To listen or to speak

@aprilten (1977)
Philippines
November 18, 2008 9:44pm CST
Are you more of a listener or a talker? Why do you say so?
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14 responses
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
19 Nov 08
I don't like to speak much and that is why, I'm more of a listener than talker.
@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I'm sure your friends appreciate having someone listening to them. Thanks for joining in.
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
20 Nov 08
Thanks for appreciation.
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@diillu (5130)
19 Nov 08
I have been tagged as a good listener by my friends rather than the talker one. I like listening to friends or what they are saying and speak little less but not less than the required. I don't keep quiet when I feel like I have to speak things up and I don't talk much when everyone's around me are talking and busy on telling their things. I like to hear rather to make my friends hear. I love listening their talks and love to comment as well.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Everybody needs a good listener like you. Thanks!
@EAStanley (2689)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I am the same way. I have been told that I am a good listener. I really don't like talking that much. I like to hear what other people have to say. I speak when it's necessary. :)
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@dodo19 (27727)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Nov 08
I've always been more of the listener. I'm not entirely sure why. I guess it just happened that why. I have a hard time actually talking about things. A lot of times, I feel that I don't say it right.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
I'm sure your friends appreciate having you to listen to them. Thanks!
@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
I am more of the listener-type. I don't really like to stand out and talk stuffs unless if its needed.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
Everybody needs a good listener like you. Thanks for posting.
21 Nov 08
I would like to observe first before I will talk, I want to know when to speak or to talk specially when I am in a group of people. One day, I got annoyed this co-staff at work was picking on me, she said to " hey have you got a tongue, can you talk?" and she said it rudely infront of our clients. At that moment I didnt say a word at all, but later on when there was just me and her, I told her off "don't do it again to me because I know when to talk or not. I don't want to put you to embarrassment."
@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
I commend you for not stooping down to her level. That's very professional of you. Talking to her in private is a good thing to do. You strike me as a very reasonable person. Thank you for responding.
@alokn99 (5718)
• India
21 Nov 08
It depends on who i am with and the circumstances. But as a thumb rule with people i am close with i am an equal listner and talker and otherwise more of a listner.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
I'd say that's a good balance. Thanks for joining in.
@Calais (10905)
• Australia
21 Nov 08
Most of the time Im a listener, I find that a lot of people come to me, they feel comfortable talking to me...
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
Everybody wants to be heard and having someone like you to listen is really a blessing. Thanks!
@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I agree with marisriel, that it depends on the situation. I train people in customer service which, of course, entails listening. However, in order to train them I have to talk, LOL. I have to be flexible, and realize what the situation call for. What is against my nature is taking control... that is a skill I have had to develop, especially when someone is wanting to "hi-jack" class and overexercise THEIR talking tendencies. :p
@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I agree that it really depends on the situation. Thanks!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I rather listen often and observed, specially when I am liking the conversation cause I also learn a lot of things by just listening. Well same with a girl when I like her I rather listen to know her more. How about you? Have a nice day!
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I'd say I'm both a listener and a talker. Thank you! Have a nice day to you, too.
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
19 Nov 08
hey aprilten U have put very good question. In my case I am introvert and soft spoken and I prefer to listen others rather than speaking. Further it also depends upon the situation and circumstances where to speak or where to listen. I think listening is a good art. pkc3000
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I think so, too. Thanks! Happy mylotting!
@Humbug25 (12552)
19 Nov 08
Hello aprilten I definatly talk more than I listen. I love to talk and that is why my voice has gone most of the time! LOL I don't know why it is, it's not like I like the sound of my own voice I have just always got a lot to say. I do listen to people as well but talk more that's all!
@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
No dull moment with you. Thanks!
@ericajoyce (1749)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
Hello aprilten, Im more of a listener than a talker. I dont talk that much unless Im close to that person.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I have a friend from way who, like you, won't talk much. That's probably the reason why I enjoy 'talking' to him because I do the talking most of the time. I would always confide in him whenever me and my boyfriend, who is a friend of him, were having problems. Thanks for responding.
@marisriel (1157)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
It really depends on the occasion. There are times that you need to be a listener or a talker and there are also times when you need to be both. But most of the times, you need to be both. As when a friend needs a shoulder to lean and cry on, I am more of a listener. Listening means just letting them talk and express their emotions without them being judged. And when they say they need some suggestions, that's the time when I talk. I was more of talker when I was young, enjoying the attentions that were given to me when I am talking. But as I mature, I realized that some people need some listeners to them and that makes them feel special and appreciated.
@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I agree with you. Thanks for joining my discussion!
@kaka135 (13469)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 08
I always like to listen if I'm in a big group, or a group with more than two people. Especially when other people want to talk, then I'll just keep quiet and listen. Whereas, I'll feel more comfortable to speak more when I'm only talking to another person, and if he or she is willing to listen to me. I suppose I'm more of a listener.