is your house a showplace?

@bunnybon7 (36537)
Holiday, Florida
November 26, 2008 1:01pm CST
here my rant. when i lived with my daughter, the place was a mess she had 3 kids and would not teach them to put up anything or take care of anything. jackets, shoes, and toys laid where ever they were thrown. cans of pop sometimes got spilled and ruined things...uuuggghh! when i got my own place, it stayed clean and i made them be careful when they came by. but, i'd sit a few minutes after eating before dishes were done and anyone was allowed to sit anywhere they liked. stuff wasnt new but comfy. it looked "LIVED IN" now im at my sons and his live in fiance has a house here like in the magazines. everything is cleaned right away, everything has to be put in its place. her couch is worth a lot of money so she dont like you sitting on it its driving me nuts, but im learning so, is your house like this? are you picky about every little thing?
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I'm more like you...i like things neat and clean but my place has used but comfortable furniture etc. I'm pretty laid back. I had my grandkids here today and they were pretty darn cluttery. I just dealt with it as I don't have them often and I know that at home they would never get away with it. If I had them each day, I'd be different. If I were living in someone elses home...I'd just go along with how they are as it is their place not mine. I think if I were in your shoes, I'd just bite my tongue on the daughter-in-law being so particular. I think if I actually worked and saved for an expesive piece of furniture, I'd be a bit protective also. Beyond all that...she is sweet to let you stay there and not give her sone a hard time about it.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
well, it is my sons house and they asked me to give up mine so we could go in 3rd's on bills because of the economy. i have my 2 rooms and supposedly can do as i will in them. so, we will see.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Oh, I see. That does make it a bit tougher since you are doing them a favor really. It sounds as if you are all paying equally and it's too bad that you don't feel comfortable there. How long do you figure you'll be there? Anyway...advice still is the same...bite your tongue & maybe do some venting on here. I have been in homes that are so perfect that I'm very uncomfortable so I can imagine how you feel. Good luck and hope it gets better for you soon.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Actually, I just re-read your original post....what in the world is the point of having a couch that you don't want people to sit on?
@messageme (2821)
• United States
27 Nov 08
ok my house is a mess! I try to teach my kids to hang their coats up, put their shoes away. They just don't care and it DRIVES ME NUTS!! I tell them over and over everything they have don't go on the floor, but for some reason they can't seem to understand that. No matter what it is in their hands they think it needs to go on the floor!! I know exactly what you mean, but the sad thing is it's my house! I do try to teach them, but they just don't get it through their heads. I am a step mom to three of them and I think their main problem is they were never made to clean up after themselves before and the mother didn't clean either! Yuck! I ask them to do one little thing and they act like it's the end of the freakin world. I could go on and on :) but i will stop. Happy mylotting and Happy thanksgiving!!
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yep but at least you have kids and you try.
@GhostCat (313)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Being a step mom can be real difficult, especially if you only have the kids part time and you have other children that are in your home full time. This can be real difficult to enforce rules. Keep. Trying. Remember they hear everything you say. The best teaching tool is by example. Keep heart. You have our support. Good luck. Hope you had a happy Thanksgiving. Happy mylottting.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
28 Nov 08
We actually have the kids all the time. But everyone of their moms family and her treat them like they are babies so that is how the act. Don't think they have to listen...Even when they are at home all the time.
@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Nope. Like you, I like my house to look "lived in" but clean. I teach my son even in an early age to pick up after himself. And, I'm also teaching my husband that, too!I like things to be in their right places, but I can tolerate a little mess. Especially when my husband is the perpetrator.. My husband brought some of his friends to our house for an overnight stay. And they told him that they were very comfortable. And I was glad to hear that. I don't want our guests to feel uncomfortable, thinking that their every move is closely watched. And speaking of the couch, I remember my aunt. She had this big comfy couch and everyone was welcome to sit on it. The thing was, she totally refused to take off the plastic covering. So, anyone who sat on it, kept sliding and couldn't sit in a comfortable way.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
27 Nov 08
Well my mother taught all of us from a very youing age that we had to pick up after ourselves. If we didn't put our dirty clothes in the landry, then she could not wash them butshe would also not allow us to go out in dirty clothes. There was the dilemna for us - either put our dirty clothes in the laundry and niot be able to go out till we washed them ourselves. lol Your home sounds ver much like the one my partner and I have. That is the home is clean but not always neat which gives it that "lived in" feeling. Family and friends feel comfortable when they visit and that is the way it should be too. Keep training your husband and he will learn. If all else fails, you could always try the method that my mother sed for us. lol
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@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
well its not my hubby, its my son and hes always been taught pick up and keep clean, its just that his fiance here is fanatical about it
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@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
26 Nov 08
Each home is different. My mom loves her living room...it looks more like a museum rather then a living room. haha however, we let visitors sit on it. If it`s just the family members, we would spend more time in the family room where the couches are less fancy. But everything is clean and neat. My boyfriend is the opposite. he`s messy and not organized. But after his mom came back from the long trip, things are back to their places :P
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
well yes, that is as it should be if theres a place to visit and feel comfortable. like my grandmother whos floors you could eat off of as the saying goes. but everyone could sit and visit as they pleased and usually in the kitchen.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
but this kitchen has a glass table with center peice and special place settings that come off when we eat and is replaced with care after.
@Rosekitty (19441)
• San Marcos, Texas
9 Jan 09
A month ago but still works.. I liked my house clean but when i have my grandbabies over everyday it wasn't worth the stress of worrying over them so now its semi clean..meaning i make them clean up but the baby is 1 and drops things so after they leave i let the dog eat the leftovers on the floor and then i clean up..the couch becomes the monster couch and they love playing on it and giggling..Kids will be kids for a short time..the couch was bought to sit or play on.. huggs for you
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jan 09
thats the way i always was when my kids were all growing up. i never bought expensive showy couches. just something that was sturdy and would last. or one that was given me.
@glords (2615)
• United States
7 Jan 09
Yikes... a couch that isn't for sitting on, now that just sounds crazy. My house is not a show place at all, though I try to keep it picked up. I would say it is a messy home, not a dirty home. Right now, I'm sitting on the couch next to a phone book and my husbands shoes are on the floor. So there you go, messy... but not dirty.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jan 09
thats my way exactly. we are still working it out and we compromise now. i keep things pretty much how i want in my rooms.
@my2boys (821)
• United States
7 Jan 09
I wish that I could keep my house like that. Between my kids and my husand i am constantly cleaning and my house is never completely clean all at once. I think that if i lived by myself my house would be neat because i like or things to be clean but I am a pretty laid back person. I wouldnt go as far as to not want anyone to sit on my couch. That's what it is made for.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jan 09
i know isnt it crazy?
@polachicago (19075)
• United States
3 Dec 08
My house is for me and my comfort. I include my pets comfort as well. My house is not a showcase and I don't have a mess around, but I am not going crazy over cleaning....I do care about clean floors and I clean it every other day (because of pets), but as far as organizing, I am not perfect...
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Dec 08
yep. thats exactly how iam. very well put
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Heck no..my house is lived in..I don't do the dishes right away but I do them. I don't make my bed as soon as I get up or start cleaning as soon as my eyes open. My house is clean but lived in..might be a book or sweatshirt here or there but that means it is just there when it is needed. It would drive me nuts to live in a totally clean house...wait till she has kids..things will change.even if just a little.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Dec 08
exactly. the only problem is, he has an older woman liveing here that has kids grown and will not have more. oh well. im adjusting
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Hi bunnybon. I'm a neat freak myself and like my place tidy, clean and organized..BUT..it's not sterile looking with that "don't touch this or that" type of atmosphere...it's "lived in too. I'm one of those "sensitives" meaning I can pick up on vibes of a place that I visit especially a person I don't know well. If I pick up that a home is "sterile" kind of feeling and not warm, I usually will find out later that the person living there isn't particularly "warm" either. I often watch shows that showcase famous people's homes and I'm thinking to myself..do these people actually live there? Nothing out of place, and looks like a museum rather than a place to hang out and actually live in
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
im the same way. and i believe that also. i read once that people like that...sterile/fancy looking, have a problem emotionally about not having enough control with their life and do this to compinsate
• India
27 Nov 08
Well, lol, you sure seem to have had a variety of experiences with the way people keep house. Mine is ok..comfortably untidy. With four animals romping around, which house will remain neat? However, it doesn't look like a pigsty either. I think you will be happy here, bunny!! Cheers and happy mylotting
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
well, maybe with my 2 rooms
@gemini_rose (16193)
27 Nov 08
I wish I was, but I am so not! Dont get me wrong I like clean and tidy but it never stays that way in my house, not with four kids. I think that it will be better when the kids grow up a bit and learn to keep things clean but at the moment I just have to do the best that I can!
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
i know when mine were little it was hard to even teach them to pick up their toys but they had to.
• China
27 Nov 08
im also like the clean room,i always do the cleaning of my bedchamber,i hate mess things...
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
well thats good.i like clean. just not fancy smancy
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
27 Nov 08
No, my place isn't a show place. LOL Here we name the dust bunnies. I've told friends that ceiling fans were invented to move the dust to the baseboards. I try and keep it picked up, vacume once a week, dust and so forth, but I don't want a museum. My Dad's place is like that. Its loaded with antiques and immaculately clean. I joked with him the other day that I could eat off his bathroom floor. Hell its probably cleaner than my table is. LOL I even caught him once following behind me wiping out my footprints on the carpet with his foot. You know, how some carpets show every step you take? Well it bugged him, so he would smooth them all out. There is never a single dirty glass or dish in the sink either. I don't know how people can life in places like that. My furniture is comfortable and well worn. I don't worry about people plopping down on it for a snooze - just be warned you'll probably be napping with a dog or cat or two or three.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yes most people with pets do live with an amount of messiness. but this one is even very picky about that. her dog has its bed and gets groomed and she vacumms nearly daily.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
27 Nov 08
Hey bunny! I don't live in a showplace! That would drive me insane! I am presently fixing up my apartment so it will look alot nicer then it has in a very long time and when it is finished it will be comfortable, but not fancy! It will be a place for people to come over and relax and have fun! I don't want my company to be uncomfortable! I would never want a place like that! I bought a slipcover for my couch because I couldn't afford to buy a new one and some new curtains and some other odds and ends to just brighten up the place and give it a kind of different look. But I don't want to live in a "showroom". My parents had a living room like that. That's not for me
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
cool. i have a feeling we are a lot alike.
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
My house is far from being a showplace, but I used to, at least, be neat. However, with a two-year-old bent on mayhem around, I've given up, lol. The day starts with everything in place and I just tidy up at the end of the day. In between, the house looks VERY lived in (by a toddler - there's the difference, lol).:)
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
true. its just us 3 older people here so i shouldnt let it bother me i guess
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
27 Nov 08
I can't say that I'm picky but I do love a clean house. My fiance and I have a house out of the magazines but it is lived in. Well obviously since we live in it. Dishes will sit for a bit after dinner till everyone is done and then I will start doing them. After people leave I tend to have to pull out the vaccuum since apparently some of our friends are pigs and can't eat properly and leave crumbs all in the couches and on the floor. I for one don't want bugs and it to grind into the carpet and get so far into the couch that you can't get out. Not to mention ashes all over the place and I am constantly throwing coasters at everyone cause we have glass coffee tables and I don't like the 1000's of rings that are always on the table so coasters is a must on the coffee tables. I don't like dishes left in the living room and I expect them in the sink. If the sink is full put it next to the sink and not on the stove. When you cook something and something boils over or you spill something clean it up right away. I really don't ask for much I just like to have a clean home. Oh and people who come in with muddy shoes and walk all over the carpet that really ticks me off.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
actually you sound like a comfortable person and clean. im like that. its just that she dont allow people sitting on the couch, etc. and other little things. i believe clean up the stove right away if you spill. its just easier than letting it dry in.
@shooie (4988)
• United States
26 Nov 08
Lived in Living - Surroundings should be comfy and inviting
My house is a comfy place to be...kick your shoes up and curl your feet up on the couch under you. oops here comes a dog to snuggle up beside you. I see it this way furniture can be vacuumed as well. It is nice to see those house that they look like they are right out of a magazine but I don't want it. I prefer well lived in and comfy. My hubby isn't the foo foo type he is country so is all good. To me a room should be inviting
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
exactly. thats the way i like to live. so, its taking adjustment
• United States
26 Nov 08
Hello Bunnybon7 nice to meet you: My house is so clean and organized now and I like it like that so much , I am so strict with the clean and order in my house because it is so important in my live,3 years ago I was living with my sister and nephews in the same house and that experience was so terrible for me because of we had to share many places in the house like that bathroom, the livingroom, the kitchen among others. I was living with her because her husband was working in Medellin for a big company, and My sister did not like it live alone with the babies, but I never thinked that this experience will be terrible for me. My nephews all the time were playing, jumping, and doing all the things than a child do and that is so normal I know, I was a child too, and when I was a child I liked so much play different games everytime and everywhere , but I had a problem , my sister never helped me to clean up the house and I was a kind of "service room" all the time, I was tied to be an slave of my sister and nephews. THen the husband of my siter came back to Ibague , and my siter and him were together again,and I told her: Johanna you must live with Oscar again, he is your husband is the better way ok. She ask me if I was boring with her in the house and I told her !of course! you are so irresponsible and for that reason I prefer live alone again, ok. She told me: Oh my God I am sorry, I am so sorry you are a great brother , so kind and polite and you love so much my babies , thank you. I think, ok it doesnt matter but please back off, back off. At the present time I am living alone in a little flat, its so nice, clean, great and fantastic and the best near to the university, my live is perfect like that, I love it. Bye Bunnybon7 , Good Luck.
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
i think thats great. my late hubby was very clean and organized when i moved in. you would not think he had a bachelor pad. i kept house clean and he was fine with that. altho im not real organized
26 Nov 08
Hi bunnybon7, I have a friend whose house is like a show house, it is so neat and tidy that you are afraid to sit down on her sofa, and when you do she would plump up the cushion behind you and it really annoys me, but my house is not messy but comfy and everyone just makes themselves at home here. Tamara
@bunnybon7 (36537)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
yes that is the same as mine when i have my own place