Your money is for all of us my money is for me - Is that female philosophy ?

@ronnyb (6125)
Jamaica
November 22, 2008 4:55pm CST
When I was younger an older married gentleman pulled me one side and said that that is how females view money while in a marital union.His wife willingly agreed,I am not sure if they were joking but I felt at the time that that was not fair. In my subsequent years ,I would come to the conclusion that many females view their relationships against that background.They certainly dont believe in splitting the bills fifty fifty even of they are earning more than the man.This is the one time they willingly admit that men should be in charge. The bills come and she gives you seventy five percent and still expect you give her money .Her money is saved and to buy her beauty items. Is this your experience ?.Both men and women are invited to respond .
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
22 Nov 08
I think in a relationship after the bills and important things are paid I think the man and woman should have a little of their own, a woman who stays home and cooks and cleans and looks after the kids should be given a certain amount as that is a very hard responsible job, I know men don't look at that as a job but it has been proven they don't do it well especially when there are kids involved...you only live once and I think everyone likes to be able to have a little money of their own...never forget what a woman does for a man is the the same as having a job so why shouldn't she have a little money of her own...
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
23 Nov 08
I like the strategy you presented at the start.I have no problem with paying a stay home mom and I agree it is a job that very few men can do .You didnt tell me though how the bill should be split.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
23 Nov 08
Well once bills are paid I think the rest could be divided in three ways... equally between him, her and savings...
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
23 Nov 08
Sounds like a good plan ,practical and fair for all concerned
@redhotpogo (3935)
• United States
23 Nov 08
yeah that's how it usually works. should be "ours" though. no yours or mine.
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@suzzy3 (8401)
23 Nov 08
Alright then, money shared is the best thing as no one should hold back on the others.Whatever I earn on this site and others we share and put towards something we all need,as is all my husbands wages .I think some people act as if the money they get is private but if you are in a relationship it should be "trust" and that is the main point of this discussion,It maywell be some female or male philosophy but it is not mine.Even when I worked full time as a cook it all went into one account and for us that was normal as we share everything and have no secrets from one another, sorry about the other reply,my sence of humour can get me into trouble and has done in the past!!!!
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
23 Nov 08
You dont have to aplologise ,I was joking too and I knew you didnt mean it like that.In spite of what you wrote I knew you had a more balanced view than that and see it is finally here.I like what you said about sharing everything and the pooling of resources,I think that works best.The truth be told I wouldnt really look on a woman differently if she adopted the said philosophy ,I have come to understand that some women just think that way and its not that they are bad or anything,its a learned behaviour I suppose.Ps dont change your sense of humour ,I have one too and I wont change it .Infact quite a few of the things I write refelect my sense oh humour from time to time .lol
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@suzzy3 (8401)
23 Nov 08
Really I would have never guessed!!!!
@suzzy3 (8401)
22 Nov 08
What's his is mine and whats mine is my own.No problem
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
23 Nov 08
I am disappointed ,you have responded so well to all my dicsussions,presenting in most cases the most balanced view, is saying that.My ,my the true colours finally come out when money is involved ----so happy I am seeing this side lolololololololol