my wife seem to be in my shadow.

United States
November 23, 2008 7:55am CST
my wife often tell me she feel like she's in my shadow because it seem like everyone always talks good about me, because i help out people alot. they often say really good or nice about me. this makes me feel bad, but i tell her even though she feels this way, she's the one who made me into the man that i am today and she's the true back bone to our family. do your wife feel this way and how you deal with me ?
3 responses
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
actually, at times, i do feel what your wife feels... i think my husband is very famous and successful, while i'm just here alone being unemployed coz im a stay home mom... one reason, why i think that way is because i have given up my career since our daughter's nanny left us when she was still a baby... and i dont have anyone to leave my child with... so til now it's hard for me to leave my kids with other people, fearing that they might not get the care they should be having... what do you usually do when you feel that your wife is in your shadow? how does your wife handle it?
• United States
23 Nov 08
she learn to except it, but often feel people are her friends and like just because of me.
• China
23 Nov 08
I think you must love your wife very much , you are a good husband too. Now you have realized this problem ,I suggest you could do simple some things together with your wife ,especially when you give help to the other people .If your wife couldn't do the things well,it doesn't matter, you could teach her. I think this way could let your wife have more chance to get well with the other people , at the same time make her feel the value of herself.
• United States
23 Nov 08
yeah i love her very much, she always stood by me when she should have left. i try to get her more into more but she don't want too. try to get her out more. i tried everything, i told her i don't or didn't ask for anyone to look up to me. thanks
@heart98 (57)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
i can relate with your wife's feeling, i'm a stay at home wife we have no kids yet and my husband wants me to stay at home and take care of household.i find it fulfilling being able to care for my husband 24/7 but sometimes i feel depressed too.but i really appreciate my husbands thoughtfulness and love for me.he finds time to take me out to dates,introduces me to his friends, co-workers and bosses and speaks of me as a loving and caring wife.i hope u can also do the same to ur wife.good luck!