to town, useta we might travel to her place or when my bro lived outta town, to his place, but since mom can't travel anymore, and my bro lives in town now, we stay here. My sis comes to town for Christmas - my mom wishs she'd come back to Austin to, but there's no chance of that - she couldn't blow this town any faster after graduating college...
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• Canada
3 Dec 08
It does make it much harder when family is scattered in different locations. I'm sure your mom must miss having your sister closer. My daughter's 'likely' going to be going away to university next fall, and it won't be easy. They grow up too fast.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
19 Nov 08
yes years ago when I was active I did, but not anymore, I don't really go out all that often now.
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• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hi winterose, I'm sorry to be late getting back to this topic. Do you stay home for Christmas then? I do hope you spend this time with your son, and others close to you. Thanks for responding here. Take care.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
2 Dec 08
because I am disabled I pretty much stay home all the time now, it is rare that I get out anymore.
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• Canada
3 Dec 08
I can relate, as it's becoming more difficult for me too. I do try to get out as much as possible (which isn't that often.) This is especially true in the winter months. Hugs.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Oh, that kind of thing doesnt happen in Christmas here. Its kinda understood that its a family affair and so even if we do invite friends over, it would be known that they're going to say thanks but refuse because they have their own celebration, something like that. Those kinds of invitations happens when its fiesta here. Groups of friends would be "house-hopping" to join in friends' families festivities. Relatives from far away would be invited and all or any friend would be invited to come to the house and share a meal or snack or just come for a visit. If you have the time and the appetite, you can go to all of your friends' and classmates house throughout the day but be sure to be quite hungry cause its a bit of a courtesy to at least eat something when visiting a house. Imagine if you have at least 20 friends, went to all their houses, and all the food that you could imagine. Might leave you full for at least a week!LOL! Enjoy your holidays.^_^
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• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hi bjcyrix, Thanks for sharing the way things work where you live. It's always interesting to me, to learn of this sort of thing. myLot can be very educational. Your fiesta sounds very exciting. When is it held? It would be hard to be faced with so much food, and not able to turn it down. You enjoy your Holiday too! Take care.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
Heya, sorry this took so long You're welcome, I have learned a lot of things from myLot especially about different cultures. Sure it might be only text correspondence and not the first hand experience but still its nice to learn something new. Hehe, it is, its on the month of September lasts for 9 days but people usually prepare the food on the last day. There are still lots of activities, bazaars and concerts to see within the 9 days of celebration. Now, its Happy New Year!
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• Canada
5 Jan 09
Thanks for sharing this info with me. Happy New Year to you too!
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• United States
1 Dec 08
We usually do not have a problem with that because we have never been invited to someone else's home for Christmas dinner. We have had a problem with where to to for Thanksgiving. We usually go to our daughters and that is fun. WE will see what next year brings because we have a new grand baby on the way so we may be spending most holidays up there with him.
• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hi teapotmom, It's nice to just be able to stay home at Christmas too, and let everybody come to you. My daughter and I did this one year, and I enjoyed it much more than she. She really likes to go out on Christmas day. I hope you get things worked out for your Thanksgivings. When is your new grand baby due? Thanks for sharing here, as always. Take care.
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• United States
4 Dec 08
The new baby is due in February. She has asked me to be in the delivery room with her. I cannot wait. I am an RN so it will be fun to be on the head end. I did not ever work in delivery I did do some labor and new mom part and lots of hours with the babies.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I have received a wonderful invitation from my old friends somewhere in college. We eat outside the two of us..we are talking about the past and the future. she's my one and only close friend whom i can run too if ever big dilemma will come up in my life. My parents treated her like my sister already.
• Canada
2 Dec 08
It's great that you're able to spend time with this friend. It's so important to have friends we can always count on. Thanks for responding here, and enjoy your Holidays.
@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Hi someonesmom, how are you? It use to happen often when I was younger. I would try to spend some time at each place that I was invited to. Now I have Christmas at my house and family and friends are all welcome here.
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• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hi OURDEW, I'm sorry that it's taken me so long to get to this. It's really good to see you, as I haven't noticed you around 'here' much of late. How are you and your family, especially your new little grandson? I'm hanging in here, with lots going on family wise, etc. There will be big changes coming in the New Year for us. We've spent time at a couple of places in the same day too. It can be exhausting, but is well worth it. I'm sure you have a wonderful family gathering at your home. Thanks for sharing here. Merry Christmas to you and yours. Take care.
19 Nov 08
Oh yeah, it's really difficult to decide if you've got more than one invitation especially those people who invite you are close to your heart. I had this problem last year, so now I decided on christmas day I will have to spend my time at work looking after my patients and make them happy on that day. I made up my mind already, so I have a reason to say no to invitations.
• Canada
2 Dec 08
Yes. It can be a very tough decision. That's a very admirable thing you're doing on Christmas day. Do you work in a hospital as a doctor or nurse? Thanks so much for your response. Take care.
• United States
19 Nov 08
I've had this problem the last three years. It used to be my whole family went to my grandmothers one trip that was it. Well my mother and grandmother no longer speak to they do seperate holiday dinners on christmas so that left me with two places I felt obligated to go. Then my half siblings came back into my life and they expect me to come each christmas dinner with them to cause they don't get along with my mom and her side of the family so that left me with three places. It usually starts out pretty good but I'm in a huge rush and someone always gets their time cut short and their feelings hurt. This year i've decided i'm not gonna stress myself out and just tell my siblings i can't make it cause my little brother and I are all my mother and grandmother have and it's not fair to them.
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• Canada
2 Dec 08
Wow. That really does sound stressful. I think you've made a good decision for this year. Have a great Christmas with your family, and thanks for responding here. Welcome to myLot. Take care.
• Canada
19 Nov 08
Hi Mom!!! I must say I have never been invited to a dinner at two different places on the same day however, the holidays are very busy for us! When we got married six years ago both of our Mother's wanted us there on Christmas day but because there is an hour and half drive between the two this was not going to be happening and so we alternate years! One year we are at my Husband's Mom's on Christmas day and My Mom's at New Years...The next year we are at my Mom's for Christmas day and My Husband's Mom's for Boxing Day (She won't wait until New Years) Those years are very rushed with all of the driving needed to get places!! Of course, our Christmas Dinners and gatherings do not end there....My Husband also has a Step Mom and Sister who we visit for dinner a week or two before Christmas...Juggling dates can be difficult for this one as it interferes with Church Gatherings and other dinners we may be invited to....We try very hard to pick a date that will not interfere with anything happening around that time! Easier said than done sometimes! ~Heavens~
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• Canada
2 Dec 08
Hi heavens, Yours is a situation that many families encounter, but one I've never personally experienced. In fact, I had a friend comment to me recently, that it's unusual that 'we' don't actually spend Christmas Eve or day with family. As you know, that's just the way it is for us. We see two separate family groups before Christmas, and then go away to another for a week, shortly afterward. I 'know' how hard it's become to choose the date for the gathering you've mentioned. The choice seems to become more difficult each year. It does seem like you have your family's plans 'down to a science' now though. Enjoy all of these gatherings to the fullest, and thanks for sharing here too. Hugs.
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