Do you stay in touch if they live in a different state? Or does the friendship

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
November 26, 2008 9:22am CST
fade over time? I have a very good friend. We have been friends since high school. My hubby, he and I were even roomates for a while. Then my friend made the decision to move to Indianapolis for a fresh start. At the time, my hubby said that we would grow apart and the friendship would end. It hasn't ended. Maybe changed a bit. We speak on the phone at least once a month(sometimes more) and see each other with our families 1 or twice a year. I spoke to him last night to wish him a happy holiday. Do you find it easy or difficult to maintain long distance friendships?
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• India
27 Nov 08
All this depends on the friends. Today a friend called me up...after a year!! :) He says he will keep in touch. LOL!! It all depends on the individuals and how often they keep in touch. If people don't keep in touch, naturally there is no friendship. Cheers and happy mylotting
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@williamjisir (22903)
• China
27 Nov 08
Hello ersmommy. I try to stay in touch, but it is not easy for us to see each other. A call once in a while is a must to maintain the friendship so as not to let it fade over time. But anyway I think that so long as both have each other in the mind, friendship always exists however far it is between each other. Good day, friend.
• China
8 Dec 08
Thank you so much for the best response, ersmommy. Happy posting.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
3 Dec 08
It all depends on how hard someone is willing to try really and how much they try to keep in contact. It can't be easy but if both try both ways then it makes it easier and it will change but still stay strong. I have lost touch with all my friends in school days. I lost touch after I got married and they still went on to finish schooling. AM I sorry this happened yes because I felt some were closer then my own sisters or brothers. I would jump at the chance to see them again. But alot of things have changed I have changed..I no longer have my rose colored glasses on and life hasn't been as easy as I thought but I survived and I want to catch up on all their lives see how many have kids and married.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
28 Nov 08
Hello ersmommy. I am so glad that you still keep in touch with each other by making a call to each other once a month to have your friendship move on and on, which is a very nice way that I need to learn from. Good day.
• United States
26 Nov 08
I have not had the greatest luck with friendships over a distance. I would suppose that sours my expectations when people move away. Sometimes you can keep in touch, but for me this seems to be the exception rather than the rules. Traditionally, when you move away from home, you lose touch. For example, I have never been to one of my class reunions.
@luminouz (32)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I don't find it difficult at all. My best friend and I have been friends since high school. Even after I moved away we still kept in touch. Granted, it wasn't as often as either of us would like, but we were still "best friends". Up to now, we're in different states, both mothers, she's even my oldest son's God-mother. And today, with great thanks to the expansion of technology, we chat almost everyday on the Blackberry messenger. I feel friendship, whether it's long distance or close, will last so long as both parties value that friendship equally. I don't believe that "friends will come and go". If I call someone a "friend" they will hold that title in my life and in my heart forever. Friendship is a wonderful thing. I am happy that you and your friend still in touch after all these years and I wish you many, many years of great friendship!