Do you think parent's should stop financially supporting their children when

@sudalunts (5526)
United States
November 21, 2008 2:44pm CST
they turn 18 years old. I think that at 18, the children are still young, and I think they still need the support of their parents until they have become financially independent. Of course, if they are in college, they need parental support, but if they are not in college and have a job, I think they can contribute a little to the household, but the main support should still come from the parents until they get on their feet. What do you think?
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19 responses
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
Parents may stop supporting if the children are 18 and have job, if the parents don't have enough resources to support themm. However if, say the parents are well doing they can support their children whenever there's a need to no matter how old they are.
• United States
22 Nov 08
My parents continued to support me through college. When they found out I was a smoker they quit. They felt like they didn't want to support my habbit. I would probaby do the same to my children.
• United States
22 Nov 08
I think that in today's coddled society, it almost seems acceptable to help out your children until they are at least 22 years old. Many years ago, women were long married and moved to a new house by this point. In today's world. The story has changed. It is ok to help your children financially as they grow, especially in the world today where there is so much thrown at them in adult hood. This little extra help could go a long way.
@jguevara (27)
22 Nov 08
yes i do, and im a 16 year old. if you cant cope by yourself by the age of 18 then what chance have you got with the rrest of your life. According to the 'Goverment'. your meant to support them until they are 21.
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@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
22 Nov 08
I think so ,too. I entered the university at the age of 19, my parents gave support to pay all the expense and at the same time I had the part time job. After my graduation and found a job, I was gradually financially independent and contributed a little to the household.
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@vicky30 (4777)
• India
22 Nov 08
Yes thats right.parents should stop supporting their children when they become financially stable.The children have confidence to do their responsibilities themselves.Parents should support the children for the college and educational courses.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
21 Nov 08
i think once the kids hit an age they need to learn to take care of responalbties. if they aren't going to go to collage then they need to get a job. and if they want to drive my car, they need to buy gas for it. my kids learn about work and money at a very young age. if they got what they needed but if they wanted something they worked for it, by working for the grandparnets.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
22 Nov 08
You are certainly correct, if the needs are met and additional things are wanted they definitely should work for it. Thanks for responding.
• United States
22 Nov 08
In my opinion, children that are 18yrs old and not in school should most definately have a job and contribute to the household. I think that the child and his/her parents should sit down together and come up with an amount to be contributed. I think that the following factors should help in determining the amount: if a child works full or part time, how much the child helps out around the house (WILLINGLY), where the rest of the money earned is put towards (car payment, savings, spending, etc.), and what the childs plans are for the future. I do not believe that a parent should have to be responsible for a child once they have reached the legal age to make their own dessicions.
@Keola12 (717)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I agree. Parents should continue to support their children even at the age of eighteen, in that some eighteen year olds are still in high school. The parents should support their children until the children have become financial successful. Then, and only then are the children ready to take the reigns of their own lives and step out into the real world on their own, and rent an apartment or buy a house if they can afford it, and make a life for themselves.
@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I think that each situation is different and that each family needs to decide for themselves whether the "child" can manage on their own or not. I think it is a decision that the parents and the child should make together and not one that the parents should just say that "You are 18, you are on your own!" If the child is not ready he/she is being set up for failure if he/she is just pushed out and told to make it. I don't think that adult "children" should stay with their parents forever unless there is a financial need from the parent or there are other reasons for them to stay there. I agree that the child should be given the time to get on their feet before the parents are no longer supporting them and it can be a gradual thing and not just all at once.
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
If the family is able to support their children why not. as long as its okay with them. Anyways... parents should hep their kids specially in the beginning of their journey alone without the family life.
• China
22 Nov 08
I think it depend on different case.when the children have their job which could support their lives at 18 years old ,certainly you don't need to support them with money .But nowadays ,mos children at 18 years old ,still in the colleage school ,most of them could't find a good work in the part time to support themselves.Then ,their parents could lend some money to them ,support theit study .I think it is a good way to slove this problem.
• China
22 Nov 08
It depends! If the children really work hard but couldn't make it, the parents should help them when they are in difficulty!
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
That's impossible to do if they are still finishing school. Although, a lot of part time jobs are available for 18 yr old-ers, the pay is definitely not enough for one's daily sustenance. I agree that parental support should be extended to them until they have landed a stable job and have an income sufficient enough to support themselves.
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
It is in Filipino culture that children stay with their parents until they get married. Some are even still quite dependent on their parents even if they already have their own families. I think parents are still responsible to support their children until they are financially capable. People at the age of 18 are still in College and most of them do not think of having a part-time job to earn and support themselves. Actually, it depends on the parents on how long they wnat to support their children. Well, my parents, although we are all grown up and have our own families now, are still financial supporting some of us sometimes. They feel obliged to help us until they still can. We are lucky to have them as our parents.
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
Hi there sudalunts! I think that parents should stop supporting their children financially when they reach the age of 18. However, this can't be applied in some cultures. Here in the Philippines, young adults still depend on their parents' support even after graduation. That is because it's not easy looking for a job immediately after graduation. Moreover, I believe it has become part of our culture. There are even those who depend on their parents' financial support even when they already have a family of their own. I personally think that parents should stop financially supporting their children when they turn 18 and their children can already work to earn their own income. However, parents should still be there to extend help whenever necessary.
@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
I agree with you. For me 18 years of age is still too young for somebody to handle being independent. Especially here in the Philippines it's so difficult to get a job. Most of the time it's preferred for our kids to stay with their parents at this age. On the other hand, believe it or not here in the Philippines, even if you are more than 20 years old, parents prefer for us to stay with them so that we can help with the household expenses since getting a place of our own is way too expensive and somebody who has a regular (minimum) salary here in this country CANNOT AFFORD even just to rent a house.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I totally agree. I think about that every now and then. My older daughter is 14 yrs old and I still can't imagine her not depending on me financially when she turns 18. Although she does want to get a job when she turns 18 and will be earning money for herself I still don't feel that I should completely stop supporting her financially. Not unless she becomes a bad kid who will always get herself in trouble doing illegal stuff. I mean that's given. My daughter is a real good kid though and I want and I WILL be there for her to support her on whatever I could to help her out as long as I'm aware that she still can't make it on her own.
@Barbietre (1440)
• United States
21 Nov 08
My sons started working when they were teens, but they did kick some money in monthly. I feel as long as they are working, it is ok to offer some support, but within reason. If they get lazy and jut come to expect help, out they go!