my wife seem to be in my shadow.

actually, at times, i do feel what your wife feels... i think my husband is very famous and successful, while i'm just here alone being unemployed coz im a stay home mom... one reason, why i think that way is because i have given up my career since our daughter's nanny left us when she was still a baby... and i dont have anyone to leave my child with... so til now it's hard for me to leave my kids with other people, fearing that they might not get the care they should be having... what do you usually do when you feel that your wife is in your shadow? how does your wife handle it?

I think you must love your wife very much , you are a good husband too. Now you have realized this problem ,I suggest you could do simple some things together with your wife ,especially when you give help to the other people .If your wife couldn't do the things well,it doesn't matter, you could teach her. I think this way could let your wife have more chance to get well with the other people , at the same time make her feel the value of herself.

i can relate with your wife's feeling, i'm a stay at home wife we have no kids yet and my husband wants me to stay at home and take care of household.i find it fulfilling being able to care for my husband 24/7 but sometimes i feel depressed too.but i really appreciate my husbands thoughtfulness and love for me.he finds time to take me out to dates,introduces me to his friends, co-workers and bosses and speaks of me as a loving and caring wife.i hope u can also do the same to ur wife.good luck!