He wants his already married ex-girlfriend have a baby with him

@kwenge (2493)
Kenya
November 24, 2008 1:23am CST
There is this collegue of mine, he has been married for 5 years now and his wife has infertility problem. His ex-girlfriend got married in January this year. They had lost contact for those past 5 years........in march they bumped into each other and exchanged contacts, he later started sending sms to her expressing how much he still loves her, the lady told him she also still loves him but they cant do anything now that they are both married to different people......he told her he can leave his wife for her if she wants but she said no. Now he want her to get pregnant for him and give birth to his baby secretely making her husband believe that the baby is his.........they guy is promising her that they will both keep it a secret. What do you think about this? The ex-galfriend is my friend and she came to me for some piece of advice.............what should I advice her?
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
24 Nov 08
I am in a 12 year relationship with a man. We have had our ups and down for sure. I already had a 5 month old child when we met. Doctors said he couldn't have children however three years later we had a son. He thought he could not be the father and left me. We had a test and it was proven he was the father. We got back together but I didn't know it, but I was pregnant with another man's baby. When I found out, I could have said he was the father, and in fact the child looks just like him, hair and eye color, skin tones, right down to being left handed and being allergic to the same kind of medicines. In fact he is more like him then his own son. However I knew that it wasn't fair to him emotionally to do that. Also if the other man talked (which later he did) it would be questioned to which a test would have reveled the truth. Though it was really hard to confess that I was pregnant and he was not the father, I was honest and we still stayed together. Though it was hard to figure out the role he has in my son's life we worked it out and we are all together. My three children and us. The other man is not there by his own choice but does have financial responsibilities to him. If she was to bring a child into this situation, it will be found out for sure, which will give her a likely divorce for being dishonest. Also she could be charged for making the husband pay for a child and medical under her lie. Also I think that other man would likely tell so that she would be left by her current husband and he could get her for himself. If she still loves her husband and wants to stay with him then she needs to get rid of this man. If she wants a baby have one with her own husband. If she wants to really be with this man then get a divorce and then have a baby with him. If they go along with this plan I see her on her own raising a baby without much financial or emotional support. She is playing with fire and likely will get burnt.
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@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
25 Nov 08
Thanks alot for sharing your experience with us. This is indeed a perfect story for her to read. Am definately going to print this for her and I know she is going to shed a tear. You are such a straight forward person.......you are an inspiration my friend. I pray for bliss in your relationship. Have a wonderful day.
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• India
24 Nov 08
No question about this Kwenge, both of them are darn outright mad to even think of such a disastrous plan. Yes, it would definitely lead to divorce on either side and these two can then marry but for that, they don’t have to get involved in such a scandalous complication. They both are trying to walk on two boats at the same time and we all know that’s impossible. Infidelity is the word for this, and there’s no advice except for 1. either walk out totally or 2. walk in and expect the disaster to start all around.
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@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
25 Nov 08
Hey friend sudipta, thanks alot for this piece of advice. I am going to print all this response for her and am sure she is going to keep off this man. I told her to stop contacting him or even seeing him. Have a nice day dear and say hi to family.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
24 Nov 08
Hello kwenge. I wish your friend would not agree with him as it is not acceptable at all since both are married. How can he require his ex-girlfriend to get preganant for him? If she agreed, then future trouble would arise. Do you think so?
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@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
24 Nov 08
Thanks for your advice william. I told her the same thing.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Nov 08
That is crazy. She should not do that if she is already married. That just isn't right. That is just my opinion though.
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@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
24 Nov 08
Hey steph, thanks for your response. I also told her that what they are doing is infidelity and she should not encourage that.