Kids screaming in church while the sermon is going on

@Bebs08 (10690)
United States
November 19, 2008 8:37am CST
Did you experience this scenario in church that kids in different corners of the church screamed for some reasons while the sermon is going on? Well, I do experienced it many times in church. It really disturbed my concentration, maybe not only me, also others and even the speaker. The worst thing is that, the parents just don't care about it. They would not take their kids outside for a while just to give peace inside.It is maybe the best thing to have a special room for mothers who have little kids where they can still listen to the sermon and can take care of their noisy kids without disturbing the congregation. what do you think about this scenario? what is your idea about this? Just curious to hear.
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@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Hello Bebs08, We have the same experience in attending mass, and that is other parents don't care to stop their kids from being noisy during the mass. It does really destroys everybody's concentration. Since we don't have a room for little kids here in the Philippines unlike abroad, parents should responsible enough to stop their kids from being noisy. Or better yet bring them outside so everybody will not be disturbed. Bringing their kids to attend mass is just okey, but they should not tolerate the kids from screaming and the likes.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Correct!! I am annoyed with the parents not much with the kids. Parents are the sole responsible of their kid's behavior.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
20 Nov 08
Unfortunately some parents do not realize there are places for kids and places for adults. The adults only places include church, at least down to children of such an age that can sit still for an hour or so. Some parents were never taught manners and do not do so for their children so others have to endure the antics of their little untrained angels.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Very good points.. I agree with you. it is that the parents never taught manners to their kids because they themselves have no manners. LOL..That is a sad reality.
@salonga (27994)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Oh my dear you touched that important topic which is really worth being paid attention to in churches! I've attended some church worship services like that and I believe it is the responsibility of the parent to pay attention to her child. In order to avoid that problem, I believe every church should set aside a place for the children where they will be kept and taught while the adults are worshiping. We have to give God the highest form of worship so when the word of God is being preached everyone is attentive and not disturbed. In our church, we have a Sunday School room for children and teachers are assigned each Sunday to teach them Bible stories, sing Christian songs and engage in games and activities they will truly enjoy. We also offer free food and drinks to them. We also have Nursery room for the infants and toddlers where we keep or put them to sleep and lots of toys for them. Two or 3 Mommies are assigned each Sunday to take care of them. We have a loudspeaker in that room so that the Mommies could in a way hear the sermon even if they are inside the Nursery room. That we way we have avoided that problem about the children.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Oh!! that idea is very good my friend when there are some parents who would take care of the little kids in a separate room during adult service. I wish our church could do that. We do have separate service from 9 -11, kids have their own study but at 11-12 that's the adult service and the mothers will take their kids inside the church because their service are done in 2 hours. The idea of having a separate service whole the way through is good.. but they said, kids should be in the sanctuary area so that they would feel what really is the church i, therefore the parents should give them proper orientation of what to expect when they are in church.
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@salonga (27994)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
In our church the children are also having their own Junior Church. There is a time for preaching as well but is done in a way children will understand and appreciate more. They will not be able to relate with the sermon meant for adults. It is only when they reach the age of 12 that they are allowed to attend the adult church.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I experienced that many times....kids screaming in church. Of course its disgusting and more disgusting if mothers or guardians doesn't do anything to pacify the noise. When my mom was still alive she would really call the attention of the parents to stop the child from annoying the sermon. And yes that would be a good suggestion, to have special room for mothers twhere they can listen to the sermon and take care of their children
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
yes, I agree with that idea also to have a separate room for the little kids who usually screamed with no reasons inside the church.. hahahah maybe they just want to..My point is.. why some parents are not sensitive to the feelings of others? As if they are deaf and blind.. hahahaha irresponsible parents.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
20 Nov 08
[i]Hi Bebs, I always experience that and truly they destruct attention especially when they will not stop no matter how the parents will try to comfort those kids, it's really nice to have a special place for them so that they will not destruct a lot of people when their kids will start to yell and scream![/i]
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
You are right CHE, I don;t understand why some parents are not so concerned about their kid's behavior that is very annoying to others. As if they are not affected with the annoying look of people around them.. what's that?? inconsiderate?
@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I have encountered that situation too, i think that parents are responsible for telling their kids on what to do inside the church especially while sermon is going on.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Correct dong, I agree with you but sad to say that parents are very irresponsible to take into action of what must be done.
@efarmer (184)
20 Nov 08
I agree to you somewhat. But the thing is that instead of taking the children outside they should be trained to sit quietly. they may be given something to distract their attention if they are very young but otherwise they should be taught to behave well. If they can sit quietly in school then why not in church
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
That is a good point too? But maybe they can sit quietly in school because the teacher is mean when they noisy or maybe because they are graded and in church there's no grade. they will not be minus if they misbehave. but seriously, it is the parents' duty to educate them how to behave properly.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
20 Nov 08
Yes thats right.Kids are a source of attraction in the church.When the pator is preaching in the church.A kid is coming and playing with my Bible.They are making noises and throwing mobiles here and there.Creating a lot of distraction.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Oh!! that; ridiculous!!! parents should be responsible enough to orient their kids to respect other peoples property. That is very much annoying!!!
@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
This is very common here as well. I see AND HEAR lots of kids screaming their heads off, or even babies crying their eyes out. I love them but their behavior inside the church is totally inappropriate. I know they're still not that conscious of their environment but that's what the parents or guardians are there for. I could remember my mother, irritated, say "those kids should've been left home!" after a toddler behind us threw a tantrum, and I agree. If the parent knows that the kid could get uncontrollable then they should just get someone to look after him while they would go and hear mass. It'll just be an hour or two anyway.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
You are right with that... It is the parents concern to keep their child' behavior appropriate in church and if they are too young to understand what is going on, parents should use their initiative of that to do.
• Qatar
20 Nov 08
hi bebs Everybody is welcome to attend mass even kids but if they do untoward behavior you can take them outside so that they wont disturb other people. here in my place, there is a separate place for mother with kids. They can sit there especially for those little one's.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I certainly agree with you that everybody is welcome to attend the church service but kids must be taught how to behave. It's the parents responsibility but the problem is they are not doing it.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I agree most kids really are so free spirited nowadays and parents find it hard to control them at times. I think parents should be more responsible when they bring their children to church and show them the proper behavior inside such places.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Correct!! parents would teach their children the proper behavior when they are in church. But unfortunately, they are not doing that.
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Yeah I had some experiences like that . And it was annoying. Parents should be responsible enough to deiscipline their kids while the mass/service is going on. It loses the solemnity of the mass.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
That is suppose to be... Parents are responsible enough to discipline their kids but that doesn't happening now. The kids are the ones disciplining their parents because every time they demand for something, the parents will yield to their wishes and they screamed when parents can not follow them right away.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Hey bebs~I think that is a wonderful idea! And I wonder why they haven't thought of it by now! It is extremely annoying to have children screaming in church. I know that in alot of churchs they have places for the children to stay during the sermons. But, actually having a place for the parent to stay with the children and be able to watch the sermon on a closed circuit tv would solve the problem of the kids being in the main room of the church. I believe that if a child is too young to behave then it isn't right for the child or for the parent to bring the child to disrupt the service. It is rude and disrespectful for those that are there to worship peacefully.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Exactly right!!! I agree with you. there must be a place for little kids who can not behave yet like adults do in the congregation.
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I have experienced going to church and being disturbed with these noisy kids. The irritating part was the parents were doing nothing while their children disturbed the whole church. Parents should teach their children the right manners inside the church or if the kid is still young and doing some noise inside the church, the parent can go outside for a while to make the kid feel better. The church is a sacred place that people go to pray, so kids should not disturb the people in their concentration.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I feel the same way like what you said, it is irritating to see parents doing noting while their kids are noisy, disturbing the congregation who are concentrating to the sermon. I wish parents would realized that.
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Yes I think it's annoying. not just at church but other public places where quiet is necessary. My grandmas church has a cry room upstairs to take kids if they are getting ansy and being loud. there are speakers in the room so you can hear the sermon and a window so you can see down into the church and still see what's going on. I would always take my daughter out if she was being loud.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Oh!! that is a very good idea. I wish our church could make that kind of room for the kids and the mother so that the mother could still listen to the sermon while attending to here crying baby.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Nov 08
When the kids starting acting up in our church (not mine, I am 65) either the mother or the father take them downstairs to the nursery or outside. Some of the kids like it better in the nursery and some just quieten up. So you have to take the kid out. We do have the speakers on so the mothers can still hear the sermon, so really there is no excuse. God is not going to punish her or him if one takes the screaming child out and the rest of us can hear the sermon.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
You are right!!! I wish the mothers of those kids will do that. I have no little kids and I always want to listen to the sermon with no disruption. There are some parents who are considerate enough to take their kids out but most are not... they just sit there like nothing happened.
19 Nov 08
I know this discussion relates to children screaming in church but I couldn't help thinking about an incident on the bus today. There I sitting behind a young mom and her little boy. I was trying to read whilst the boy screamed almost non stop. Several methods were used by his mom toget him to stop, you know the usual stuff, but no success. Then out of the blue his mom,s cell phone rang, she answered it, and starting chatting. The little boy stopped screaming and never uttered another sound for the rest of the journey. I wonder what that was all about?
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
hahaha that is amazing? I was wondering also what was it that made the boy behave? maybe, he just want attention from his mom? There are kids who are like that. But that is an exception even if the boy shouts because it is not in the church.
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Well I've experienced this before too, I don't know why parents won't get onto their kids for being loud in church, they just shoose them and thats it nothing else, if we done that when we were little, our parents would of taken us outside and showed us what for. We were always taught to be reverent in the Lords House, and not to make a sound or be fiddling around. Our church has a nursery for the little ones, so there isn't any babies or smaller kids in the congregation, we do have bigger kids in there, but they are all pretty much quiet. I know all churches aren't like that tho, some places the kids go in and out the door, slamming it, and talking real loud, and still nobody says anything to them. I don't know why...
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
that's the tight word my friend, be reverent in church. I agree with what you said that in other churches, kids go in and out, noisy, laughing, talking out loud and some are sunning as if they are in the park? I don;t understand why parents can not teach them to be reverent in the house of God.
• United States
19 Nov 08
Yes, this happens to all the churches i've been to. But there's one good thing about it, this is in New Zealand and the Priest says that the children screaming, crying are not bad at all because they are God's love and that God is happy that their parents take thme to His home for them to play with Him. Sometimes we think that church is a solemn place that we are not allowed to talk but you know what, God loves these little kids that He's not bothered at all by their noises so if God is not complaining, no reason for us to do so. Just think about is as an angelic chorus.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
hahahaha very good point!!! yes you are right!! Jesus loves the children that He is not bothered when they are in church.. but I'm sure Jesus do not want also that the church will turn like a play ground, park or market? The fast is we should teach the children to behave properly in church.
@remrick (202)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I think it is the parents' responsibility to manage their kids so that they won't disturb other people. I find parents who don't discipline their children extremely annoying. I mean, can't they take responsibility for their kids? what kind of parents are they? sheesh...
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Correct!!! they are not that sensitive to feel the annoying look of people around them who are disturb by their kids' noise.