What will you do if you discover that your husband has another girl?

Philippines
November 26, 2008 5:32pm CST
There are so many times i caught up my husband that he has another girl , sometimes through his phone and sometimes through his emails. Everytime i will talk to him about this matter he will just say sorry for that and he will not do that thing anymore but he still keep doing that thing and he will lie to me not unless i caught her again. what will i do? do i still trust him inspite of what he is doing to me?
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@hildas (3031)
26 Nov 08
I would not put up with this. Once would be enough for me and I would leave him. I think he will always be this way. He sounds like my father and he is near 60 years and still does this to everyone he meets. Thank goodness my Mother lefy him when we where small. I am not telling you ro spilt with him or anything, but I do not think he will ever change his ways. I feel so sorry for you. You must be heartbroken. I would never trust him ever again.
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
yes, actually i really felt so sorry for myself and heartbroken. but i guess right now i really have to talk to him and if doesn't work that's the time i have to leave him.
• United States
26 Nov 08
Wow, if he is continously doing it, then why are you with him. Obviously he doesn't want to remain faithful to you. I would give him an ultimatum, if you don't remain faithful to me then I cannot be with you, I'm sorry. I mean its obvious that he continues to do it because he knows that you will still be there. I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater, I do believe that some people can change. But he's not changing at all. I seriously think that if you want to remain with him then you need to sit and talk with him. I know if that was my husband, we would no longer be together. How can you trust someone who continues to do the same thing that they ought to not do over and over again. You can't. I hope it works out for you. Just talk to him.
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
thank you so much, i guess i really need to sit and talk with him and give him an ultimatum. Iam praying to God that he will give me courage to say what i feel about what he is doing. I love him so much but i also love myself. If he still keep doing that to me after i talk to him maybe that's the time i really have to decide to leave him.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
26 Nov 08
Once a cheater always a cheater. You need to have more self respect and get yourself out of that situation. He obviously isn't going to stop cheating on you. You deserve a better man. My husband already knows it would only take one time. If I ever caught him cheating on me that would be the end of our marriage. I don't care how sorry he says he is or if he promises it will never happen again.
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Thanks for the advice! actually iam planning to go out of country or to stay away from him together with our baby because i really dont know if i could still trust him anymore. But still want to save our marriage for our baby but i dont want also get hurt even more.
@bellebads (741)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
i feel sorry about what your husband is doing to you. why not give him an ultimatum. talk to him and tell him that if you caught him again with other girl you're gonna leave him and bring with you your kids( if you have one). there's no way that he can see your kids anymore. let's see what will be his reaction if your kids are already involve with the issue. i'm sure he'll refrain from cheating you. well this is only my personal opinion i don't tend to offend anybody.