Do you believe that people really fall in love online?

.....feeling it, believing in it, loving it....  - Love is beautiful. We have to feel it.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
India
November 26, 2008 4:30am CST
Love varies from person to person. When asked about their definition, people will give different answers, because they perceive it differently. So it depends on US actually. To me, I fall in love with a person's personality, his wit and intelligence, and how he makes me feel. So, as much as I would like to believe in falling hopelessly in love after meeting the person when it is hard to find one online, it could be other way round as well. It depends and love happens! I have a friend who married her penpal. On those days it was in vogue and they are very happy since. Have you guys ever been in love online and thought of living together happily ever after?
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@balasri (26577)
• India
26 Nov 08
I have been attracted towards them, felt a pleasure at their presence, missed them when they are not around, obediently replies to all their letters, always happy that I met them, I share my moods and taste with them, I treasure them, wrote poems and always on the look out for them. Though it sounds like falling in love isn't it more divine than love and living together? I still think that there are some relationships that have more love and affection than the conventional love and marriage.
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
26 Nov 08
bala I think any relationship which is love but yet called by name of care is beautiful relationship.....Love is always beautiful if it is within certain boundaries...love which is nameless, gives deep pleasure and we must not end this pleasure by tying up love into relations. Mimpi and Bala did you understand anything.......I am sure not........nor did I.......ha ha ha ha.....
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@balasri (26577)
• India
26 Nov 08
Samaj gaya Apsaraji.
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
27 Nov 08
Main Samjh gaya apsata jee wants love in "Boundaries"" RIGHT
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
26 Nov 08
Hi Mou Hope u must be doing well Love, Lust, Likking and gettuing used too of some thing are 4 differnt feelings, its very fine line which is differntiating them and again its its very hard to judge them equally. Its all perception of one person and it can be wrong, they might be liking some one but think its Love, The might be used too of some one and think its Love, as in all cased when that person or thing is not around, u miss it. sames goes with Lust, its so forceful that it dont let u think and hold ur all senses. So all i want to say that u might like that person or get used to of it, but sure thats not enough to fall in love or have some relation, for this u need to see each other, which means that phase of online is still there but its not ur mind now but u want to see. then u want to meet each other, which means its no more online Wish u all rthe best
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
26 Nov 08
Ha ha ha........Today I am not understanding anything...first I did not understand what I was writing and now I don't understand what you are writing.......
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@balasri (26577)
• India
26 Nov 08
Kyoon Apsaraji?Koi naya penpal mil gaya?
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
27 Nov 08
Hi Apsara jeeee its Ok every thing is not to understand i told u its fine line to understand it aur yeah bala jee kis penpal ki baat ker rahe hain
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@Beruang (1309)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
I am a true believer that we can really fall in love online. I said that because I am married to my wife whom I met online. It started when I accidentally bumped into her blog and then I read on of the entries that I found interesting and then I left my comment for the post. From that point onwards, we were visiting each others blogs and leaving comments from time to time until one day we decided to take our relationship further by going to online chatting via YM. It was great chatting on YM and then we made it move further by exchanging phone numbers and chatting with video camera so that we could see each other. After a few months, I made a decision to visit her. She was from a different country but then it was not that far away. It's only 2 hours flight. So I went over to meet her in person and starting from there we were exchanging visits. Finally we made the decision to get married as it would be costly for us to keep on flying to meet up when we missed each other. Now we are still happily married and we already have a son who is 19 months old. So, love can happen online! We just have to believe it. Cheers!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
27 Nov 08
I am so glad that you have found your love. Internet is just a medium , it could have been through any other medium as well. as long as love , understanding, trust are there - nothing can come in between. When isn't much of true love, we kinda blame what could have beens. My love for the new born. And you all have a wonderful life.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
27 Nov 08
Congratulations to you both. How long were you 2 online friends before meeting? How long after meeting the first time did you get married? And who moved for the marriage etc? How long have you been married now? Just curious is all. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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• China
27 Nov 08
Congratulations!I believe love can happen online.My roommate will be married to his boyfriend 9 months later.She met his boyfriend online.
@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
26 Nov 08
Mimpi.....online love is like a fever.......In this fever temperature raises with full speed and then falls down with the same speed leaving you in agony of pain, shattered and for the first time you open your eyes wide and see the reality of life.......and then you know you are matured.......and you smile at your silly behaviour and try to forget it.......not easy.....but it is better to forget such baseless relationship. Jo dektha hai woh hota nahi, jo hota hai woh dikhta nahi.....it is all complicated.......never fall into such relationship. Online relation is good at the limits of friendship.......pure friendship. This is my opinion, but may be some are lucky like your friend.....have a nice day dear.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
27 Nov 08
Yes Aps dear..I fully agree with you...I am not much for such serious online relationship.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Nov 08
I agree somewhat. When and if only it's online and with no intention of getting the physical (in the sense of meeting the person) aspect of it then it's certainly baseless. people, either of them are having fun. I have no respect for such relationships.
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
26 Nov 08
Hi mimpz! I'm not sure of this, as I don't know any person that fell in love online! But I saw some stories here on mylot that they met their love one online, so it may be true that people can fall in love online. As for me I never fall in love online. I'm like you, I fall in love with my husband personality and his intelligence, which I don't have much, lol. Have a nice day, dear.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
27 Nov 08
Yeah Cjay. I believe that only and through online it's less probable. People could meet online but the maturity of the relationship can only be possible through proper rendezvous in person.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
27 Nov 08
Hi Mimpi....congratulations for starting such an interesting discussion.....Well falling in love depends on how people perceive what love is all about,as you have righty observed.Personally my association in online intraction is limited to mylot.....I have made a lot of friends of both genders in mylot,and I love interacting with them and even share my personal thoughts and secrets with some.....But unfortunately ()I started online interacting at a late stage in my life,and has thus lost a valuable chance to experiment with the "falling in love and living together happily" part of it....()..... But generally speaking,yes falling in love is quite easy in online interaction,and and especially for youngsters ,but making it happen and living together afterwards has not been as successful for many.For there is a wide world of difference when we step out of our online world into our real world......For in the online world only our minds are involved.But in the real world,the other senses (like sight,smell,hearing,touch) etc also get involved,which add an entirely new dimension to relationships.........So some may succeed and some may fail.......
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
27 Nov 08
Very well said Mithra Jeee Kia baat hea aap ki And other thing, trust me, its not that LATE
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
27 Nov 08
Tut..tut....cupie......laghta hai tumhaim nari sakthi ki pitayee ki sak saroorath hai......Where is my stick?where r u Aps?
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
27 Nov 08
ha ha ha.........Rose.......looks like cupid lives only on hopes gori nahi to kali chalegi garwali nahi toh sali chalegi..... as long as she is female cupid...you are under arrest for hoping such illegal hopes...... and unfortunately jailer is Rose this time........bad time for you.....lol
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
26 Nov 08
I see each of respondent has a different story to tell. Some are in agreement that one can fall in love through on-line mode, while some are of the view that it may not be true. Frankly speaking, till the time I joined mylot, I did not have any serious experience of developing relations on-line. However, as the time passed here, I realised that I have developed very good rapport and relations with some of the dear friends here and they are as nice as my real life friends. I think, those who are serious on finding a partner may get their dream fulfilled through on-line mode.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
27 Nov 08
Hi Dpk jee did I hear a sigh escape from your lips after you typed this comment......Dont tell me you have some unfulfilled dreams with you?
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
27 Nov 08
Rose! LOL! At this juncture, I do not have any unfulfilled dreams. I am very happy with my life.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
28 Nov 08
Thanks for the clarification DpK,and have a good day........
@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Hiya! Like you said it is up to the individual if they would fall in love with someone they met and interact with online. I think they do meet online and maybe there's that attraction of their personalities since we dont get to see people at their face values. We already get to see whats on their mind and how they think through the posts, the words they use, and the manner that they type or send them. But if these people didnt meet up and really see for themselves in reality if something is worth working out on and they are still in love after getting to know most of what the person is about intellectually, physically, and emotionally, then they really are in love. Since most of the time when people say they fall in love with a person online, it would seem that they have fallen in love on how they perceive the person to be. Its just the impression that they fell in love with and not the actual person. Once this impression is gone or is broken by getting to know the person in real life then they'd fall out of love. WEll, for me I can say that I havent fallen in love online. I do love people especially those who have become my friends either offline or online.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Nov 08
Hiya! Love is a strange thing! The most unpredictable thing, I guess, You never know why, when and how we can fall in love! Online love could be dubious and we might end up with a heart break. Unless we meet the person personally and get to perceive HIM/HER with his/her quirks, mannerisms and all those matter, we can never be sure. On the other hand, in today's era of internet, it's easy to confide in someone we meet online and then personal interactions face to face could prove to be a worthy relationship. There is no assurance that we would NOT be duped even out of the most perfect relationship apparently!
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@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
It is indeed easier to confide in someone online. Its gives the person the sense of anonymity and thus the confidence that who we were talking to wouldnt really know who we are. They can be objective in giving their opinions and advice since they only know the story that we shared and not all of the past that we have endured. It is still best to be careful in anything though.^_^
@riyasam (16582)
• India
26 Nov 08
i think it is just infactuation.people fall in love with the personality projected but the truth may be otherwise.ofcourse there are lot of sucess stories,your friend is one of them. i had actually fallen in love with a person whom i had met online.thank goodness i came to my senses and realised my foolishness before it was too late.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
27 Nov 08
I am sorry to hear that. Indeed if requires something more than that to be in love. We need to meet each other in person, talk, watch and get to the within, isn't it. Don't be upset though, it was for the better.
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
27 Nov 08
i was really good i realised it early.we are friends now,i have never met him.
@kaka135 (13444)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
I do believe that people really fall in love online, as I have friends really fell in love with someone they met online. Some of them have got married, some broke up. As for myself, I haven't meet anyone I love online.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
27 Nov 08
Love is unpredictable, you never kind of know before hand. Thanks.
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• Philippines
30 Nov 08
It depends upon the person...
@cybersoft01 (1287)
• India
3 Dec 08
Yes, I do think people fall in love online. When you chat with someone on a regular basis for hours there are chances that you will fall in love. Its normal. I myself did fall in love but lost my love for certain reasons.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
4 Dec 08
I am sorry to hear that and that could have been otherwise also and has little to do with online love. thanks.
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• United States
27 Nov 08
I haven't, but I believe I've seen it happen. I met a young woman from overseas through some postings on a message board a few weeks ago. She's planning on coming to the US soon and is looking for friends to help when she gets here. Through our email correspondence she's become more and more attached to me. She says she's thinking about me all the time, she's telling her family about me. None of this bothers me at all, I welcome the boost to my ego. But at the same time I'm not feeling the same things she is. Still though, from the times that I was in love, I was always thinking about that person. I always wanted to be with that person. Now we haven't actually met each other yet, but she seems to be thinking less about coming to the US now, and more about meeting me. I wouldn't say she's quite in love yet, because we barely know each other, but then again, I can see very easily how with a little more time spent getting to know each other, even online, where she might fall in love, where I might fall in love back, without ever coming face to face with one another. So yes, I think its possible, and I think it's happened before. With so many outlets online to meet and actually get to know each other like Second Life, and I've even heard stories of marriages over WoW, I don't see how it wouldn't eventually happen.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Nov 08
That's so well explained! We get a closer opportunity to talk, confide and kind of can get uninhibited. This bring two like minded together and there renains a strong possibility in liking a person which can mature through face t face personal meetings. Thanks.
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• India
26 Nov 08
Forgive me Mimpi, if the following lines look harsh, but that's the way i perceive how i look love of today's world. There is no real love in this world nor can we expect it, as at all times it is epoched with mastery of selfishness and sluggishness. What people call it as love in the modern times often ends with full filling of sensuous feelings, also it ends when the surfacing of ego, to any one of the person involved in the context, and the love shown till date vanishes.. hey you go in your way.. and myself in my own way. But is that what the definition of true love is ? And it goes beyond that.. surpasses all bodily attachments, dissolves the most often epicentered ego in humans..and surely it must stand the test of time. Loving a person when they love us is not a real thing.(i mean the fallacious love) But we must love them in situations when they really hate us to the core,and this i believe is the true love, and till date i am yet find one like this. So, after all these long sermon, needless to tell you what i think of online love. ~~~~~~~~~Help Ever, Hurt Never; Love All, Serve All~~~~~~~~~~~ P.S: One thing Mimpi, At 99 out of 100 times, i can not get my online connection right ( server problem) and how could i get connected with an " e-love"( i mean online love)...heheee..
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
27 Nov 08
Saivenkaat you just took me to a utopian world. I am sorry, that this doesn't exist anymore! The majority do not know what does it mean in the true sense of the term! The platonic love that harps on spirituality, the connection between souls through spiritual bind doesn't exist. We have turned into self centered species whose only aim to receive something and give something on return. I just hope that you get you love. It's not impossible for even though a countable few but it's still there who are waiting for good people like you. Blessed be.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
26 Nov 08
Not in the truest sense of the word, no. I believe that peoople can definitely form solid emotional attachments to others and the foundations for a promising relationship through online contact only; but true love will only come once all other pieces of the puzzle have been put together such as meeting in person, learning to deal with each other as humans with a face etc. I have never been in this situation myself but do know people that have been. One of my closest friends in Australia got married last month and he and his wife met online. I have another friend in Singapore that met his wife online too! In both cases, friendship and then romance blossomed on certain levels over the internet; but it wasn't until they met personally and discovered each other further in a real-world sense that things heated up to the point of true love and then marriage plans. As far as I am concerned, anybody that would "fall in love" online and then fly to someone for the sake of getting married quickly should really take a back step and plan a marriage for a future date and not an immediate one. It is in their best interests to test the waters in a reality sense first I feel. People are not always going to be exactly the same online as they are in real life, so it's wise to cover all the bases.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
27 Nov 08
That's my viewpoint as well. We need to have personal, face to face interactions over a period of time to get to the essence of LOVE. Many times, we confuse it with INFATUATION and and get to a quick decision and regret later. True love needs involvement, knowing each other, getting within the person and loving that self. It requires TIME and personal discoveries to reach to the maturity. Thanks James.
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@moneymaya (901)
• India
26 Nov 08
I am not agree with this but I would not deny totally since exception is every where but according to me measurly it may happens due to matching the similar thoughts ,through online you can just know his/her thoughts only but life is not just thoughts, and suppose you attract through thoughts then what about love, if once you can fall in love through only thoughts that It may happens again at that condition how do you control your love , and if you are again having same feeling then I think that its not real love ...
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Nov 08
well said...
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@23uday (2998)
• India
26 Nov 08
HI FRIENDS Yeah no one can say when we fall in love.We meet so many people online,but rarely find true people.I dont believe much about online love.Because a person can pretend what they are not.we cannot really judge out a person's character. When we meet person in real,then we can makereally sensible decisions,we can actually figure out ,what kind of person they are.But sometimes we do stumble,on real kind of relations.But its really very rare.But i know some people,who met online,fallen in love ,married and now broke up.Trust and true love matters more in a relation. Bye!!!!!!!!!
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Nov 08
I agree with you there but breaking up is happening otherwise as well!
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@alokn99 (5718)
• India
26 Nov 08
Most certainly they can fall in love online. People may percieve the concept of falling in love differently, but i doubt that they would disagree on what being in love means. I say this because i believe that when you love a person you love them in totality and for what they are . Here are some reasons i believe that you can fall in love You get to know the way the person thinks which i believe is one of the most important things You get to know the likes, the dislikes, thier sense of humour,thier interests You can see them in a two dimensional way a snap or webcam... You can hear them today thanks to voice chat A lot of inhibitions are done away with when you communicate with a person online The time taken to know a person in these respects when it comes to online is much faster than when you fall in love with a person in real life. And as you have put it rightly Mimpi it's the way the person makes you feel, and i think that is most certainly possible online. Here again there may be those who say that it would be easy for people to fake it and things like that. But i think that this will show itself up over a period of time. The reason I say that it is possible to fall in love is because it is an evolving process. Going through this part of it online and then meeting and being together with person in real life i believe then progresses the relationship to the next level.
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@derek_a (10903)
26 Nov 08
I don't know about falling in love with a person on line, but on the way we have created that person in our own minds. If someone writes in such a way that is "ticks all our boxes" for what we consider to be a perfect person, then we could feel as if we love that person. Meeting them off-line and spending time with them though, could quite easily change our minds. The mind is very powerful in this respect. :-)
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
28 Nov 08
Great response there! You have got my thoughts right derek.
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@bellebads (741)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
i don't believe in falling inlove online maybe the right thing to say is getting attracted to a person. love can't easily develop between too persons it takes time to have it. maybe if you already meet the person and you already know her/him inside out, from there love will start to develop.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
28 Nov 08
That's how I believe as well. we have to have personal interactions face to face in order to know the person fully and get in love with. Thanks for your response.
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• Singapore
26 Dec 08
not sure you remember my past post here in myLot, but i met my hubby online 2 years ago online. i find it easier to get to know each other online, to be able to get to know each other via msn/yahoo messenger, webcam rather than spend boring and long dinners..hehe...i was still at malaysia at that time, and he was in singapore....we go on really well and as he always say, we complete each other....
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
26 Dec 08
You would not believe that I have been thinking of yo guys when I started this post! It worked so well for you two and I get that you have tied the knot, hoping to go for a great honeymoon. Wish you more love dear. Smile always.
• Singapore
26 Dec 08
really? that's so sweet of you!!! hehee....the wedding was on 23rd and 24th November 08...so we just celebrated our 1st month anniversary on Christmas Eve hehe...but no honeymoon yet.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
26 Dec 08
That's so good to know Eunice! When are you planning your honeymoon? Share some snaps, if you can.