friends and money

@jhl930 (3601)
United States
November 24, 2008 12:11pm CST
i think that we have all heard that old saying dont ever loan your friends money, because it will cause hard feelings or either problems or a little bit of both, and i don't really know if i can believe that because i think that if one of my good friends wanted money that they would pay me back, i may be wrong, but then theres the question a true friend will help anyway they can, so wouldn't it be a friendly thing to do to loan them money? what do you think about this? i would like to take this time to thank everyone for taking the time out of your day to come by and read and review my discussion and hopefully answering, and trying to help me, and i hope that you all have a great day and night tonight, thanks again for taking the time to stop by.
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15 responses
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I think before you give/loan/ect money to anyone there's one thing you should keep in mind. Can I give them this money without getting back? Truthfully, if someone needs it that bad, and the bigger the amount, they probably won't pay you back. If they do it will take them a long time. I think people are open hearted when they give money, but cold and have deadlines on when they want it back. I also think people lend money and think ok at this moment in time I can give you 1,000. However, next I NEED it back. So, here you go. Then the month comes, the loaner is in the hole and mad. So, I think when you loan money it should never be something you can't afford to loose. I also think you should be straight forward and tell the person when you want it back. So, if you vcan do that, money won't ruin your relationships. If you can't, don't loan it.
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@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
24 Nov 08
i agree i think that you should be prepared to not get the loan back that way you don't get disappointed either way and i think thats the best thing, thanks for taking the time to reply!
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• United States
25 Nov 08
Yeah, I think it spares feelings/ No problem. :)
• China
25 Nov 08
you are right!
@Anne18 (11029)
24 Nov 08
I don't loan any of my friends money.. mainly because I only have just enough money to go around as it is. I would also never borrow any money from a friend just in case I couldn't pay it back when I said I would.
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• China
25 Nov 08
you are so othodox ! I like the style of you!
@srikool (936)
• India
25 Nov 08
hi frined..this is a very nice question..life is very tough one to live..in these like conditions..we have to maintain a good relationship with all our friends..for that we have to avoid giving money to them..and also getting from them..then we can maintain our friendship somewhat easy one..i want to keep this in my life..if you are earning means no problem..here else it will create much problem..i have a experince aboutt this..have a nice time wiht mylot
• China
25 Nov 08
I have ever loaned my friends money several times and they paid me back. If you trust your friend, why you not lend it? If you are the man in trouble, what would you think your friend refuses to loan you money who has the ability to do. So if you never help others, who would like to help you? Maybe it would be some different when there is a debit and credit relationship between you and your friend, but I think if you are the true friends you won't mind it. Take it easy! But on the other hand, if you loan a large number of money, don't forget to write a receipt for the loan. There is a common saying in my country: financial matters should be settled clearly even between brothers. I think your true friend would like to do this. That is my opinion. Good luck!
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• India
25 Nov 08
i dont mind lending to my friends. i dont demand them back unless am so desperate for money. infact i does not ask for return, but i lend from them and it has no connection to the money i gave to them. upto now i havent felt anything bad about it. it happens. life is all about sharing...
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• United States
25 Nov 08
money the root of all evil have that name for a reason and that is why they even had a saying that don't mix friendship and business because when it comes to money any game can play. just something to think about o.k.
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@jsitko (1169)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I know they say that a friend should never loan money to a friend. If a friend called me right now and was in need of money I would there for them to help them out. Most of my friends have helped the others out in time of need, If you are a true friend, you will help and you will also pay the monies back. I was stiffed by one person I thought was my friend a few years back and learned my lesson on friendship. The friends in my circle now are trust worthy and are always there for each other, in good and in bad.
@glords (2614)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I have a slightly different opinion on this matter. Don't lend money to friends who already owe you money... and here is my reasoning. If you keep loaning money to a friend you are a doormat. A doormat is something you use without regard to its feelings, and if your friends constantly use you... well they aren't really your friends. Also if someone already owes you money, they are not progressing. Instead of realizing "hey, I need to find a way to pay my debts." they think "hey, Im okay I've got in under control." So they aren't learning or becoming better people who are able to solve their own problems. Its the same idea of giving a man a fish and he has dinner, teach him to fish and you feed him for a life time. Help your friends the first time and the second time tell them to "GO FISH"
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@augustm (23)
• Belize
25 Nov 08
Thank you, and I think that once you loan your friend money it comes from the heart because you are showing them that you care about them, It will be up to them if they to be a friend to and pay you back.
@mengrufa (239)
• China
25 Nov 08
Most of the time, we are willing to help our true friend without hesitation when they have difficulties in doing sth. And i will spare no effort to help him with the problems if need. A friend in need is a friend indeed.
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• India
24 Nov 08
well u can give him! my friends owe me n i knw they will pay me.. or even if they dont.. its not a big amount u hve to b careful with the big amounts
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• United States
24 Nov 08
It depends on what kind of person you are and what kind of person your friend is. You may have the kind of friends that don't always ask for money and when they do, they always pay you back on time with no complaints. While other people may have friends that always need money and either never pay them back or complain about paying you back. I loaned a friend of mine money once, and he didn't want to pay me back, which kind of pissed me off because he use to borrow money from other people and would pay them back without any problems. It also depends on the kind of person you are, because you might be a kind, giving person who doesn't mind loaning out money.
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@Iliaaz (357)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
Hi there, Actually I am a bit choosy about lending money to others.If my friend is trustworhty enough then I will consider to lend him/her some money,in a big amount. If it just about $1-$10, I don't mind.I learned a lot from my past.Last time during my study, a friend of mine ask me to lend him some money,I gave him without a doubt because I know he is my friend.Surely he will pay me back on time,I thought.However,it happened vice versa,it takes about a year to get my money back.As a matter of fact,it is hard to ask him pay me back.Luckily,i paid already because he is my friend.
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• South Korea
25 Nov 08
if yu think the friend is the important thing than money, loan as long as you can afford that , and then don't think he will pay you back. if you can't afford that, don't loan. if i am rich , i'd like to loan my friends money.
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• Italy
25 Nov 08
I think that there are no friends when there are business...then the same when we have money it is already difficult with the family,alone with friends... bye by kriss