What kind of relationship husband and wife being battered by parents?

@felher08 (195)
Philippines
November 21, 2008 3:29am CST
I have a friend whose wife has been battered by her father. He always suffers psychologically the feeling of anger his wife outwardly expressed in their relationship. For him, this traumatic experienced of her wife from her childhood seems to severe their family relationship. Her wife outwardly express this anger and revenge towards him and towards their children. What is your opinion? Share me so I can relay your opinon to them. Happy mylotting!
2 responses
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
22 Nov 08
i agree that your friends wife will need counseling .but she has to do this on her own .i have a husband that has been thru the same thing but it seems as if he doesint even know that he is doeing it.they are angry and sad on the inside and it comes back on you and your kids.i agree with the other person that commented the spouse of these people do try to carry on like it is not a problem .its hard to know how to help but you do become a victom if you are not careful.and i do not leave my husband as the soul care giver for my children for very long because he does have a short temper,little patience,and is not verbally pleasant at times.
@felher08 (195)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Thanks Deedeehall for your response. I agree with you because this wife appears to be perfect. It seems for her that she is always right and nothing is wrong with her.However,the children are affected and the husband has nothing to do about it. She needs counselling.
@BubblyIan (751)
21 Nov 08
What goes around comes around. In the absence of appropriate counselling, it is unlikely that the wife will be able to get over what happened to her and it is likely she will take revenge on all men close to her. Your friend is very brave to hang in there and marry someone who has been through that kind of abuse and risk being a victim himself. If he still wants to stand by her he must support her through counselling and hope she can come to terms with the fact that not all men are like her father and to move on otherwise she will become a sad, bitter and lonely woman. He must also consider the children and may feel she is too dangerous to be left in sole charge of the children, particularly sons, if any. Maybe he should ensure that never happens as his children will also be damaged by the experience of having a violent mother. It is a very difficult area and most people refuse to face up tot hae reality of the situation. You will need to be strong to suppor tyour friend through this as well. best of luck.
@felher08 (195)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Thanks for your response BubbyIan.I have to support my friend and help him to have approriate counselling. Happymylotting!