Did you and your spouse agree on the names for your kids? How about your family

@vivasuzi (4125)
United States
November 21, 2008 12:06pm CST
I've seen some strange baby names from people in recent years, it seems like a lot of the celebrities are trying to outdo each other! In my local world, people I know have had to spend a lot of time discussing names with their spouses, or even with their family, so it got me to thinking of this discussion. Did you and your spouse agree 100% on the names you choose for your kids? Or did one of you accept it even though it wasn't your fav? I have names picked out (secret list ;) ) and some of them my husband has already said he DOES NOT like, but at the same time he won't offer any alternatives. So I'm thinking, if he can't give me any ideas that I like, that I should just use the names I already choose :) Also some friends of mine had long discussions with their whole family before they choose names. I don't know if I want everyone in the worlds input on the names i choose, because not everyone is going to like every name. I think my parents would like the names I choose, but at the same time I almost want to wait until the kid is born to tell them so they don't try to talk me out of it! What about you? Did you have your whole family involved or did you keep it a secret to the end? I'm thinking whenever I decide to have a kid - I'm going to straight out tell everyone "this is what his/her name will be - no discussion" (assuming my husband agrees wi the name). If you act unsure, people will try even harder to change your mind.
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• United States
21 Nov 08
We agreed on all the names togeather. we didn't ask for others imput because they were our kids not theirs. We told them the name once we narrowed it down to say like four names, two for each gender and then usually by the time we found out the gender we had a name all picked out. The only one we don't completly agree on is the name of our DS, I wanted named like my girls not often heard, but still normal. Boys names couldn't be more Blah or Biblical or over used for that matter.
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
24 Nov 08
That's exactly what I want in a name - something that is not often heard but is still normal enough for people to be able to say it/spell it, etc. My name is Suzanne and I really don't come across many Suzanne's in my life :) I also don't want "boring" names, like you said. My husband tends to pick names like Matt, John, etc, and I say "how about a name that 10,000 people don't already have?"
• United States
25 Nov 08
Exactly! I was doing genelogy for a while and I found my 2nd childs' name thru that. That would also be a good way to find a name er atleast it was for us anyways. I liked a few different boy names but NOoooo dh went w/ boring, but he said I got to name the girls it was his turn. **rolling eyes** I guess I can say I he agreed no Jr's either. And for what it's worth as I thought it wasn't possible that #3 was a boy and I had my heartset on a particular girls name & I was crushed when it was a boy. Not that we didn't want a boy but man...
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I said no Jr's either :) Then you end up with the Big guy and the Little guy, it's too confusing! Actually I also eliminate any names in my close family! Geneology sounds fun, I think I'll try that out, see what I find :)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
i dont know why, but i have had the pleasure of naming all three of my children...my husband has always agreed and so do all my family members...i never had problems with that...thank goodness...
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
24 Nov 08
You must have had a very agreeable family :) A lot of people I know all tell my how they had to think and think and talk and talk before ending up with a name they were happy with that the family was happy with too.
@minnie_98214 (10572)
• United States
21 Nov 08
The only imput my hubby had was if a boy he liked zuees not sure how to spell that but we had a girl and well i picked the name alone and no one argue with me most love her name. Savanna Lynn i thought it was a pretty name and my boys were the same no arguements Tyler Lee and Hunter Allen. No funny names here now i do have some cousins with strange names like tomarrors Dream and Rainey River and yes dad was high and it wasnt on life lol.
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
24 Nov 08
Great names you choose! I am kind of the same way that if I like it, I don't care that much if my husband likes it :) Long as he doesn't HATE it. But if he is just thinking it's not the perfect name, I'll probably still go with the names I like :) I don't want any funny names either, names like the ones you choose are different but normal at the same time which I like.
• Canada
21 Nov 08
when picking names for my children, I don't care what other friends or family think about the name. i don't care if they like the name or not. the only person i involve in the decision is my husband. i'm pregnant with twins. what we did is i picked out about 10 names i like. i made this decision based on if the name sounds nice as well as if i like the meaning of the name. i then brought this list of names to my husband. he liked about half of the names i picked. so we then crossed off the 5 names that he didn't like. we then went over the other 5 names and each picked out our top 2 favorites out of those names. it's weird, but both of us agreed on the 2. so we are going to name our girls Eliana and Isabella.
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
24 Nov 08
Great names! They do sound nice, especially for twins. I'm glad to see you gave them distictly different names as a lot of times twins get stuck with rhyming names. Your process sounds great, it's probably the best way to find something you agree about. It would be harder if your husband didn't like ANY of your top 10 names, luckily he liked some of them :)
@Faye12 (67)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Yes, him and I agreed 100%. The families on the other hand completly hated it. They are mostly devout christians on both sides and well... We named our son Uriah Judas.
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
24 Nov 08
It's good that you guys agreed, it can be hard to get the family to see that it is your choice!