How would you choose between a poor and a rich lover who both loves you?

rich vs poor - choosing between rich and poor, whats the best you can have?
@loxion (1551)
India
November 18, 2008 6:36pm CST
You find yourself in a situation where you so in love with two different people. The first one is rich and love and the next guy is poor but also loves you too. Who will you choose between the two? will it be the rich guy who can take you anywhere you want or will it be the poor guy whom you will just spend most your times locally and not going out to fancy places? remember all this people loves you
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@anjanabs (127)
• India
19 Nov 08
i will select depends on who is more able to understand me and trust me and vice versa.it doesn't matter that whether he is rich or poor.love depends on its depthness and the person who are in love.not on money or some thing.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
I totally agree with you Anjanabs, i think even though they might love or show some true love in you, there will always be the one that you mostly love or prefer
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• United States
19 Nov 08
That's a hard one. If both people love you, I would pick the one that I was in love with or felt was my soul mate. I lived in the small town I grew up in for years, and I was perfectly happy. I don't need a luxurious life. Love is good enough for me! Don't get me wrong, I truly enjoy being wined and dined, but it is not a necessity. I think everyone is looking to feel happy and loved. I've heard this question before asked 'would you rather have a poor partner who you were madly in love with, or a rich partner who you felt only moderate about'. In that case I'd go with poor and in love. That's pretty much how my life is now! hahaha.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
Okay, here is a situation where both of this people have really shown how much they really loves you, they both make you happy and treat you to the level that you desire and always they both welcome you with warm hands. Now from what you can see is the fact that they both love you and shown you some true love, although the other guy is poor but he is mad about you, and again even though the next guy is rich he also shown how much you really mean to him They both have true love towards you
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• United States
20 Nov 08
Oh my. Two prospective partners who both loved me true! Um. At that point...Rock, paper, scissors! Haha. Good question.
• China
19 Nov 08
This is a hard question for some people, but not for me. I think i will never fall in love with two guys. Well, so many girls may choose the rich guys i guess,and for me, base on your conditions, the rich guy can take me anywhere i want. I like travelling, and if this one can not take me with him anywhere, just go around himself, i think i will not choose him. (some real thing like this happened by my friend). No matter rich or poor, i think i will choose the one who is really love me, and treat me better.
@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
In this case both show true love to you. The two guys here do not know each other, you might have met the other one who stays down the street and the other one might be from the other city, and they all show how much they really loves you You can tell from both this people that the are really in love and what they both have is nothing but true love, and they treat you the way you want to be treated.
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• China
19 Nov 08
Well, i think this thing will not happen on me, haha!!!! A choice is very diffcuclt for women, they usually hesitate, and sometimes they do a bad choice, if these two guys are love me in the same way, i will choosed one i love, i admit the rich one is more attracting. Actually i will not fall in love with two guys, i only love one guy, now and forever. No matter what happened, i will still love him.
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@akilaram (72)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Hi Loxion, Your question sounds interesting.. Though money is an important factor in life, money can buy only materialistic things but not happiness. I will definitely go for the person who is happy when i am happy and sad when I am sad, who is always there with my during my tough times and feels proud of my growth/victory. Regards, Akila
@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
Yes, i think a good relationship is based on that, but in this case both this poor and rich person's loves you. You have spend some time with each one of them and they have really shown true love towards you and you are now faced with the challenge of who to choose Who will that be, will it be the poor person or the rich one?
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@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
19 Nov 08
But, having them love me doesn't mean I love them. It's whether I feel the same way that counts.
• United States
19 Nov 08
The man that has the ability to work hard and the ability to love would appreciate having a woman looking him unconditionally. My vote is the poor guy..I think the rich may take your for granted because he can buy his way into anything.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
20 Nov 08
This guys all of them love you, they both showed that to you, and not like the rich has bought some expensive stuff to show how much they really feel about you,no. He has done small simple things, and again even the poor guy has shown his love for you. But now the difference between the two is cash, the other one is poor and next one is rich but they all truly love you
@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I would choose the one I love. Because yes money can relieve alot of stress from life but it can not make happiness. If you were truly in love with the poor man but choose the rich man for stabilty money wise then you would be miserable. I think a person should always follow their heart and be with the person they love and not let money buy their love.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
20 Nov 08
In this case you are not yet in love with either of them, you are still trying to choose which one to love. They all love you, but the difference between the two is money. I think like you said wait and see who you really love and you feel like you will be comfortable with and take it from there
@salonga (28020)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Of course I'm the only one to know who I really love the most. Whoever is the one I love the most...I'd marry him regardless of whether he is poor or rich.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
That's would be a good thing "to follow what your heart says". And because you would have already spend some time with each of them and i guess you would have already know who will be your sweetheart. thanks Salonga
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@kaka135 (14099)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 08
To me, it doesn't matter whether they love me or not. The most important is whom I love. I'll choose the one I love, no matter he's rich or poor. I am quite financial independent, so I don't need to depend on others to bring me to anywhere. I'm also fine with just staying locally.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
It is also a good thing to our hearts, and i think in your case the decision should be easy because then you would have spend some time with each of them and already you know whom you best want to spend your time with. Thanks Kaka
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• United States
19 Nov 08
this has nothing to do with your Q, but wtf is your picutre, iver seen you post and wondered before, so now im asking. creepy.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
I'm from nowhere and going nowhere slowly
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I would test them both. I would tell each of them about the other one. I would say "There is another man who I love as well as you, but I want to choose one of you so you must show me how much you really love me." The guy doesnt have to be rich to prove to me he loves me . But he does have to show me I am worth his time. I would give them 6 months to show me. In that time i would find out who truly loves me. That would be the guy I would go for.
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@loxion (1551)
• India
19 Nov 08
I think that would work, but don't you think after telling the poor guy about the other person who also loves you...the poor guy will sort of pullback? i mean after realizing that he cannot win against that rich guy and maybe the fact that the rich guy will do everything you want and take you everywhere you wanna go. Obviously the richer guy will do all nice things within that time you gave them, although they might not be fancy as you mentioned that "the guy doesn't have to be rich to prove that he loves you", but still i think that the rich one will do much better things that may find its way on winning your heart But what about that poor guy? what if he just cutout flowers from his garden everyday to show how much he really loves you?
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@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
This is so hard! In paper, I'd definitely choose the rich man because at least my future will be more secure. Knowing that I have the option of not working and living comfortably is such a great burden off my back. At the same time, rich men tend to have mistresses because other women are attracted to their money. Or they can buy women and pay for special favors, which is something I really cannot stand at all. A poor man would love me for me and I'll be secure in knowing that. Ultimately though, I'll choose the rich man.
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@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
i'll go with the person who is more responsible and have determination... :)
@loxion (1551)
• India
20 Nov 08
They are all determined and proved that they truly love you, they all do things that make you happy, but now the big difference is the life they live, the cash the other one has and poorness the other one has
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
hmmm...that's so hard to choose from... i guess i have to take a vacation and from there, i will choose whoever i will miss and think most of the time.... :)
@hildas (3031)
19 Nov 08
I choice the poor guy. I had a choice years ago and I choice him. Money did not matter then. It does now to me, now I am older, but love is blind. No I love him still after all these years. My family had money too, but I married the poor guy because I loved him. I will get my inheiritence one day and make us rich then. till then we will struggle in love. Well somedays anyway. Take care.
@loxion (1551)
• India
20 Nov 08
What if the rich guy also love you the same way the poor guy loves you, i mean he also showed that he loves you, not by buying everything you need but by doing small things which he knows that they make you happy. So is the poor guy he has done things that make you happy
@hildas (3031)
20 Nov 08
well it would then go down to, what we have in common, whos wiser and considerite. Respects me too would have to be there.
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
I'll choose the guy I love. I mean, they both love me already, it's a choice made in heaven, a win-win situation, but I think I'll fare better if I go for the guy I love. And you know, I may be a practical person but I also am very idealistic. I am always a sucker for intelligent, honest and romantic guys. Money can't buy those virtues but I can't be sure the poor guy has it too. So I guess, I won't be choosing any of the two at the end! But we'll see... I'll cross the bridge when I get there!
@loxion (1551)
• India
24 Nov 08
Choosing the one your heart love is obviously what most of us will do, but what if they are all so romantic and intelligent, although their intelligence might not be seen in the same way because they are obviously different and live totally a different life. But if they are similar in most of the things they do and both very clever people, but now the difference is the fact that the next one is rich and the other dude is poor?
@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Personally, for me, I would have to Pray about it, and then go from there. Most people would write down the pro's and con's of both of them, and go from there. I guess it would also depend on what type of lifestyle you are also used too, and would you fit in if you choose the man or woman with money. For me, if I would have had to give up a lot of my friends, etc. unless I knew it was god directing me that way, I would have not been able to choose wealth for sure. Yes, it would be nice, but Wealth never brings Happiness most of the time as well.
@loxion (1551)
• India
24 Nov 08
Sounds like so far most people do not want the wealthier men/women and i'm not sure why because they too need some love, even though most people might think they could turn out to be worse, but they too need some love. thnks
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
well, you choose the one you really love, the richness or poorness are not matter in love, because talking about love is more on sacrifice, believe, and being faithful to each other, just choose the one who dearest to you, never mind their lifestyle...have a good day good luck...
@jerzgirl (8013)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
19 Nov 08
What should matter most is which one do I love most, not whether or not one is rich or poor. I should love the person and enjoy being with them and never feel as though I have to carry them in any way. That can be true of either one. Not having money doesn't mean not having a good life. It also doesn't mean not being independent. You can be working poor and be happy in your life. So what if you don't have extras. If you have love and enjoyment in one another, that's what matters most.